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THE OTHER RULES

How to be in Love with the World (and her)

 

Contents:

Introduction

Chapter 1: Daily Life

Chapter 2: Business

Chapter 3: Dating

Chapter 4: Relations

Chapter 5: Marriage

Chapter 6: Sport

Chapter 7: The Body

Chapter 8: Sexuality

Basis Terms Defined

 

Introduction

There are as many rules in the world as there are men. Each genetic code is in fact a book of rules subtly managing the differences and oneness at the same time of being for all existing. Things go right, things go wrong, always one goes for the rules that by evolution are always 'the other rules'. Time and again the genetic codes are changed by the pressure of adaptation. Always the rules are upgraded for better management so that in fact the rules change in outlook and seem to be different. Despite of always having other rules, loving to adapt to the changing world, there are themes that recur. These themes concern the nature of time, space and matter; God, man and woman; politics, religion and science; fathers, sons and the purity of spirit; differences, oneness and the cultures abridging. Things seem to go in three having a soul aware of the tri-polarity of superego, ego and the dominance of the lower drive. As the world to that seems to consist of four basic cultural options that tend to be in opposition and conflict, the recurrence of the other rules maintains the complete of the reality: North America, Europe, and Australia seem to run on the scientific method, the Middle-East and India on the religious approaches of Lordship, the japanese/asian continent runs on the supreme of politics and Africa and South America on the rhythm of natural living. Not being able to live square to the complete of reality as one is proud of one's own and negligent to the other culture, still the world runs on the triangular pyramid of these four basics of mankind (pict.). We always see reality in three living four alternatives. Therefore the plea of the other rules is to become aware of oneself: to the soul of one's own conscientious contribution to the complete whole of our worldculture balancing political, religious, scientific and natural values. We cannot live without the spark of consciousness we individually are ourselves in the midst of this pyramid of worldculture. Each has his own unique nature and contribution in this full cultural complexity. The Other Rules, stressing the importance of soul and the order of time, are dedicated to the civilian population of the whole world longing for unity and peace at the one hand and respect for the differences of culture at the other hand. With a world living in peace and harmony the rules of the other person, other culture and other time need to be respected. This book is an attempt to sketch a concept of worldorder that can change and still stay the same. Many may recognize their own religion, politics, scientific theory or natural drive in it. To the writer it has been a pleasure to serve the ongoing spiritual soul minding its adaptation to time and place in the light of euro-american scientific ideals, middle-east/indian lordship, asian politics, and the latin/african ecstasies of natural rhythm.*

 

 

Warning: study these rules one by one. To consider this book as a running narrative is a mistake. To study more than a couple of rules at a time is certainly ill advice.

 

Chapter 1: Daily Life 

 

a) As an adult try not to sleep for more than six hours.

b) Always relax as much as you can.

c) Always keep your mind busy.

d) Always think for the sake of the soul.

e) Lead a regulated life.

f) Do your own duty and not that of others.

g) In case of conflict over ruler ship always resort to the impersonal order.

h) Always try to adapt to the environment.

i) Take care of the basic needs.

j) Always set work before the profit.

k) In case of anger seek isolation.

l) In rage never attack people.

m) Always take responsibility for your actions.

n) Try to avoid collecting and keeping.

o) Be loyal to your teachers.

p) Graduate and be your own boss.

q) Respect the authorities and laws of your country.

r) Always dress,shave and clean appropriately.

s) Try to be expert from intuition.

t) Try to cooperate as much as you can.

u) Guard your personal privacy as your life.

v) Stand up for your rights assertively.

w) Always try to be friendly and polite.

x) Stick to your decisions and keep your promisers as much as possible.

y)Do the necessary and do not cause grief.

z) Make a rule and break a rule in guard of your integrity.

 

 

 

 

 

        a) As an adult try not to sleep for more than six hours.

An adult should not sleep for more than six hours. Children sleep considerably more. They lack experience and personal order and get quickly exhausted. Sleeping for more than six hours dulls the nervous system and gives rise to depression and other mental disorder (pict.). People who sleep too much are more susceptible to illusion, need to compensate more as a consequence and have thus less resistance against stress. Compensation goes at the cost of synergy; the energy meant for cooperation and coordination. Adults who sleep for seven, eight hours or more should train themselves in social skills and learn to cling to an orderly life. 

 

         b) Always relax as much as you can.

In a relaxed state one is more aware to the environment and to oneself. Action concentrates the mind within a certain focus of attention. This is needed to do work. Even during work though, one should, so to say, regularly step back to become aware of the greater context of one's activity. Also important is to minimize the use of energy for optimal efficiency. Another expression of this rule is: don't overdo, keep cool, stick to the necessity.

This rule implies the greater importance of reflection. Being less focused to the body and more to the spirit puts a greater stress on the ability to organize one's thought. Only a conscientious person is really capable of a 'cool' style of life. For neglect there is no positive and quiet spirit. A negative and restless spirit means dissatisfaction and disorientation. When e.g. one is hungry and does not know what to do, first proper action should be taken as to alleviate the primary needs of the body and the person in his status (pict.) and orientation (pict.) in life. All healthy reflection is based on this basic security. War for instance is to be recognized as a vicious circle: because of lacking security there is conflict, and because of conflict there is a lack of security. 

 

         c) Always keep your mind busy.

De mind should always be focused on the goal of action which can be defined as service to the underlying order. A wandering mind may discover extraneous influences and affairs, but such speculation open for intuitive suggestion should be submitted to the order of one's life. The hierarchical principle should work internally in awareness of the importance of one's independence and personal choice. Dependence on outside authority will lead to conflict with the mature option. One might not be completely mature in all walks of life, but the option is always there. To break the rules can be considered as an appeal for outside authority as any citizen might remember e.g. with police-intervention. But adolescents biologically lacking maturity, will have to submit to parental authority. The parent is responsible for youth up to the age of 21. Uprooted youth should receive proper guidance from a guardian service or be put under legal custody. 

 

         d) Always think for the sake of the soul.

The underlying order pertains to the reality of the soul which can be defined as the conscientious remembering true spiritual self. One should accept the fact that the body or false, say temporal self, is governed by the spirit and the spirit is governed by the soul (pict.). The order of the soul is defined as God to which there are many names and definitions. As far as the impersonal is concerned one can say that all of the realigning about the soul is stemming from a concept of celibate order representing the wisdom of ancestral holiness. For this purpose one can study holy scriptures of preferably different kinds to ascertain one 's mature option. With one-sided study to this one is caught within one school of thought while the healthy psyche demands a freedom of choice. It is not bad to have chosen, it is bad to be denied freedom of opinion as laid down by democratic law. What is considered good and bad is simply defined linguistically and fixed by legislation. One has to answer to the demands of ones culture. Disagreement about this necessitates political action. This might eventually lead to social conflict and international war. Thus can be concluded that the basic security of proper law and order is of prime importance for a successful life and world-order. Success can be defined as general public contentment with existing law and order containing a low interest in further political action. Since normal non-political individuals cannot make the law themselves, only the concept of personal order is of further relevance.

Rules for personal order are thus considered as service to the soul and God irrespective of one's religious preference. Personal order amounting to compulsive disorder implies an alienation from the soul: in that case the rules pertaining to the soul should be checked. 

 

         e) Lead a regulated life.

There are a few important points to remember here. One should balance; that is to say, rest and activity, social and personal interests, work and leisure should not repress one another. Repression is the prime cause of unconscious action and cultural fall-down. There are always at least two sides to the material truth and mental health demands respect for both. So in general one can say that twelve hours of rest and twelve hours of activity form a good basis for the division of the day. This gives us 6 hours of rest in total to be spent in intervals throughout the day. Normally after sleep and before breakfast one has an hour to get started. During work in the morning as well as in the afternoon it's wise to have a break of half an hour. This leaves one and a half hours around lunch- and diner-time , with one hour to get at ease for sleeping completing the six in total. Work can be done for maximally twelve hours which necessitates further balancing. There is work for the maintenance of the body and mind and work in the care for others (pict.). Provided a fully emancipated society where the autonomy of each mature individual is accepted, one ideally spends 6 hours for the personal body and mind (shopping, cooking, cleaning, reading) and six hours for the others (duty of labor, socializing, appreciating the media together). Besides such a daily routine there should be days of rest to secure contentment, days of study to secure education and days of celebration to secure the need for festivity. Lacking this one will find oneself dropping out of work and society, losing one's education and ability to learn and losing control in breaking out of order lacking festivity (see tables). In regard of repression about time it should also be taken into account that politically fixed standard time ,'work-time', constitutes another consciousness as the awareness to the regularity relative to the position of the sun (pict.). 

 

         f) Do your own duty and not that of others.

This is a tricky point. Nothing as destructive as jealousy and confusion about this. A good division of labor demands clearly defined social roles and according duties (pict.). A housewife or house-man has to work for the maintenance of the children and the home. An outdoors working individual has to maintain the social position of professional orientation and status. But these things are dynamic. They come in phases and also intermingle. Attachment gives rise to a lot of trouble during the inevitable transitions. One cannot always be a student-bachelor, a married spouse, a reorienting withdrawing person or a detached upholder of tradition and old-age wisdom. Also professionally one can change orientation from the intellectual studious, to the governing, to the enterprising and finally toiling vocation. Still one needs to be clear as well as for oneself as for the other, about what one is doing. Without this there will be unwanted confusion and conflict. One has to do one's own thing and one needs to be clear about it. That is the meaning of this rule. 

For an example one may think of the order typical for a planet: the month on this planet takes 30.5 days as part of a year that counts four seasons to the sun. Thus we do respect our nature and earth and do we have duties with it. But if we speak of a commercial labor-week of seven days which not by leaping are linked to that solar month, nor to the lunar month, to what to we belong then with that regularity? Thus is one with an other rhythm oriented on a planet one doesn't even know. Thus is one estranged, if not engaging cosmically disturbed, with something which might a be natural rhythm but which is strange to one's own planet, and waging wars with blaming one another that backward attitude won't be of any avail, thus anyone may know.

 

         g) In case of conflict over rulership always resort to the impersonal order.

Things need to be settled, one has to cooperate. Because of this one is confronted with the expertise and authority of others. Not understanding the why and how of each others position and duty, troubles ensue. As a consequence lots of people get disappointed and estranged. Without consent and agreement people take to unqualified action and the general quality of life diminishes in a more and more chaotic society. In this situation people, out of frustration develop resentment against authority, especially across generations, and autocratic rulership begins to reign with injustice and rebellion against the others.

For the sake of order one cannot say that one rule is better than the other. There is conflict over rulership, and one cannot choose between fighting against and fighting against. Either side gives the same problem. So there is no other solution but to resort to the impersonal. No person will do but the mature person to himself having internalized the diverse authorities. He cannot propose himself as the solution but he can propose the conclusion of the teachings. Putting oneself up leads inevitably to the proof of one's imperfection and limitations. Resorting to the impersonal is then the only practice left over, in fact consisting of positive identifications with the personal. What is important is not to wage against other people, not to become an heretic of whatever kind, but to be convinced of one's order. One can be critical about other forms of order but with the constructive proposition of one's own this is amenable. 

 

         h) Always try to adapt to the environment.

There are two options: the expression of one's own identity and the necessity to conform to the others. In society this generally gives rise to the culture of the formal uniform at the one hand and the culture of individualism at the other characterized by free association and free expression. The dictum of the latter is: thou shall differ, no greater sin than the uniform. Even in the highest circles it is absolutely forbidden to wear the same neck-tie or the same dress. Each grey suit of e.g. the politician is from another tailor and another cloth. Informal dress dominates formal society which in itself is an inconsistency. Individualism can be recognized as a fear of formal identification or a cultural identity-crisis. The fear of the uniform evidently arises from warfare where the military show nothing but the horror of the formal uniform. But It is still the uniform ending the war too. The uniform we absolutely need at least for police and other agents of control. So irrationality and the psychology of trauma seems to reign in this society. It is nice to have your own dress and be informal most of the time, but it is not nice not to be recognized and have no formal relationship confirmed (pict.). Then what to adapt to if we no longer delve in the informal but sincerely express our need for formal identity? To distinguish between what is becoming or not is not enough to answer this question. One cannot escape from defining formal order. This is the true meaning of adaptation. Without it, what to adapt to? 

 

         i) Take care of the basic needs.

Basis needs are food, shelter, clothes, law and order. There are secondary needs as security, love, happiness, contentment, excitement, diversion, exploration and innovation. All these are forms of selfrealization, the common denominator of all human activity. God won't grow houses, clothes and books on trees. For God we may be naked apes in a fools paradise. For the Lord and His representatives, whatever be His name, we would endeavor to be somewhat like Him: detached but cultured, self-aware, but not egoistic. Thus religiously there seems to be a command of humanity in short defined as soulful non-possesiveness. This seems to be the denominator of the religious need. Politically we are in need of our freedom of expression, organization and participation. This secondary need is in one word called democratic, independent of the form of state being republic or monarchic.

For the arts and the sciences the need is doubtful. To be recognized is also psychologically understood. Scientific progress costing billions gives no guarantee of happiness and even offers a risk of war shifting the balance of power. Art and science are more realistic though but belong to the secondary needs of selfrealization which only in case of emergency and service in the interest of the primary needs can be called basic. From this the intellectuals, clergy and enterprising artists have big drawers with secret solutions in case ... we do not know. 

 

         j) Always set work before the profit.

One of the most important rules is to work for the work and not the outcome. Success or failure may not be of any influence on the factual work that has to be done as a duty. There are times of trouble, and times of elation. Whether it is summer or winter, important is that one continues to work. Because we tend to depend upon the stimulation and reinforcement of others, we also tend to refrain from work when the other no longer personally cares about us. Since each and everyone has to follow his and her own way sooner or later we have to continue on our own course. Therefore it is more important to find ones duty than to have this or that outcome as a condition. Another point of interest here is the definition of work. Unemployment is a relative notion. Everyone not doing the job I do is not employed as such. I have my own values about what and how to work. Work done in regard of the soul seems futile for the one running after the profit. On the other hand is going for the profit exactly the way to have no effect in the eyes of the one living for the soul. If one defines success as contentment with one's preferred activity, profitable or not, then the world is liberated from the slavery of its opposing compulsions. 

 

         k) In case of anger: seek isolation.

Sooner or later everyone gets angry upon frustration. No one is without desire, and thus no one is free from disappointment. To withdraw is the ideal strategy for mourning. For the other one has to keep front and integrity. One mustn't let oneself down. Loyalty to the soul is number one. It is the material thing of winning or losing that tempts into the trap of the ego saying I want this and I want that. A possessive attitude does more harm than swallowing some pride.

Isolation is a thing not to be feared. It is the ultimate solution for all problems. Once accepting one's fundamental aloneness in life there is no loneliness anymore: the other is found in one's heart. Being angry clouds this vision of reality. One cannot and must not drive the other from one's heart. There one has to learn to forgive and forget. Remember the good things of the others and fight against the delusion of the eternal negative missing the other physically. It is the biological drive of the body that may not lead astray. As stated above: satisfaction is found in the dutiful, not in the material effect itself. 

 

         l) In rage never attack people.

Once the train of anger is running it is difficult to stop. It is not so easy to let go instantly and have no clouds in the sky anymore. They disappear slowly. When thunder and lightning are storming, people should be on guard against destruction. Then let the storm bring down a tree or a shed. As long as the house is on solid ground and properly founded, the walls won't tumble so easily. Likewise one's personality is to be solid and properly founded in the decision not to harm anyone. It is o.k. to fight with people and show some emotion. But it is bad to give in to attack and destruction. Violence can be a necessity of selfdefence, so: don't attack. Fight with people and not against people.

Practically this means that trust is not lost on the expression of anger in a rage as long as there is no factual attack. Therefore it is words that do the fighting. Physical fighting is the end of reason and can also end the relationship. Even a hopeless attempt to deal with words is in the service of reason. One doesn't have to be reasonable to serve reason. Delirious gibberish is also for the spirit. Nobody believes everything that is said or thought, but everybody believes in physical pain and the necessity to escape from it. Thus, as long as anger turns into words one can stay, when anger turns into physical attack, the game is lost when the previous rule (1k) is neglected. War is the result of the inability to withdraw. 

 

         m) Always take responsibility for your actions.

One can do a lot of stupid things. To get experienced this is even inevitable. The question is who would be to pay for the error. The basic principle is that each is responsible for his own actions. Also non-action is action. Doing nothing can also cause a lot of misery. The profit motive always wants to blame the other which is a disease of material life. Without the rules we cannot solve this problem. Engaged in material action only God is the final creditor and all people are guilty. We owe to the order and not so much to one another. Things always go wrong, since material form is not eternal. Each rule is in demand of the other. Rule 1g implies the impersonal as an outcome in conflict over questions of guilt. When something is not in order, the cause might be that our idea of order itself is not in line with the dictates of the soul. To the concept of order decisions can be taken for the benefit of everyone. Such conclusions can be worked at. Simply to condemn each other won't lead to any other outcome but grief and alienation. It is important to come to conclusions that lead to work for the sake of general progress. Without it one victim creates the other and in such smoldering discontent problems are never really solved with the continual result of recurring warfare. 

 

         n) Try to avoid collecting and keeping.

Possesiveness is a great stumbling block. It is the disease called desire. From possessions one becomes possessed: there is never enough. But you can't get the whole world under control and call it your own. The more you acquire the more you realize this. To have your house as a furniture showroom annex museum for modern technology, annex library and collection of art etc. is a hopeless endeavor. Materialism is a mental illness in the category of the schizoid. Everyone knows that happiness cannot be bought. All you may hope for is a world that is accessible so that, although not the owner, one can be a visitor. The more we want to own, the less accessible our culture becomes. Thus the real question is: how to get rid of this hindrance (pict.) and have an open culture. End of the twentiest century this is still science fiction. There is an internet connecting everyone to everyone approaching the ideal of an open culture. But still everything has to be bought and saved. Then we are still like the Neanderthaler who knew nothing but hunting and gathering. Homo Sapiens is really a different kind. We are to know each other and not to hunt and posses. So by means of state or private enterprise information banks have to be maintained and made accessible to all. It is not possible nor satisfactory to continue on the line of acquiring and keeping. Ultimately television, telephone, radio, stereo etc, books and assorted computer programming, must be handled with one window on the world available to all people. 

 

         o) Be loyal to your teachers.

It is not about names, but about content. Of course, a name is a code that gives access to a certain field of knowledge. But a name is also falsehood: it directs to the material body, and no Lordship keeps the same body. It is no use to cling to this or that bodily concept. Each body of knowledge refers to a way of learning, a school. They form pyramids of hierarchy and access becomes increasingly difficult at the bottom of the hierarchy. Pyramids collapse as belief is exhausted and more needs to be invested than there will be returned. This bodily aspect of teachers and schools belongs to the battlefield of the ego. Ego wages war in the delusion of the power to control and enjoy. Solution to this problem must be and can be the superposition of the impersonal order. It is not to deny the person or the authority, it is to have all subjected to the reality man can't change. If we burn down the whole planet, the earth will still revolve. It is the one revolution that defeats all others. To recognize its order and respect it in its full relativity is a mission of reform, as for the twentiest century man still clings to an ancient Roman calendar and a contorted concept of clock time being a far cry from the natural situation. Loyalty to teachers means to be loyal to the source (pict.) of teaching in the first place: the cosmic reality and soul of all the worlds finding peace with order in the form of time (pict.). 

 

         p) Graduate and be your own boss.

It is good to go to school and subject. It is bad to make it an eternal duty. It is good to change from school to school, it is bad not to have learned to manage your own. So each man and woman want baby's by nature to form their own school of education, although it is not always clear who the teacher is. The great misery of religion and politics is the inability of internalizing the school and integrate that learning with other options of management. This is the real problem: the constant necessity to adopt new information and integrate it. First there is the problem that advanced learners tend to learn less in the practice of their own conclusions, second there is the problem of evolution. How can a school progress without getting uprooted all together. Things go wrong with the transference of knowledge: books become unreadable because of specialization and teachers refuse to accept newcomers with another adaptation but their own. So repeatedly the same phenomenon recurs: people form their own school and authority. This is natural and must be tolerated. This rule implies live and let live: an ill school won't survive the test of time; it normally doesn't need much fighting against. Remember: all attempt to reason can be recognized as service to the soul (1l);as long as a school is there for teaching and not for ruling, each graduate may decide for himself if he learned anything more than to be patient. 

 

         q) Respect the authorities and the laws of your country.

Actually there should be no comment on this rule. It is exactly the desire to constantly amend on the rules why we get into trouble. But the times are changing, not just this century but for ever. Rules need to be adapted and we need to adapt to the rules. This is inevitable. We cannot fix everything and expect it to stay so. After each painting there will be a new one, after each bible a new story of divinity etc. Life goes on and the disease mankind suffers seems to consist of resistance against change more than of suffering the dynamic of material form.

Important here is to have some loyalty to the inheritance of law and order. It is cheap to be a rebel and go against all of 'the system'. To say no is easy, to say yes a bit more difficult. In nature expansion and differentiation is normal. The art is not to lose the soul, the remembrance of what was added to. To stay connected is the mission, whatever novelty we embark upon. Twentiest century television e.g. is like a fast dream. What do we remember, standing up to our own? 

 

         r) Always dress, shave and clean appropriately.

By means of dress, people express their identity. To settle for order in this one has to distinguish between formal and informal dress being not liberated and liberated in service to the order of the rules of some soul saving tradition. Thus there are four kinds of dress: F(ormally) L(iberated), F(ormally N(ot liberated), I(nformally L (iberated) and I(nformally) N(ot liberated) (pict.). IN-group dressing is fashionable and casual clothing. Loose from tradition these people are considered non-liberated. IL-clothing is non-uniform clothing according to the tradition with hats, neck-ties, suits, frocks etc. These people want to be traditional and neat and are all considered to be informally liberated in their traditional love for the individual. FN-people are dressed in uniform: the military, the police, classical musicians, priests etc are considered non-liberated carrying the cross of the old roman-political uniform of time defying the individual. Those who are dressed up formally in service to the order of the rules can express their identity of professional orientation and civil status e.g. by means of color and a band around their neck showing the degree of commitment (pict.) to the order. This latter dress-code is a proposition given as an option here, being science fiction to the twentiest century. The division to professional orientation (pict.) and civilstatus (pict.)is traditional while the uniform is then subjected to the diversity of the individual and the alternate order of time in service of the soul. Thus the consideration as being liberated to classical formality. One may express one's commitment to one's profession in color: dark grey/black suits for academics and priests in the role of advisor/counselor to the interest of the soul, dark-red for the one's in civil service: politicians, officials representing the government in service to intelligence. Light-grey suits for the people in trade and commerce in service to the mind of the order and beige suits for the laboring people in service to the interest of the physicality of the order. The individual status of being student/bachelor, married, withdrawn and detached can dress up with shirts in respectively green for the students, white for the married, blue for the withdrawn and orange for the detached. The level of commitment can be expressed by honorary signs hanging from a band around the neck or collar of the shirt showing the color of one's professional orientation. By the head of the (state)order, or by rule of time, people can be rewarded with honorary signs in the form of e.g. a six-pointed star (pict.) in silver or gold for participants in the order with respectively primal and enduring merit. Of course this is all optional and cannot be laid down by law: no one can be forced to belong to the order nor be forbidden to act as if belonging to. Social control will work its way to distinguish between actors and originals.

The symbol of the order as a six pointed star refers to the fact that dividing the day and the year in twenty four (one time, one division) gives six star days to mark six two-month-seasons of sixty star days (see table). The whole of time (the celestial sky) divided by six is thus shown as a star (in contrast with the known David-star the indication of the two triangles can be left out keeping the open structure). As to shaving and cleanliness, the positive attitude towards sex (also from the withdrawn and detached) is expressed by being clean-shaven and having the hair short-cut (except for the ladies who have long hair to enhance their sexual attraction). Abstinence can be shown by cultivation of beards and mustaches or short hair for ladies. Cleanliness is mandatory as the most ancient tradition of godliness and civilization. 

 

         s) Try to be expert from intuition.

Of course almost everything can be found in books. Hardly any rule or statement in this collection is new. It is, although, impossible to name the source of each idea. It is not practical, not wanted and against the rule of being one's own boss to play hide and seek behind the back of outside authority. I can err, I can change. Rules change, expressions change, symbols change. From the proposition laid down in the previous rule the final practice may widely differ. Man proposes, God disposes. It is just the game one is playing; the way one tries to do one's best, to be an expert, to be loyal etc. It is and stays just a game that people like to play or not. Intuition is of prime importance to the concept of freedom. Doubting everything by the tradition of natural science is done in service to the soul which is then given free reign by means of intuition (pict.). The rules are known by experience and one doesn't follow much better by mechanically learning them. The rules shown here merely form a checklist to refer to or meditate upon; they are not meant to be taught in school. There are enough schools breaking one's intuition in their plea for the dependency of the pupil. Computers make fine tutors and schools may be reformed by learning from love. Clouding personal intuition is a right out danger to the maintenance and development of intelligence. 

 

         t) Try to cooperate as much as you can.

This is the most ancient rule for civilized manhood and human sanity. The insane do not cooperate just as the uncivilized. Wild nature can be attractive and to go crazy can be a relief. To play the animal though is not the definition of society. Unfortunately we must check our envy with king lion and follow the rules assuring proper cooperation and coordination. Nothing can be accomplished without it but war and destruction. In case of being occupied by foreign forces one might regress to the animal state of using animalistic violence for selfdefence and survival. But forming a normal civil threat to individual freedom one has to agree and cooperate to the definition of defense. To the liberty in the formal order of recognized societal membership ('to have a star') there are 32 possible groups of identification (the immature aspirant 'not having a star' not counted) (pict.). Each group will define its own defense and act to that as far as the law-books permit.

Even the withdrawn have to cooperate in order to have their own place, their food and their adaptation secured. Problems arise when cooperation cannot be found. These people drop out of society and form an insult on the one hand and a challenge for formal order at the other hand. Each man is valuable and because of economy or justice this may not be denied. It doesn't have to cost money or to happen outside penal institutes. In fact formal liberation means to have the capital at your service because of the dominating logic of the order. Once there is cooperation in formal order money is not the problem. To formal liberation even ownership loses its meaning since service to the order is the philosophy. Of course every identification group has its own material management system of credit and provision of goods. It is to the government to settle everything to justice and order to protect private interests of groups and individuals. 

 

         u) Guard your personal privacy as your life.

Society can be an animal devouring the freedom of the individual. Leaders become the slave of their own system and spouses become the victim of their own commitment. This is a basic problem which can be solved by respecting and caring for personal privacy. To have a place of one's own is a blessing. Not to be disturbed by noise, stench or unwanted commerce etc. has become an ideal to work for. In the old days there was lots of land uncultivated open for retreat in the freedom of nature. This type of escape is less and less possible in an overcrowded world where every suitable stretch of land is used for agriculture and cattle. To share a front-door in an apartment-building e.g. is a less private solution, having one's guests mingled with strangers ringing the same door. To share a few square meters of land with hundreds of people in a sky-scraper is certainly an unprecedented concept of vertical space-time-awareness to which there might be more disease than private sanity. How far can one go going private?

What is sure is that personal privacy and the mature position need one another. How to manage your own if you don't get your own? A society failing in this might not get over its mental condition called neurosis and collapse in unwanted psychopathology. Therefore privacy must be safeguarded as one's life. The more people on top of each other the more urgent the urge for going private. Crime in big city's can be fought remembering this rule. Why attack the other if each can have his own?. 

 

         v) Stand up for your rights assertively.

Assertion means to declare, to exert influence. It is a hot debated issue: what are we serving in our assertion. Religion worries about heresy and science about untruth. Politics are worried about cooperation. Together it means that everyone is anxious about truthful cooperation for the sake of the soul. Soul is the word fighting the concept of ego about selfhood defying other self interest and thereby falling into the rage and storm of heresy. It is about unity in diversity; it is about the soul. The ego is a consequence of material identification because of which people tend to oppose and shift the question of quilt in projection. The classical teaching of assertion is therefore to hearten one's own conscience for the sake of one's soul and to beware of egoism which hearten's one's material position.

The concept of ego is inevitable, as heartening one's material position is inevitable. It is by subduing the ego to the interest of the soul that the heretic -ism of the schizoid opposition is overcome. Thus a proper concept of assertion implies not to harm the interest of others. What we call others is then in need of further consideration. 

 

         w) Always try to be friendly and polite.

This is a common sense rule settling all human interaction to the norm of goodness. Animals bark and roar, human beings are supposed to stay reasonable, that is to say: stay friendly and polite asserting themselves verbally and physically. To the other sex this attention is known as courteousness. By no means this obliging was meant to be exclusively kept in the private sphere of sexual courting or as a gentlemen's agreement among men solely.

Suffering the burden of the ego this rule is often violated. One can feel a neurotic fear for obligations or derange making fuss in self conceit. Cramping on the ego people forget to be nice and lose touch by simply not paying enough attention. Everyone screaming for it and no one giving it is symptomatic for a neurotic society estranged from the interest of the soul. Not to suffer one's nerve's in this case implies that one needs the nerve to be nice and polite. 

 

         x) Stick to your decisions and keep your promises as much as possible.

Basic rule of heroism is to keep principle, to stay consequent, to persevere, stand firm. Not to be stupid and stubborn is the mission. Without the faculty of discrimination this is not possible. So one must keep one's mind to the matter. Not to lose your mind then is the mission. Following this continence is the essence of the true teaching. The question is not only how to contain, but also what to contain. Just to contain the mind does not imply the soul, just as just to contain the seed does not imply the soul either. Just to contain the love-making or spending of seed either. Of course only right decisions and realistic promises can be kept. If you want to stay right and realistic the so-called eternal values come in view. Shortly these are: compassion, truthfulness, cleanliness and non-possessiveness (pict.). Or in simple man's language: stay clean, don't lie, care for others and share. Upholding these basic values will make one steadfast and reliable. 

 

         y) Do the necessary and don't cause grief.

Beyond necessity there is a fool's paradise with holiday's called warfare. Why complicate the issue when simple is o.k. Why do we need more than one division of time as with the division of weeks not matching the division of month's e.g.. Why does the twentiest century cherish timezone's having abandoned the accord of true time? We don't need an other division of weeks set apart from the month, we don't need time-zone's. The answer to these questions is attachment. Because we are used to the old roman calender we continue thinking tradition is soul. This is not so. Soul means conscience, not blind obedience. Sometimes things have to be abandoned when we know and can do better. Above that something new does not imply that the old is forgotten. On a new calendar old divisions can be indicated and vice versa (see table). End of the twentiest century one is also still printing books while in the nineties enough computing power has been developed to publish virtual only.

Not to cause grief means not to violate traditions by abandoning them but to cherish alternatives that are better, that is to say more clear, truthful, simple and easy. When we have paid off to the old the new can be enjoyed. Alternative's are necessary to the freedom of choice. Without it no consciousness will be but captivity in attachment and the unreason of fall-down in ignorance. Cherishing the unnecessary the necessary tends to be obliterated. It is not forbidden to be a fool, it a shame and even dangerous to neglect what is necessary. Everyone agrees: freedom of choice is necessary ; it belongs to the method (pict.).  

 

         z) Make a rule, break a rule in guard of your integrity.

No set of rules lasts forever. Writing this set-up rules replaced each other. Each set pretends to be absolute and final, but the truth is different. The soul may be absolute and final, but it's material expression is not. It is in flux; it is subject to the reality of time (pict.)changing everything. So constant adaptation to time and circumstances is necessary. Therefore rules are broken and created, broken again and recreated. This is natural to the integrity of life and the person. Everything is subject to the conscientious of the adapting selfrealising soul. Certainty is found in the eternal values of clean truthful sharing and caring (pict.). As long as man exists these will be the foundation of human integrity and will be necessary although the interpretation will greatly differ. Forever.

 

Chapter 2: Business

 

a) Be sure.

b) Avoid speculation.

c) Check your work.

d) In case of failure,correct, excuse and plan for the better.

e) Always ask as much as possible.

f) Forgive and forget.

g) Know your territory: explore and discover.

h) Be as independent as possible.

i) Socialize.

j) If critical about others, always add the constructive remark.

k) Guard against temptations.

l) Do not worry about your image.

m) Stick to the role you're playing.

n) Seek your identity in your status and occupation.

o) Be consequent.

p) Be always prepared to give up material purposes.

q) Always defend your honor.

r) Silence is golden.

s) Do not complain more than necessary.

t) In want of help seek the bony fide.

u) Do not discriminate to gender, religion, political preference, race, status or occupation.

v) Keep up your appearance: show your strength.

w) Go with the flow.

x) Refer minimally.

y) Goodness before passion.

z) Reinforce what you want.

 

 

 

 

 

        a) Be sure.

To be sure is important. Even more important is to know what one is sure of. One can be sure of the temporal, one can be sure of the eternal. As a whole one can be sure of eternal time. Physical appearances one cannot be sure of. Although predictable to a degree one must confide in the guarantee of changing form more than confide, or pretend to confide, in the guarantee of the stability of form. Although quality is defined by the stability of form, only the guarantee of adaptation to time and circumstances will give confidence.

With living beings eternal time is known by the soul. With that to be sure of the soul is the prime management strategy. Once people are kept together in function to the soul, one can speak of a successful enterprise. The endeavor must define the relation to the soul. Endeavoring for optimal adaptation to time and circumstances can thus form a definition of ideal management. This means that in principle to each locality a different variation of the product, be it material or of the spirit, may develop. Such an ideal product is a do-it-your-self-adaptation kit. One can have a typewriter, but not the text. One can have the food, but not the setting of the table. One can have a text, but not the interpretation to the time of reading. Ultimately the soul is the last(ing) authority or product of the divine or divine of the product one can be sure of. 

 

         b) Avoid speculation.

Having to be sure of the soul, one has to be sure of its rule. To the eternal values of the soul there is a basic set of principles for management to which there must be no further speculation. Further speculation will nullify the guarantee of the soul so that the confidence in the product will dwindle. The basic values are expressed in the dictum: true sharing and caring is clean. From this dictum the basic principles ensue as expressed in the first commandment of all successful enterprise: with no intoxication (truth), nor damaging anyone (caring) and without gambling (sharing) one should attain to a legal love (cleanliness) of producing and consuming (pict.). So e.g. drinking alcohol, failing in compassion, betting on a horse while fornicating, is exactly the way to lose touch with the soul and ruin the enterprise. Therefore speculation about this command should be avoided. There can be varieties of interpretation from company to company, but the basic command does not tolerate any amendment. Having lost touch with the basic command necessitates penance and/or pilgrimage. 

 

         c) Check your work.

If the best product is peace, then war might be the work. This is a problem. The rule of maturity implies that no one has to check your work. Outside agents of control turn society in a school from which one never graduates. Teachers, people checking, have to work to be superfluous, without any consideration for their own position. Thus seen unemployment is the highest achievement. Without this society will be a hell of paranoia. In fact the definition of work is the issue here. Nobody is really unemployed. The term should be removed from the dictionary and be redefined as being unsalaried. Service to the soul, service to the material motive, and service without consent are the three types of work that keep man busy. People mess up unqualified on their own, need to be corrected to material standards and at last have to be saved by laboring for the soul. This is what the work of man is really all about. This is how people check theirwork and run society (pict.).

The mature individual incorporates the triple definition of work: from a positive identification with the authorities he works without further consent on his own trying not to mess up. Finding out he does, he corrects himself to the material standard known and enjoys the fruit of this war for result in the peace of his soulsaving strategies. A mature society should take this in account: understand people to live on their own accord, forgive them their offenses against the standard, and care for them with social security for the sake of peace admitting that not everyone always can work independently for the result. Keeping peace enjoying social security is just as important as fighting for a result or being your own boss. In fact healthy society is not possible cutting any of these three limbs. 

 

         d) In case of failure correct, excuse and plan for better.

Many people fail: they go sick, commit suicide, suffer an accident, drop out, suffer addiction or go crazy (pict.). As far as intelligence is lacking one can educate, guide and direct. As far as experience is lacking one can give the example, be the model. As far as the tendency for natural chaos is involved one can represent, uphold the order needed (pict.). Any way, failure must be recognized, excused and corrected. This is the foundation of society we cannot do without. One cannot all ride the exemplar horse or all be teachers, nor will just mending the broken order do. In the denial of failure all psychopathology is sprouting. Not properly identified with one's forefathers one might not understand why things do not work out properly: one does not always realize who one is, in whose shoes one is standing. Culture doesn't drop out of the sky but has a history of failure and success. With changing times cards are reshuffled and games must be played all over. That is what makes life interesting: history repeats itself, but not the same way. Man evolve into woman and vice versa. Roles can be fixed, but not the actors. To day one runs the company, tomorrow one has to start somewhere else as an apprentice.

Without the realization of failure, the excusing of failure and the will to correct we may speak of mental illness: the soul is not served by deceit and the psyche goes crazy in reflecting the fear of failure. A society accepting failure as a challenge for work in fact has no losers: only the occupation changes. 

 

         e) Always ask as much as possible.

One can ruminate and speculate, but lacking experience, the model or the right order one is lost without the sincere will to recognize an other man's authority. This is done questioning. It is not always possible to ask questions, but at least one quarter of society should live for answering questions from the rest. Intellectuals, bookpeople, apollonian academic's, priests, advisors and counselors, should guide, direct and settle order for governmental officiating, independent enterprising and salaried laboring people. Some must be the wisest. The spiritual orientation of mindpeople should cohere for the sake of the soul representing the basic values and the knowledge of their trade and specialization. Often they will answer inhibitively to discourage the material motive and promote the peace of their own business. But in fact there is need of a balance of material and spiritual interest (pict.). Although each culture has its own style of management, things do not matter without the spirit and the spirit makes no sense without the relative world. 

 

         f) Forgive and forget.

It is not so easy to forgive, nor can we forget so quickly with all kinds of damage done in view. It takes power to forgive and forget. Knowledge is power. The greatest crimes can be forgiven seeing criminals as victims of a failing system. You can recognize them even as hero's, fighting the system. In order to stop struggling over power, power is divided and counterbalanced. This is how power is maintained and how one can forgive and forget. Just as in the political field, the lead of society also goes in three. Man has to walk on two legs, and therefore three limbs of power are needed. Politics walk on the legs of religion and the intellect. Religion rules on the basis of alternating political and intellectual interest. The intellectual commune has to balance between religion and politics. In order to cook pasta, water, a pan and pasta are needed. So equally to have a sane and balanced society capable of forgiving and forgetting power must be divided and counterbalanced by the three limbs of politics, religion and science (pict.). One can't do without the other. Everything has been tried and all that has been proven is that it takes all kinds to make a healthy society. Hate everyone knows from the ego of his group of identification which always thinks it more easy to accuse than to repent. But anyone watching his legs may notice it takes two to tango and one to play the music. Don't shoot the pianist and let the couple dance. Then misery will be forgotten. 

 

         g) Know your territory: explore and discover.

It is easy to have a prejudice and live in contempt. Just not knowing what is going on or how things are, people living a one-sided strategy lose sight of the complete reality. Each concept of ego pretends to uphold the complete, but none does. There is order, beauty and consciousness in all around. Things are also in a constant flux. One has to keep up with the changes going on to have a clear judgment free from prejudice and contempt. For this constant exploration and discovery are required. One has to test one's suppositions and come to new ones. This trial and error attitude is typically scientific. The danger of this attitude is fostering ignorance: as if it is not known that everyone compensates for the loss of soul and goes for the pride of the ego. From the division of power one learns to recognize the limitations of each option: science tends to foolishness, religion tends to become irrational, and politics tend to abuse. None should be condemned though because of its limitations: scientific method (pict.), the wonders of the holy (pict.) and the discourse of the political (pict.) are absolutely needed. All these need careful exploration to find out how they work from time to time. Without discovering how things really are, how can one adapt and have a wise strategy of one's own? 

 

         h) Be as independent as possible.

One of the most important requirements of healthy business is independence. Each has a world of his own. Each world has its own priorities, rules, weaknesses (pict.), balances etc. To mind one's own business is basic to an enduring integrity of management. Drawing to outside authority and resource need careful scrutiny: is it really needed, and when needed how far can one go giving business out of hand? With great precaution these things should be tested to the same norm: are they independent themselves and do they tolerate your independence. There are many schools making pyramids of material as well as spiritual profit. God is not the same as the advantage of doubt though. God is the integrity and complete of nature and culture, not simply a strategy of profit to fool seekers. So religiously independence comes upon realizing the true nature of God. Politically and scientifically this is less clear as everything seems to stick together materially. Still no one can really manage without a conscientious soul. On the basis of mere material ego no stability can be found. So, for whatever strategy of power, be it in the name of God, the party,or the control over nature, a clear conscience is indispensable. For this every bug in one's behavioral repertoire should be beaten: without a clear mind, wasting energy on false excuses, no success with the management of the soul can be, and without a contented soul one is nothing but a slave of material nature. For this every mother needs a child, every boss an employee, every teacher a pupil and every student an example. Once the other is in the heart, independence can be. 

 

         i) Socialize.

Socializing is easily forgotten by the one's cherishing work before anything. Society has a rhythm of its own and because of that line one can easily refrain from socializing, which is a pity as on itself it was not so bad at all. With another division of the real solstice to solstice-year e.g. in 24 fifteen day periods counting twelve month's of thirty days and 48 weeks with five extra days equally spread but for the midst of summer, one can oppose with one's own rhythm and socialize without getting lost in the roman style of conquering by the old calender. Another trick is to check your schedule to the position of the sun by setting a watch on sun time (see table). This trick defeats the political domination of standard time. Socializing is not free from hypnotic attraction managing a rhythm of its own so that each system has its trick to nullify the other. The complexity of modern culture forms a challenge and with all experimenting socializing should not be sacrificed. 

 

         j) If critical about others always add the constructive remark.

One should not only be self critical, but also not spare others the truth of the second opinion. This is all very essential for social control and a dynamic society. To be a hypocrite makes a society of hypocrites and such a sham makes a downfall not always as peaceful as would be wished for. Thus wisdom commands this precocious and loving criticism nobody really wants to hear. But that's life and it can be endured by means of the constructive remark: 'you are o.k., but without that fancy necktie of yours I'd be happy recognizing your formal being'. Or: 'you're smelling too heavy darling, but going for a walk together I could endure'. Or to the system: 'it's a mean and bad old world, but at an other time it can be livable'. No one can live with the idea that he, she or everything is bad, but with a confession for the better people can find happiness. In this rule is thus contained: the end justifies the means. Not knowing how to live for a better world people swallow their criticism and fall in silence. In such a society nobody feels at home. No light, no future, no knowledge, no happiness. Not to fall in suicide and other self-defeating destruction (pict.) constructive criticism based on awareness of the ideal is a need. 

 

         k) Guard against temptations.

In business the dictum is business before pleasure. But the pleasure of working is not really understood with this. So, temptation refers more to the difference of attitude towards the pleasure principle in general. Lust and love can be differentiated by its regulations. Lust is primal and bears hardly any postponement and control. Love is loyal to the secondary and is willing to subject in goodness to schedule and conditions. From this the inevitable conclusion must be that to settle all desire in goodness is the solution for the problem of pleasure ruining business. Not only the pleasure principle is in danger of the irregular. Also the reality principle for managing business is under the threat of temptation. For an enterprising company it is difficult to be too strict in schedule: one has to be dynamic in order to adapt quickly. Things cannot always be settled by means of clockwork etc. Here the rule of cooperation is valid. The temptation to the reality principle is to get lost on a power trip of one's ego. To have the conscience and courage to share doubts and elation with coworkers will tune one down to the level of reality needed to survive in business (pict.). 

 

         l) Do not worry about your image.

It is important to be consistent in one's appearance and character. But the reality of the person is dynamic: appearance is an adaptation and adaptations change to time and circumstances. Also character is dynamic: one can develop from strong to weak and vice versa. A die-hard may give in for a while and someone easy going can pick up an old rule forgotten. With all these dynamics of life it is clear that one should not worry about one's image as it goes. What is important is the cosmic consciousness of true selfrealization. Serving the reality of the soul anything can happen: life becomes an adventure where old certainties are exchanged for unlimited choice. Of course one cannot be The Lord Himself and enjoy forever the bliss and knowledge of the cosmic soul of the complete whole. We'll have to live by the small and modest ecstasy's of our meditations, love and compassion and are thus bound to our choices. Complete freedom and choice is therefore never the case.

Worry one should always for the sake of a clear conscience in the first place. A forsaken duty can bring disaster. Clinging to one's preferred image can not only corrupt the soul for the sake of appearance, but can also ruin one's sanity and the whole of society. If some leaders in the past wouldn't have persisted with their false pride in view of their own failure, the world would have been much better of. Because of persisting with the false pride of an image in failure a lot of honorable manhood seems to have lost its image for ever. Cultures exercising jealousy always fall down while friends sacrificing their image temporarily for the sake of the truth and the soul always will find themselves maintained in the loyalty of the authentic order. 

 

         m) Stick to the role you're playing.

As one is sticking to one's duty one must also be consequent to the role one is playing. Problems arise when roles are in conflict. A man rarely can manage his wife the way he manages his business. One compensates the other as well as change in the one relation leads to changes in the other relation too. So, everyone is in search of his and her integrity. To keep an image, o.k., to play a role o.k., but to stay integer, that is a different thing. Every man realizes he is not God. Sooner or later cracks appear, temptations win over, and the front is lost. Thus the whole business can be lost and no role be continued. But it must not be so.

To any play there is a director and a script, a beginning and an end. Not only can the role be played although one is not holy, also the business of the play can be kept although one's role is over. The director can forgive the actor for losing front, the play can be indifferent to the one's playing. From this can be derived that enterprising requires management aware of the need of tolerance as no one is fully experienced from the beginning. Also learned is to work from a clear management plan. There must be some kind of script, bible or bookcase in control of the play going on. As stated earlier: a society without a clear concept of formal (liberating) order (pict.) is on the way of selfdestruction.

To role-playing there is a beginning and an end. Living for the soul one can mistake to be physically eternal. This is egotism which also ruins the company as the elder do not step aside for the younger. To change roles by tradition is just as important as keeping them. One implies the other in fact. Thus the dictum must be: you're always welcome to start and always free to leave. Nothing as bad as inaccessibility and the idea that one couldn't be missed. From this point of view a correct formal order always provides for the different stages of life. 

 

         n) Seek your identity in your status and occupation.

Without knowledge of the soul, conscience doesn't work properly and formal order is not recognized nor developed. From this state of uncertainty compensations develop in search of identity. All kind of weird culture can thus exist, some being more harmful than the other. The denominator of these subcultures is the neurotic search for identity and the non bona fide experiment with authority and identification. Great disaster follows the despair of collectively failing to manage this neurotic, temporary adaptation in absence of formal liberation. One could be liberated, but finds oneself dropping out, one could be formal, but finds oneself being bound in cultures of compensation. Celebrations being penance and penance being disease, such a society cannot find happiness or any hope for the future. This is a dangerous condition.

To escape from the greatest danger some kind of step should be made towards the authentic order defining the identity (pict.) of status and occupational orientation (pict.). As known this is always very near and not far away from everyday reality. To be a simple workman should be a recognized and respected social position. Trade should not be condemned as being bad because of the profit motive. Rulership of the military, civil or noble kind, should be condoned as a practical necessity despite of its demoniac propensities. At last one should always try to respect the spiritual and scientific authorities, however far away from every day reality their judgment might be. Status of being married, being single active or withdrawn or being wisdom on the loose, should not prevail over one another. With these directives in mind a reasonable, orderly society with clear identities should be possible. 

 

         0) Be consequent.

Not to be completely consequent to one's image or the temporary of one's roles, still one must be consequent to the regulative principles as derived from the eternal values of sharing, caring, cleanliness and truth. The level of respect progressing on these principles can differ widely according to status, orientation, or stage of life. At one extreme sharing can mean to sacrifice everything for the community only, while at the other extreme one can sacrifice everything for the sharing of independence. The same way caring can mean to have a society providing for all the needs of mutual care at the one hand, while at the other extreme everyone would be successful in caring for oneself only not providing for anything else. Also cleanliness can mean all to be total abstainers having children from the laboratory only, while at the other extreme all sex would be o.k. as long as it is practiced safely within the bounds of law. As for the truth one can have a society free from all drugs, nicotine, alcohol, coffee, tea, chocolate or whatever intoxication, while at the other hand can be chosen for limits set by police-order and excise. Somehow though these values must be exercised. Most of the time reality takes the form of moderation concerning intoxication, preservation concerning the sexual, regulation as far as financial speculation is concerned, and compensation concerning compassion in danger with e.g the eating of meat (pict.). Forgetting about them is a falldown of general discipline and a threat to the continence of culture. 

 

         p) Be always prepared to give up material purposes.

This is a rule of attitude. It means everybody can do any kind of thing as on the outside one cannot see what principle is working at the inside. A criminal person can be an undercover agent, while a mental patient can be a scientist studying the psychology in participating observation. Decisive is the attitude of willingness to give up the material purpose for the sake of the principle. All major religions are based on this rule: the sinners continue to sin and the fallen continue to fall, as long as the Lord is as graceful to forgive all kinds and variations thus led to the benches of penance. One weakness regretted is thus worth more than one strength denied (pict.)This rule is also the secret formula for progress in general (pict.), material as well as spiritual. Prepared to give up the material, the material is done more justice still treating it, while exchanging the motive of fruitive action for the motive of the maintenance of the soul also reveals the hidden resources of intelligence. 

 

         q) Always defend your honor.

The rule is clear, but not the honor. It needs to be defended. Reality is that no material norm of honor will endure. So, choosing for this or that will always lead to a fall-down. One has to choose for this and that, keeping the assertion-rule, stating that confession to something can not be repression of something else. There is always the tendency to identify with any new material outlook. This is the deluding quality of material nature. If honor is taken to depend on this or that, having a fall down as a consequence, the process is called false identification. Honor should always be defended with the interest of the soul in mind. To prevent war one has to safeguard against the repression that comes with the delusion of choosing; it is thus about creating choice, not about enforcing one or another choice. Anyone taking a look at nature will see the reality of this truth (pict.).

Problem with the defense of honor is the identification. Choosing for consciousness, what to hold on to? It is the eternal problem of the form of God not being God. Quickly a golden calf is created which is indeed a form of God. But forgetting the commandments was not what was meant. It is not bad to create a form of God, it is bad to go wild with idolatry. God is money, but money is not God. God is time, but worshiping clockwork doesn't keep the devil away. So, concerning time and money differences of form may be, but cannot repress one another. Concerning time, different types of time can be, but the people, free men, will decide for them self what time will suit them best. All that needs to be done is to defend the honor of freedom. Working for the freedom of choice there is no falsehood of honor; it is the definition of the post-modern. Whether any restoration will take place is up to the democratic choice of the people.  

 

         r) Silence is golden.

Material activity defies the mindful. After thinking there should be action, but after action, there should be rethinking. To err is human. Therefore silence is golden and speaking silver. Without choosing the silent world of thought where only the inner voice is to be heard at first and at last, there is no repentance possible and no correction either. This is a disaster that cannot be. The consequence of speaking and acting without prior and posterior reflection is to be caught in a spiral of downfall leading to war and destruction. The essential drive of the silver threat is ignorance. For the other one keeps up the appearance of wisdom, but having grown into a dictator (missing the scripture, the association in the spirit and the inner teacher) the destruction is a fact. Creation without reflection leads to destruction That is the true meaning of golden silence (pict.). The monks have always been praying until the politicians had freaked out and repented.

Ignorance means falling short of knowledge, as the pride of the things known already won't do. History always teaches the same lesson: a new world is inevitable, but the bewilderment in the silver cold of false identification always takes place. In order to prevent mass opposition and armed conflict parliamentary discussion, opposition and downfall of democratic leaders form the solution. New things are created and promoted. Old things have to be defended anew. This is the modern - post modern - restoration - cycle. It is a natural law: mutation - coexistence - reintegration in repeat. The fittest survive and they turn out to be an all-purpose design: complexity increases. This is evolution. Thus people do not work on sundays, nor on saturdays while expanding to an alternative scheme might even add days of (media-ar-)rest, study and festivity by further regulation (see tables). 

 

         s) Do not complain more than necessary.

To complaining the first question is: does one have the right to complain? There is a difference between hysteria and conveyance. The hysteric is in want of attention, but doesn't convey what the real message is. This is pathological. The true complaint is the one conveying the interest of the soul. The hysteric pleading for the attachment to the temporary of this or that is an unrighteous complainer. In stead of acting themselves the ones neurotic about the inability to endure the freedom of choice, can e.g. accuse and project. The others are sometimes blamed and/or even called God, just to escape the self-responsible.

Complaining, the want of the soul seems to be getting attention. Of course it is the soul, the reflection of righteous selfremembrance that is in need of attention, but we always fall in the same pit. We always end up stealing the show and repenting after the party is over. It is simply very difficult not to get caught in a one-way street which can be 'holy' itself, but turns out to be the devil undoing the rest of holiness (pict.). Thus the conclusion must be that the complaint for the sake of the movement inwards has all right whereas the complaint for mere attention is to be recognized as unrighteous. To righteous complaining there is a complexity of cause and effect meaning work in some or another way. The beginning of that work can be bitter to its material effect: the material is in disorder. Accepting the symptoms, the treatment leading to the restoration of order gives way to the peace-making soul in healthy touch with material nature: the consequence is taken, the sickness cured and the freedom of choice restored. Duties done do not only cure from material chaos, also mental disease is alleviated. As long as the doctor is representing the interest of the soul the disease of complaining can be cured. A good physician will always say: I can help and promote, but the curing is done by the soul itself. 

 

         t) In want of help seek the bona fide.

Because of not knowing a honest person will always be a seeker. Nobody is the complete of selfremembrance, since nobody can claim to be the true self or God. Psychologically it is even simply stupid to claim to have realized one's ideal self. To a sane person there is always a new horizon. Therefore it is always a step by step towards, and never reaching completely. It is the paradox of the hare not able to overtake the turtle: he can never cover more than half the distance. Materially it is nonsense, but to the soul there is no doubt.

In search one is in want of the bona fide which is then defined as expertise in touch with the soul. In material knowledge one might know more than the holy man, but a computer is not a holy man. One can be informed about the soul by teacher, books and company, but information without communion is empty. The false prophet will plea for the falsehood of material form: worship this, love those, go there, keep that, etc. The bona fide preacher will liberate for another communion: he'll go to heaven, leave you the responsibility and work from inside the soul. He didn't built churches, temples or sites of pilgrimage. He built heart, spirit and soul: this is to hearten, this is the spiritual kingdom, this is the soul that is in heaven. It is always the material trick of our own false preaching spoiling the message, turning God into the opposite and rendering the believer heresy in stead of truth. So all schools called bona fide are nuts to crack: inedible without the firm decision to go for the palatable inside knowledge of the soul and throw away the outer covering. The outer appearances can be purely demoniac as a warning against demons not capable of bearing their own image. In search of the bona fide to this rule cannot be said where to go or whom to consult. Wherever one goes, whomever one meets: one always has to return home. And home is where the heart is. As long as the house is cleaned, the heart is purified by the command of selfremembrance, one will find one's independence and responsibility back. 

 

         u) Do not discriminate to gender, religion, political preference, race,                                  status or occupation.

Of course one needs to discriminate in the sense of being aware of difference. Even two identical molecules take another place in space-time (pict.). It is not the defiance of the command of consciousness telling to see the differences. Just as one has to remember that soul is selfremembrance, while not all selfremembrance would serve the soul, to this as well is to be known that seeing differences to the interest of consciousness does not imply that making a difference is in defense of consciousness. As with the defense of honor one must be interested in not losing one's mind identifying falsely. Despite of gender-identity, the importance of one's own racial culture, religion and whatever of material form, the reality of the soul, the interest of conscientious selfremembrance does not change. It is not only the interest that doesn't change, it is the ultimate reality of the soul that doesn't. To mistake the form of selfremembrance for the goal that is the self remembering is the definition of bewilderment. 

 

         v) Keep up your appearance: show your strength.

Being consequent, enduring, holding on to the principle of the soul, must not mean to fall in material neglect. In fact in the complex of cause and effect, one is obliged to dutiful activity in order to accomplish the meditation of selfremembrance. Only with all respect the soul is found, not with the excuses of neglect which can never make peace with the material world and thus not contain. So, once having stolen the show, one has to continue, but how? The secret answer of know how is not to betray. Betraying one did, but betraying cannot continue. Just as the dying of what was betrayed, also the traitor has to die. The question is thus how to retreat without losing the appearance. In the evolution of the soul detachment is the mechanism with the career of realigning being the continuance of the show. This can only be with the development of strength. Withdrawing one's energies from the concept of material possessiveness necessitates the reintegration of bodily and mental strength. Old integrations reappear that were long forgotten and new capacities develop in the transformation of the show that realigns. The secret of knowing how is found in the realigning of the old ego interest with the new interest of the order of the soul. The show continues, the appearance differs. From alienated one becomes aligned. 

 

         w) Go with the flow.

Naturally the flow goes down from the mountains to the sea. The same way the flow of life is from heaven to earth. One has to come down from one's narcistic pedestal and descend into the world of compassion. In heaven compassion is not needed. No grace no love, no love no God, no God no life. Thus one comes down. With the willing of this the downfall of the soul is understood again with the small difference of experience. Passion is the danger of the downward action and even the madness of indolence is there. Not willing to act makes the false passion and not willing to move makes the madness. Passion would be about love: the world a woman, the spirit a man and the man has to love the woman. Equally madness would have an object: I'm mad about my darling but not crazy because I'm missing her. So as the story goes the man manufactures himself the object of love and madness. This is primal. It is the nature of man to be a jealous potter-monkey always mad about the unattainable ideal of the ever-happy and always being passionate about the interests of the world.

As any man knows who has a woman: one must comply. Not only is she a living person, the world also is a thing alive, not a box of blocks to meddle with unmeditated. Therefore one has to go with the flow. In the downward stream one can see in peace everything standing still only if one also goes down. Swimming against will give collision with the double of speed. The vessel to go down-stream with is the boat of rules. These rules need no preaching just as the boat needs no oar. Just the rudder or peddle of timing is needed not to get caught by sand-banks or in whirlpools.  

 

         x) Refer minimally.

A ship needs an anchor, so minimal reference is necessary. The problem comes when the ship has a thousand anchors of which always some are thrown out. Thus one gets nowhere. Reference means the plant having a root. From a basic ground the reality (pict.) came into existence. But a rose cannot be a tree suddenly. In order to stay a rose it must be loyal to its root. Asking a rose where it's beautiful smell came from it cannot refer to the tree either. Therefore, although we have a garden full of reference, still there can only be righteous reference to the real root, not the root likewise growing in the same garden.

The apollonian root of the message revealed contends with the basic attitude of value-free science: it is about the description of human reality without confessing to another set of values but the apollonian. Apollonian values are the values of personhood in the divinity of wisdom. It is not so much about its counterpart: the dyonisian of celebration. Nor is it from the amor-ous of making love or the psyche-ological of selfreflection. The apollonian is about the values of truth, conciousness and the beauty of bliss; about the enduring, knowing and happy. Because of amorousness the psyche suiffers ignorance: it does not reflect the answers of wisdom, just the questions. The apollonian constitutes the answer to the psychological problem and figures for the sake of eternity, goodness and the happiness of beauty as the counterpart and true wealth (pict.) of dyonisian hedonism. 

 

         y) Goodness before passion.

Passion is a natural consequence of life; a mode of nature (pict.). The world is tempting, the heart yearning and the mind taken away. This is passion; it is cherished and promoted as the essence of life and creation and no one could live without. It may all be so, from the indolent of ignorance the responsible attitude of passion cannot be denied to be the better. But passion cannot be a goal in itself. Passion leads to crime and war too. It can be recognized as the healthy resentment against passive inertia and its consequent madness. Still on itself it cannot purify from the contamination of madness: mindfulness is sacrificed in the name of love and without the inhibitive force this runs into warfare sooner or later. Therefore God, and the culture of divine inhibition, is defined as the absolute of goodness, the devil being the personified reality of not willing to be so. Goodness is the basic character of soul while the basic character of ego is known as passion. To passion there is always the material motive as to the soul no other value is really meaningful but the continence of goodness. Anger as the shade of passion, thus seen is a form of ignorance, while the infatuated goodness of attachment can be recognized as likewise growing in the same garden. Truth, compassion and austerity always are the secondary values of the soul subdued by the command of eternal goodness. 

 

         z) Reinforce what you want.

In order to reinforce with e.g. money or other privileges and forms of recognition one must know what one is serving so that it is known what is wanted. The democratic principle in itself is useful politically, but in order to take a lead it does not suffice. One cannot bluntly serve the ignorance of the masses and expect an orderly and righteous peaceful world from it. The democratic is ruled by the pleasure principle of the dyonision motive: they, just, want to party. The reality principle of the apollonian commands the lead of society its values (pict.). Reinforcement thus must be given to the evidence of the basic qualities of the soul: does one endure: reward. Does one support the happy: reward. Does one transcend: reward. Without this clarity of reinforcement the reality of soul can never become prominent as the purpose of servitude in society. People causing grief, maintaining but a flickering of goodness and whose awareness is rarely above the waist cannot be rewarded above a fair standard of social security to keep them from falsifying authority. However, basic adaptation must unconditionally be rewarded and given the same status of membership in society. Peace-keeping people living on social security should not be called a failure of work, to say unemployed, but must be treated as equal members of society although not with the highest esteem for their minimal to zero material contribution. Tables turn and denying this game of determining who is contributing to what, is more costly than all social security awards ever given together. Stealing the honor of likewise adapted people is just like murder or social suicide with no other consequence but a civil or international war of people against people. 

 

Chapter 3: Dating

 

a) Give up selfgratification.

b) When losing control: check the rules.

c) Always try to take initiative.

d) Be an optimist.

e) Ask what she wants, know her and be attentive.

f) Be careful with patronizing.

g) Be merciful.

h) Respect her freedom.

i) Do not expect her to live up to your expectations.

j) Always play safe.

k) Have understanding for her feelings.

l) Avoid the necessity of preventive measures.

m) Do not force.

n) Prefer going outdoors.

o) Pursue only if appreciated.

p) Accept rejection.

q) Be willing to be meditative.

r) Have patience with her demands.

s) Take responsibility for her situation.

t) Respect her initiative.

u) If fallen in love, know her family, friends and religion.

v) Better late than never.

w) Schedule your actions.

x) Make sure she knows your plans.

y) Do not forget the celibate discipline.

z) Respect her advice.

 

 

 

 

          a) Give up selfgratification.

Living independently one can become egoistic without knowing it. Still depending on parents, living with them, one can also become entangled in the social structure of the family which will not directly be in need of strangers. To begin a relationship by starting to date someone brings about great changes in life. Any small change of habit might lead to a completely different life. Also choosing for this or that person can determine the course of one's life completely. To give up living for oneself alone means that self gratification within a family or to oneself independently is curbed. One has to accept to take the other person in account. One can feel forced to give up self gratification to a degree, or one can do it by free will thinking it more wise to stop thinking of one's family or one's own interest only. Anyhow not doing so and clinging to the old habit can maintain the synergy of the old situation discovering that the date doesn't work out as hoped for, meanwhile not really understanding why it doesn't.

Another aspect is the fact that changing selfgratification from selfhood or familysystem to another person might run into a disappointment if the old problem of being alone or caught in a family is simply transferred to the other relation. Only the form of selfgratification has changed, but not one's life. The motivation for a date can be driven by the longing of the soul for liberation from loneliness and attachment. Liberation is in fact found, as far as dating is concerned, in the prospect of service to the continence of a more mature position as head of a new family or friend in another association. But marriage or friendship itself is no guarantee against loneliness and attachment. The expected liberation can be another prison of enslavement. Dating might be seriously hindered or corrupted with the disbelief in the prospect of marriage or common friendship. Marriage or enduring association is religiously a holy sacrament that must scientifically be understood. Life means one has to mature and become independent. This independence is never found in the slavery of material service to a family, a single mans situation or a social group of another kind. All material activity is in need of a higher principle to be acceptable as a form of liberation. This higher principle is materially defined as culture above the private, more natural drives. To the spirit this higher principle is defined as soul above ego. (pict).To have a meaningful date implies to be firm in one's decision to emancipate from the lower drives of gratifying one's senses to the higher sublimation of a selfrealizing soul. Whether one is liberated in service to a new family, association of friendship or a more independent social position is of less importance. 

 

           b) When losing control: check the rules.

Dating one explores new relations. This can mean one has to reckon with unexpected things, influences, lifestyles, associations, policies, creeds and the like. Because of this being possessed by the fascination of something new one can easily forget one's own book of rules. This can be refreshing and a good school to learn from, but it can also mean one loses control. The family may panic and sabotage the new as a threat and also one's independence can be seriously resisting against the new influences. Of general importance is to maintain the science of the soul, which is a very personal thing. The rules to be checked are given by experience and not by a book. In this case other rules are important as they form a threat to the familiar one's. losing control means one has to amend to a familiar rule or to adopt an other rule. In order to keep control always an other approach of the rules is the result: one is in evolution to something like the Absolute Rule. One can try to master it with satisfying the body, going for the mind, feeding the intelligence, or going for the soul of a clear conscience. The Absolute Rule is of the latter position: everything of control evolves from the conscientious selfremembrance of the soul. 

 

           c) Always try to take initiative.

A woman can afford to be more passive than a man. This is biologically conditioned. Likewise a man tends to take over the situation. This is all purely genetic conditioning with the ultimate purpose of the sexual act. Culturally these tendencies are watered down: a woman should be responsive and show herself to a degree and a man should realize her intentions not to be discarded as a inconsiderate male chauvinist. Both positions need to compromise in order to balance culture with nature. So whether viewed from the male or the female position, both parties always should try to be of initiative with the male being a bit more active in the dating process than the female. With this the male will always run a greater risk of being cheated or suffering the illusion of being wanted. Therefore it is considered more shameful to a woman not to be a virgin than for a man not to be so.

Not finding a virgin in life a man bound to a culture of free sex can find one advantage though: one is more obliged to the selfrealizing soul as the chance for a lasting relationship diminishes with the increase of the importance of oneself continuing. On the other hand is stressing for selfrealization without the concept of soul an invitation to promiscuity: from ego alone less endurance and stability is expected. Having had different partners driven by the necessity of initiative on itself is not so much an objection as missing the lead of conscience. 

 

           d) Be an optimist.

With all material endeavor things go wrong. Going for the perfect matter of this or that partnership will always disappoint: the other woman is always more attractive as the unknown is attractive itself. Some people suppose it is wise to keep some secrecy to the partner: be a bit mysterious. But that will not prevent the partner from running after the unknown even more unknown. What one is always looking for is liberation and selfrealization. False liberation is running from one responsibility to an other in the illusion of the unknown and new. False selfrealization is to mistake the outer result for the inner attainment. The ever new is Time itself making every day new. No fix on any person will be stronger than the fix on the new itself, nor will any fix of selfrealization be more real than the fix to the witnessing soul in regard of the changes of form. From this is learned that to be content with your first love or to put up and abide by a later partner will give the peace and consciousness needed to realize the higher importance of liberation and selfrealization to the Soul of Time. 

 

           e) Ask what she wants, know her and be attentive.

Mother nature is poetry: everything is in rhyme and harmony going for the truth of peaceful coexistence. Delusion is caused by the fear of death identifying with the body: nature can devour your body, everything must die. Going for the soul frees from the fear of death, making love stronger than lust against regulation. For animals that is called instinct and for humans it is called law and order. Her conflict is always about maintenance: will her nature maintain with the threat of death. Woman being more earth-bound than men because of their sexually receptive attitude depend on the initiative of men. If a man does not ask her, know her or attends to her needs, the game of society as a whole is lost. On the lower level of animal nature this is clear enough. For the higher of culture things get confused: men must become like woman and vice versa. The material word becomes feminine as a whole and the Lord of Time is to be represented as the male initiative or mover of the universe. Forgetting the sexual men and woman both become human, loving the world in respect of the order of time. The order keeps the soul and gives security of maintenance. Sexually one has to go for that order, being more obliged by the physical workload of service to the order while nonsexually one simply has to accept things as they are, serving and mending the existing order less obliged materially. That is what she wants: his initiative and her natural order, to which men opt their alternatives of management. If men are loyal to her order, then the soul will keep men from conflict. War as such is a failure of agreement about justice and the form that order should take.

Dating her means one has to go for her and respect her, ask her what she wants, learn to know if her wishes match with one's personal order and be attentive as far as it goes. In fact men always have to desire to harmonize with her as her nature is always moved by time. The same way she always has to desire to feel to time as time is managed by constructs of manhood. 

 

           f) Be careful with patronizing.

To be a customer of, be treated with condescension, to be under the control of the government or a patron must be considered with the greatest care. The care of a father is important; nor personally, nor collectively this should be denied. Still the rule of independence tells us the mature is not under patronage but selfresponsible. Each may learn from an other person. Each may profit from governmental support. As a way of becoming this is accepted but as a way of being one should not betray one's dependence. The government depends on the people, just as the people depend on the government. No mature person is fully independent. The master depends on the servant too. The salesman depends on the customer. The mature option is an attitude reflecting the loyalty and sanity of respecting the ideal. But to pretend to have reached it is to be considered the most common lie. It is a basic psychological conflict: the relationship with the 'father', whether it is father time, the spouse, the biological father, the priest, the Lord, the government or a teacher or a boss, equals the relationship with the soul. The ego of material identification must align to the soul to free itself from the neurotic doubts and fears of denying the reality of time (pict.). The reality of time is the absolute patronage over all matter we can never escape from. Denying this reality (pict.) is the real problem. In need of structure men quarrel and wage war's forming ego's of patronizing culture each claiming the absolute of the soul. But the absolute of the soul is the complete whole of all soul, matter,work (pict.) and time together. It is not just this Lord or that God. Nor just this mortal or that one or my matter only. Nor is it only fruitive work or standard time. It is the self ànd its ideal, it is the matter here ànd there, it is you ànd me, it is natural time ànd cultural time. This all together we tend to reduce and oppose patronizing calling the other less without us... The answer to this problem is found in the conscientious relating to the true self by lawfully defying possessiveness, emancipating our concept of work and employment, and managing the complete of time in a more sophisticated form than just standard time and the roman calendar.

Dating a woman one tends to forget these issues, but still she will only respect if he knows to be modest to an ideal, is not possessive, emancipated in his idea of what working would be, and realized in managing cultural as well as natural time (pict.) She represents the flowering world and he the control of time, while in reality her intelligence is in the sequential and his in the mastery of matter. Each represents the trade to emancipate to. She is proud of his mastery over time and he is proud of her management of matter. Without him she cannot really manage and without her he cannot really master time. Man and woman are each others patron but should be teachers to themselves. The masculine and feminine are also represented by the marriage of the two halves of the brain specialized in serial and parallel, time- and space control.(pict.) Selfrealization is to emancipate in this latter process of 'dating' and 'relating', married or not, of cultural time versus natural time. 

 

           g) Be merciful.

Serving the senses only and forgetting about the soul mercy disappears. That is egoism: no mercy. Intelligence is mercy. It is in your own interest to hearten the interest of the other. It is the cornerstone of all cultured people. It defines employment, economy, welfare and peace. Young and primitive cultures wage wars in the delusion of ownership while ownership only makes sense with the eternal value of sharing. Only if the private sphere is founded in sobriety (a bed, a chair, a window) can the rest of cultural glory be enjoyed. If everything is called for as a personal possession, no one will own much and culture will be inaccessible. No one owns the whole world, nor its cultures. Man can only pray for free access apart from a simple place to withdraw privately. With the concept of work and making money emancipated to the fruitless and incarcerated too, no one really works or makes money, nor is without function or provision. It all amounts to the reality of serving the order of the complete of time, matter, work and soul.

Any relationship (with a woman) is founded on the sharing of possessions and the sobriety of one's private. Dating one shares downtown and withdraws private. One works for the private of keeping (by abridging) the distance, but one dates to share the world and be present in person. In marriage this is also the success formula for wealth and progress. Together one also works for the private and making a distance to outsiders bearable, while socializing together can only be by going out and share the world being present in person. The tendency to deal with everything in the private sphere is certainly unwise as always a retreat from the world is needed to keep sanity. Overindulgence in the private sphere can lead to unwanted separation and divorce because of the eternal cry for freedom always present in each mature being. To be outgoing is a definition of mercy, while private unlimited defines egoism. 

 

           h) Respect her freedom.

She gives room to manhood, just like mother earth being permissive to the cultural experiment. Still, like nature going wild in storm and earthquake, she will demand her freedom too. One may suffer the illusion of a perfectly nice woman that would always abide by the wishes of the man. But that is just the sexual attitude. She is just as well a mature soul as he is, with the same tendency to dominate, manipulate, lie, and discard as he. Of course one can have a contract to divide the duties and set the limits of control over one another, but such agreements do not imply that she won't claim her freedom to amend to the contract or simply tear it up. The guarantee, the certainty is not found in this or that relationship. The certainty everybody is searching for is that of service. A person who has found his favorite way of serving the order of society has attained to certainty, whether supported or hindered by a relationship or not. To the concept of freedom certainly the notion of penance belongs. The world, nor the lady will always welcome one's service. One has to be able to forbear without confirmation or reinforcement for a long time. This is difficult and the inability to do so is defined as sociopathy, stalking and demoniac. If she, or the greater of society doesn't care, disappointment can lead to anger. Without the willingness and ability to do penance, which is nothing but continuing life without further appreciation regretting one's failures, one's whole life can be destroyed. Becoming a nuisance, a stalker or a psycho will certainly spoil the chance of returning. Important for being able to do penance is to understand why things go wrong. One can be hindered by one's own character, by the ways of society and the direct environment and one can be hindered by nature at large (pict.). One can have many theories of attribution why the continence of service was lost and regret would be needed. But the lesson is always that of maturity: a pure soul does not really depend on any one but the true self. Seeing all adversity as a challenge to selfrealization things come together some day. Many talents can develop and many ways tried. It is the nature of the world to present its alternatives by turn and make new constellations of reality all the time. Thus dating implies from the beginning that in respect of her freedom one's own selfrealization must be remembered. 

 

           i) Do not expect her to live up to your expectations.

This rule is similar to the previous one, but not the same. Expectations form a chapter in the book of psychology of their own. Fixed to certain role-playing people lose their freedom captured by their own desire to be someone. Life become's hell having turned into a servant of other people instead of being a liberated soul in service of the order of God. Of course the order of God is not without others so that serving others is not on itself the problem, nor as having expectations with them would always be a problem. People also enjoy building high expectations from a trip to the planets e.g..

The problem lies in the underlying order to which there is no single solution. Only a diversity of solutions can be with no expectancy of one dominating the other. Solutions can take the form of rebellion, conformation or reform by consent. In fact all three together work out properly: conforming to a forgotten option of order one rises against existing order to reform it by consent. The art of the revolution lies in the ability to complement and not repress what was deficient before. As time learns: one only has to accept the new not forgetting the old. Astronomically: the planets take a new position but do keep their own nature. Likewise one can expect from her to be new every date but one has to accept her staying the same person. Seeking another person will not solve the problem of everyone staying the same. Accepting time to make everything new the sameness will be more welcome and wondrous. 

 

           j) Always play safe.

Dating means taking risks. One is exploring someone else. One tries to discover how one relates. With sexual interest there is the possibility of intercourse as passion can take over reason. As well as to the interest of the body as to the interest of the soul precautions should be taken. A classical rule is to stick to one's own class and to avoid mingling with people thinking different. This rule has been overruled by religious and political reform. The social option of politics endeavors for equality, while religious reform has subdued the whole interest of capital, class and status (see colorcode) to the interest of the common denominator of the order of the soul. The scientific answer is formulated as psychoanalysis which would unify the people in a free association of selfrealization. Politically perverting in power, religiously falling in unreason and scientifically failing by paradigmatic opposition, the concept of unity in diversity was not achieved. Cultures of equality, soul and freedom on themselves would simply miss the natural harmony to achieve the alignment of the ego to the soul that was hoped for. Thus there are the ecological 'green' motive, alternative religion and new scientific paradigmata to cope more intelligently with the nature of the person as a reality of time and space, here and now, soul and ego. This expansion by the political , scientific and religious alternative forms a precaution against losing oneself in unwanted oppositions.

To the body also precaution should be taken. Whether of the same class or status or not, love is equal to all driving for spontaneity and forgetfulness. In the light of love we are happy to forget distinctions of scientific paradigm, birth or developmental stage and political preference. Opposites attract, the one needs the other, each light a shadow. This natural reality driving for social chaos necessitates the simple precautions for sexual intercourse. Accepting culture as a mating-ritual to the interest of the body there are condoms, pills, abortion and medicines against venereal disease. Still one can maintain that it should not be necessary to use all these means of prevention and treatment. Reducing the whole of culture to the sexual drive is a fall-down. Culture can also be recognized as the attempt of man to appease with Time, God and Equality. Sex might be the great liberator in defense against the domination of a time concept, an order of soul or a politic of equality, still it cannot be considered as the complete whole on itself. The philosophy of nature and the alternative might seem to be sex, but all that is unknown cannot be waved away as such. To each of the four options of religion, politics, science and natural living (pict.) there is sex. Trying to get rid of it will not be found in designating it to another outlook. With couples individual or world cultures collectively dating for a relationship of appeasement with the sexual, playing safe means to go on all these fours of culture and thus prevent the necessity of unwanted measures. A lack of sexual control can also be recognized as a lack of cultural content. 

 

           k) Have understanding for her feelings.

The world at large and the woman individual, or the feminine side of all men, is reflected by emotion. Feelings of hate and love drive for war and creation. The concept of control is found in the structural, the orderly, the reasonable, legislative and mindful. This latter type, considered typically masculine should not induce to a general idea of domination. On the contrary it should deduct its specific to the reality of the person. But how can there be any order in the world if anyone can do his own specific? This is the stupidity of reason: it does not understand that aligning ego with soul and reason with feeling is to be a specific self realized person not worried about power, religion or a system of time. It is not to defy systems, it is to stress the importance of one's own nature to which all feelings are born. Realizing this the woman will not be strange, nor the world at large a threat to one's own. The stupidity is overcome realizing the common denominator of all systems of time, religion and politics: it is the cosmic reality of the complete whole to which mankind must accept to live the consequence. This cosmos is objectively known as the celestial sky, scientifically known as true sidereal time, religiously recognized as a form of Lordship, and politically known as equality (peace) to all the worlds. From this all the emotions originate that make up her cosmic soul telling him to align to her to his own self realized nature.

Understanding her feelings means to take all this in account: there are the diversities of culture and the interests of the body. She will feel when one would be in conflict with the other without ever having red the instructions for use of any of the options. From him she expects to be in control: if he doesn't she will. Thus all the demands of dating her or wanting the world at large form a challenge of emancipating and selfrealizing manhood. 

 

           l) Avoid the necessity of preventive measures.

This rule, implied by the rule for playing safe, is in need of separate attention. Just playing safe one can easily forget as the culture would be the prevention. Still it is wise to take the serious wilderness of nature in account. Many believe in refuting the necessity of culture. Being negligent can mean one loses one's life or will suffer at least irreparable damage. It seems that one has to learn by experience so that wisdom is achieved by damage and disgrace. To say though that one must experience everything oneself is another thing. Prevention of some kind must be and begin with educating the young to the eternal values that on themselves form the best precaution. Because simply refraining from illicit sex, killing animals, gambling and intoxication cannot be generally expected, as it is simply tolerated by law as a compromise to the primal drives, some kind of 'translation' of the extreme of the values must be taught. As said, the common notion of clean, truthful sharing and caring, stressing respectively, preservatives, moderation, the altruistic and non-violence can indirectly award the virginal, the total abstainer, the tax-payer and the vegetarian with respect. Thus one achieves the reinforcement scheme necessary to discourage the necessity of further preventive measures. Clarity to the basic values is love while moralizing to the bewildered can be considered as being too late. Avoiding the necessity of preaching the only real solution is to live and prove the values effective by example (pict.). Thus the load of moralizing will weigh less. 

 

           m) Do not force.

People do not like to be forced. Although the law needs to be enforced, nobody likes to experience that. It should not be necessary that any force is exerted. This is the mature demand. It is our honor not to be forced but to live on our own accord. That is why dogs sometime's are better of and cared after than human beings. Animals can be forced, the human being must be respected. For that society runs on reinforcement: we have all kinds of jobdescription defining the duty and the reward. Duties forsaken will be sanctioned with warnings and salary cuts. Thus the human being is reinforced to do his duty. Society runs on the freedom of choice: one may choose how much freedom one sacrifices for an income. The basic duty seems to be social security: one has to check the media, socialize on a voluntary basis and fill in a form so now and then keeping oneself available for a more elaborate jobdescription. It seems to be the most simple job not demanding more than primary school, but it is not that simple: it is called unemployment because one may not refuse to be forced by society for necessary work. Although called unemployed one is paid to be available which is certainly a jobdescription. Thus people under the force of a demanding society are confronted with a paradox: one begins with a job for a certain income which is not considered a real job and even called a shame: one is too passive. Although everybody profits from the blessings of society these 'lowest of the low' are called profiteers. Society is not a religion in the sense of all being equal profiteers in the face of God. Only the one's who take more profit are not cursed with the negative denomination which is not reasonable. A social security income making a worthless consumer to be cursed for the sake of consuming more, reveals a general societal lack of selfrespect. As such the concept of God in such an unreasonable consumer-society is uncertain and can even be considered as corrupted on the scientific basis of the twentiest century society. Although science claims to be value free, one is free to choose, it certainly values the members of society to the capacity to consume. The way to survive psychologically seems to be having money without spending it so that everyone may be happy speculating on your capacity to spend. As such the philosophy of unreason may be considered counterproductive: reinforcing the capacity to consume, consumption and thus also production itself is limited. The compulsive attitude to call social security unemployment instead of a pretty responsible and heavy job, is better understood as a reminder of the economic and logical failure of consumptive unreason. This doesn't have to stay so. Without forcing people, people can be respected for what they are doing. From this respect, stressing the value of service more than the value of consumption only, there will be more awareness of the paradox that the honor of a job goes at the cost of the honor of freedom. The honor of freedom can only be understood and respected being liberated to a formal recognition of identity. The identity of the job of social security is formed by service to the order of Time defining the concept of God and the order of society as an impartial impersonal force of nature managed to reason and conscience instead of systematic unreason and unscrupulous roman egoism. Thus the dictum 'God is dead' may die a silent death without forcing anyone to anything. One can always be a vagabond, socially secured or be more entangled in the web of reinforcing society with whatever (more personal) concept of God.

To the process of dating this kind of liberation can be a blessing as relationships would be less terrorized by the one sided valuing of the capacity to consume, and more by the actual commitment of service. If the honor of the socially secure is no longer denied by the greater profiteer there will be more gusto for people to date. 

 

           n) Prefer going outdoors.

From our childhood we expect to be taken care of. For the rest of our lives this is the trust we have in the greater society. This trust is justified as people have no other occupation than to take care of the needs within society. There is one catch though: one may not accept without the permission to return. People even commit suicide seeing their return denied. Maturity implies give and take. If we may only accept the supermarket and not anything else first the individual honor and second the whole system falls down. Each man has to serve somehow and only by expanding the concept of service can society evolve. Thus everybody has to be outgoing for the sake of service. Dating the other sex must not be an exercise against this rule. Very easily the animal motive inspires for secrecy in the private sphere. Still the human alliance is called culture. One may escape to the bedroom so now and then getting rid of the natural urge, but still one has to go out and meet one's own culture. Without it no relationship will work. The attempt to catch a woman and lock her up with some kids will fail. Sooner or later there will be the call for emancipation and a more or less spiritual/psychological and religious selfrealization. The more it is denied, the more painful the reality will be. All mental illness can be understood as a failure of selfrealization. It is thus of the greatest importance to take the interest at heart by followingthe rule for going outdoors.

The outgoing mentality necessitates regulation. The world is very tempting while the capacity to deal with the complexity is limited. Thus one is in need of a scheme of action. One may cling to the gregorian calendar or follow an alternative scheme covering all days of the week systematically (see tables of this book for the alternative schedule of startime-dating to which also the clock can be corrected for the alternative of sun timing). Any schedule seems to operate perfect with the existence of an alternative. But caught in one system with no escape can create the severest of cultural claustrophobia: one loses consciousness always stepping the same treadmill of labor and leisure. 

 

           o) Pursue only if appreciated.

Woman, by the receptivity of their physical nature tend to acquire followers they not always have chosen for. It easily happens that a man lives the illusion of being appreciated while that is not the case. Just as with greater society there can be a lot of repressive tolerance. Whatever you do nobody may care for it since you are not the Sweet Lord Himself to whom all return may be offered. One must even consider it a liberation not to be appreciated as appreciation constitutes a problem of its own. It is the trade of Lordship to deal with appreciation as the normal human being has the healthy propensity to corrupt under attention. The more a normal sinner, fallen soul or profiteer is elevated, the greater his lie becomes as one is not holy to the falsehood and anxieties of the material ego of the body overnight. One should not steal the Lord his honor or else be willing to suffer with Him. To sacrifice does not mean one will get the credit always or completely or as one would like it. A righteous winner will always say: thank God, and thus excuse himself.

Forgetting that one might not be wanted because of the before mentioned one can become a nuisance and aggravation without realizing it. Thus one must always be prepared to withdraw. As life teaches us this will sooner or later happen to all who eagerly endeavored on a personal ambition. Afterwards one may wonder how far has been contributed to war and misery being the problem instead of contributing to peace and happiness being part of The Solution. It is certainly difficult for a man to, at the one hand, believe in himself while at the other having to refrain at any time as if one were the the devil himself. The inability to stop (see also 3h) characterizes the weakness called desire that turns so easily in anger to the individual or war to the collective. Still lots of one's life can be saved by regular retreat to withstand the fear to contemplate the shadow of action. All the lust to pursue can be turned into love realizing what one is doing in voluntary retreat. To have a holiday might not be the ideal strategy: one continues too long while breaking off too long also. To spread the need throughout the year in the form of separate days for socializing, study and festivity seems to be more wise. Thus tuning down the tempo of life can warrant a better continuity of service and social and spiritual positivity. Also in the process of relating and dating on the individual level it is wise not to continue until forced into the retreat of a maybe less wanted holiday that could end the whole relationship. 

 

           p) Accept rejection.

A man must be founded in his servitude to be a stable person. Depending emotionally one has to be able to stop. Sooner or later the other person will reject: 'I'm not yours, I have to find my own way'. Rejection must be accepted. Without this no society is possible. The right to refute the other is a basic of human freedom and a cornerstone of societal contentment. There is always the tendency to lose oneself in the clutches of material nature and take that attachment for real. Deluded by appearances one goes for this and that, him and her. But the world is not a toy to play with as one likes. The world is a woman that needs to be respected. The typical masculine is the independence of containing service to the interest of the soul. It is the God of time that moves all people to the definition of their being: this is your life, this is your nature, this is your business.

The inability of accepting rejection from the world and her in person gives evidence of ignorance about the definition of service. Devoted to the interest of the soul one will find oneself in a process of becoming: it defines emancipation for man as well as woman. This process consists of nine divisions leading to the liberated state: first one must be able to listen, second one must learn to speak, then thirdly there must be some kind of recollection to develop conscience and concentration: one must learn to contain the lessons learned. Fourth one must learn to help others to the same interest and fifth one has to accept cultural fixation: books, images, agreements, treaties, rules, etc.. To this, sixth, one has to learn to concentrate and contemplate as it is the lead, the symbol and the totem. Seventh one has to become a servant to this business of the true self, true of time and true of one's person. With that service, eight', one will develop friendship cooperating, while ninth one finally attains to full surrender to the service emancipated and liberated to an independent position. In one phrase the process means: by listening one speaks for remembrance to help being fixed in concentration to serve the interest of friendship in full surrender to the reality of the soul (pict.).

As for meeting the other for an enduring relationship usually dating in stage number eight will work out best as it unifies people in a common concept. Also clear is thus that being ill developed in the earlier stages will make dating less successful. First the business and then the girl will always be better. The classical hero liberates the captured woman or troubled world. This is how people respect one another: by the quality of the service to the real thing. To this one is formed by the ordeal of rejection. 

 

           q) Be willing to be meditative.

This pertains to the stage of concentration. Once the relationship is fixed it is kept by prayer, meditation and concentration to which one must be willing to continue for the rest of one's life. It is the attitude that precedes the attainment of service. Because of missing this ability many people have existential crises not knowing how to concentrate on the business of their interest finding themselves unable to build meaningful relationships. Not able to meditate the object of love the marriage of employment can never succeed or even happen. This can have many causes as one can be hindered from within, without or by nature, by attachment to illusions of selfhood, suffering ignorance having aversions taking the form of death fear (pict.). The three monkeys of deafness, prejudice and cowardice can block receptivity, love and action so that the process of emancipation to the mature state of liberated service cannot be. Lots of mental and physical illness can be retraced to this frustration of progress.

The rule of meditation directly follows that of rejection. Rejection cannot be accepted when one is running from oneself and the object of love in fact fearing the selfconfrontation contained in the meditation. In order to meditate one has to accept the basic values (pict.), withdraw and bind the energy of deconditioning from the attachment in proper physical exercise. Religiously this binding of energy is done by singing and prayer. Scientifically this is done by fixation and politically this is done by undertaking action. Naturally this is done by contemplating a fixed pattern of behavior to time: the bird flies south for the winter, the animals mate in the matingseason and the human being will bend and stretch for morning exercise.

While the animal by nature meditates on gathering food and caring for offspring, the human being is bound by culture. Culture is the human way of attracting and cohering to the life-force. To earn your bread and have babies is subjected to cultural surrender. The process of binding the energy is of essential importance to the success of meditation: failure to do so will lead to mental illness as one simply becomes psychotic arriving at the chaos of an unsettled self and will, missing one's own action, misinterpret the inner experience for the outer influence and material motive which is called schizophrenic. Not binding the energy proper also manic bouts and depressions will follow one another.

Taking the other as the object of love, dating becomes a meditation on the condition of containing to the basic values of clean and truthful sharing and caring (pict.), the willingness to withdraw and the capacity of binding the energy of deconditioning. From this way of relating to the world one attains to service, friendship and ultimately liberation in surrender (pict.). To the reality of time this means that for meaningful dating one is in need of a common denominator to which one can truthfully share and care, withdraw and bind one's energy. Practically this is a clock figuring as the common denominator of cultural love. Whether and how a clock should be ruled by politics, religion, science and/or nature is open to further scrutiny (see designs for a proposition) 

 

           r) Have patience with her demands.

A woman can be as demanding as God, the Lord Himself. For a man to be successful the world equally is very demanding. Evolution does not simplify. The ever increasing complexity of human culture humbles each. Dating her one must find the proper entry as if one applies for a job. She will select the most suitable candidate. Although each woman makes demands to her own nature - some seem easy but are difficult and converse - there is also the spirit of the time as the world turns. This decennium works a bit different from the previous one just as one woman makes another approach than the other. Also age necessitates upgrading. To the God of time one must be dynamic. The woman must stand by her man, just as the man has to stand by his woman. Likewise mother nature must be the support of manhood (natural science), manhood must also support nature. The latter proposition is more difficult. Taking her or greater nature as the lead one will be ruled by the world and become a slave of the senses. To the feminine matter of nature, time is the masculine principle or mover. A healthy man must be identified with the initiative of time: he is in need of a schedule, an approach, a state of consciousness to which he will manage matter, the world and her wanting. She knows that all scheming is relative and subject to change. Likewise the classical option for her is to tempt him into the lust of breaking away from his own scheme and follow the emotion of material attachment to her beauty, love and 'timeless' eternity. For procreation the man will have to give into this breaking of order. Some kind of honeymoon must be. But sooner or later the truth will be that she will respect him only if he manages to his own nature and order. The love-game may obscure temporarily with dyonisian lusts, but the apollonian motive for the common sense of reality will ultimately manage (pict.). Knowing this one must be patient with her demands. 

 

           s) Take responsibility for her situation.

A woman is charmed with his courtesy. Dating the other sex wanting a durable relationship a man must feel obliged to give proof of his ability to take care. Even the most emancipated woman has a little corner in her heart for prince charming. Even a prostitute will demand proof in the form of money. Somehow, whatever woman is wanted, responsibility for the situation must be evident. Without this proof she might consider the man as a little brother or a dog she must lead by the nose and discard when used. A man must not fall in the trap of being little brother or a dog offering nothing and using as much as possible. She will insult, belittle and discard him when he falls short in giving proof of his ability to care. Thus each man has a plan, a motive and an endeavor, or he'll pretend as if everything would be clear . It's not bad to live up to an ideal. She will also pretend to be independent while she is absolutely not so. The proof of manhood can be sexual, but must not be so. Especially in the beginning one must take care to have the higher motive dominating. It is very easy to abuse each other and lose respect. It is falling, and falling in love is the most common thing to lose oneself in. Still this rule must be remembered. It is not to pretend being holy, or of perfect selfcontrol. It is important not to lose the objective of caring and sharing to the truth and cleanliness of the ideal. Therefore one acts as if one is virginal, as if one speaks the truth, as if the whole of life can be shared, and as if one would eternally care. One may start of being ideal fighting to keep as much of it as possible, but everyone will admit it is not easy to stay holy to the lusts and God to the real. A woman is easily too permissive as a man is easily distraught distracted from his order. 

 

           t) Respect her initiative.

Although he is the initiative and authentic mover of time, she is the one knowing it to be all right or not. She will refuse if she senses chaos in his planning. She has an instinct to follow him in his control of space, as power over a territory is his ability. But managing time that way she always has the last word. She proves that awareness is more acute being a witness to time than being time itself. Therefore woman can consider men stupid realizing they are not as orderly as they had wanted. It is like mankind relating to mother nature: many concepts of time pass by, but her spin is the final authority.

Especially because men are such schemers and planners her initiative is of the highest importance. Although she might be the way of lust, fixed on her biology, tempting the man into knowing in stead of doing it, her awareness will inspire to actions that brings men down to earth. Simply living comfortably for your own sake and offspring not worrying about the 'big thing' all the time, is her love. So she will keep the home, the food, the clothes the kids etc. etc. to make him discover what he neglected if he forgets her initiative and love with his problems of societal control. Emancipation will teach him house-keeping, child care, cooking and cleaning while she will discover how the works of power function. To the evolution of the soul in the process of attaining liberation in full surrender of service (pict.), the whole business of sex differences will become unimportant. One can just as well be a homosexual ultimately discovering exactly the same process and equality of men. If one would reincarnate one must just as well be able to live the body of the other sex . The law of cause and effect would even dictate it, balancing each with it's own shadow. As the man gives proof, so the woman must also. Dating her thus also implies respecting her proof of feminine care. 

 

           u) If fallen in love, know her family, friends and religion.

The biology is strong. Very often the whole of culture is forgotten seeing the beautiful eyes of the other sex. Butterflies in the stomach and the mind taken away one falls in love wanting always to be together and make it together. Although lots of culture can be forgotten, family, friends and religion cannot be overlooked. Although the love-affair seems to counter the societal pressure of family, friends and religion it is not really an escape. One attains to another family, other friendship and other religion realizing the apple doesn't fall far from the tree. Not rarely the revolution returns to the position one revolted against. Evolution at large is a painful process of stressing matter to the demands of the time. Naturally not very much is likely to change in one generation. New wine in old bags, history repeating with other faces, another constellation to the same celestial sky. That is reality and therefore it is wise to take care of the religion, family and friends of the partner one is in love with. It is not always said that the same would fit. Also opposites attract and work genetically even a stronger outcome. Thus one balances between continence of culture and a healthy alternative to keep the vitality. 

 

           v) Better late than never.

Haste makes waste is the lead of this rule. Modern society deludes with fast food in fast cars managed by fast computers and fast training. But speed is no guarantee at all. Speed can give an llusion of timecontrol as nothing in the universe could keep up with the movement, but being stressed to tension and excitement wouldn't last longer than a motion picture. On the long run one simply has exhausted a lot and accomplished a little. To go fast is a form of escapism too. Not to deny the need for speed in communication and some action, it is not to be confused with intelligence. Intelligence is more built on continence in change than on change in continence. It is like the soul relating to the ego (pict.). The soul is the anchor, while the ego is the eventual material form. Forms are doomed to change while the soul as an objective witness in fact never changes. The continence in change defines the holy grail of eternal youth as the soul defines the validity of the ego. I am only real when the soul can be.

Thus a man can only really expect to attract and keep a woman if he is not a phony or false ego. The true ego is the one of full surrender to the interest of the soul. Therefore dating lovers righteously don't care much about being poor, unreligious, or non-social. Love overcome's all trouble. Being hasty about material benefit, religion or societal position can be more of a hindrance than a help. It is always good to say: I built it up myself, I realized it from within and I achieved it of my own. Borrowing virtue from riches, rituals and attachment can be a natural fact but are also a doubtful endeavor for the mature of the selfresponsible. The unique character expressed in the genes is just as important as the influence of upbringing, wealth and status. In fact the conflict of nature and nurture is not solved by racing the genes on one's own will or the environment to the adaptation, but by patient endurance until fulfillment. 

 

           w) Schedule your actions.

To the importance of patient endurance one must hold on to the daily routine not depending on this or that person, ritual or possession. People come and go, routines are tried out and possessions also are found as well as lost. Being creative hardly anything will hold but the reality of change itself. This reality practically is twofold: it is analog and digital, it is nature and culture, it is the solar system and the stars, it is the sequence as well as the repetition (pict.). As said, to schedule one's action a common denominator reflecting her nature is needed: it is the analog, the natural dynamic, the unique and the sameness in repetition. To this denominator there is the freedom of choice of practically any scheme of time wanted: suntime, standard time, startime, true sidereal time, mean time, the time of the moon etc. This is the naked sequence, the digital linear, cultural pragmatic of knowing the order of the day. The denominator is reflected by the division of the year: each day another position to the stars is taken repeated after one year. The other option to her natural reality is reflected by suntime; the authentic time respected by men throughout the centuries calling noon roman style number twelve. Practically as an individual one would only need a calender, a pencil and a ordinary clock. With the same division of time in 24 units, why more divisions if one is enough, the day is then divided to the sun by setting a clock to the true of time , while as said earlier the year trough one attains to 24 periods of 15 days, 48 weeks and six two-month seasons indicated by five (not the midsummer) extra days making the year complete (see scheme for dividing the year and correcting the clock under tables for this book). This clock and calender form the frame of reference when it come's to schedule alternatives of order for the day and the week. This way one harmonizes with her nature without losing control with her resenting the masculine chauvinist power game of cultural opposition. To the collective the business of correcting the clock by hand and marking the calendar might not be honorable. To that a design is possible for a new type of computer clock showing the celestial sky divided in twenty-four as a scale for the clock that would spin to the left along an indication of the sun one step for a star day showing true celestial time analog. Next to this this analog common denominator of the startime-clock a digital display would offer any time concept wanted by a multicultural world order from standard time to moon time and calendars for religious purposes (see designs for elaborate description). Thus settling time to the authority of her nature dating to begin with and relating on the long run will give less conflict with her, culturally, inscrutable being. 

 

           x) Make sure she knows your plans.

To follow your own way is not bad, to do it without the consent of others is an egotrip. Some kind of agreement is absolutely needed to have an organized society. The normal workload of life is built on the consent of others. The type of work that goes without consent is defined as irregular, egoistic and even criminal (pict.). Especially artists who have to give heart to the less wanted expression of feelings and ideas suffer the problem of becoming egocentric. Practically the artist will have to find a community of coworkers with a likewise philosophy to warrant the social control needed for the realitytesting that makes up normal sanity. Also people living on social security are in need of this as applying for a job on itself is not enough to have a healthy sense of community. Selfrespect and honor is found in social agreement. Social control is thus a basic need. Practically this means one has to be present as a person in order to be told or be able to tell others when things are deviating. Social control is a hot issue as the freedom of the individual is at stake. Always the individual must be respected in his right to withdraw and feel free from control. This is the private interest that come's first. First one should be free to partake in a social agreement or not, as only given the relief of that basic need can be spoken of social sanity.

At first instance dating the other sex or relating in a more advanced state can be confided in on the condition of a private place, room or seat to which one can withdraw and recapitulate. Practically this means that social endeavoring will fail without having a place of one's own. It is what can be seen in apartmentbuildings where people's first interest is to deny the presence of others. Only succeeding in attaining one's private the social reality can be as a game one can win or lose. To agree with her about the private and social interest will assure the success of relating. Nor stressing the onesided interest of the private alone nor the social alone will cover the total need of agreement. Politically the socialist and liberal motive have to agree in a parliament to adapt to the needs of the . This democratic attainment cannot be called off, nor for parliament, nor for the living room, without losing the peace and order of multicultural coexistence. 

 

           y) Do not forget the celibate discipline.

In love one can easily forget or even deny the interest of the celibate discipline. Still this discipline is the foundation of culture. The greatest misery in the world was caused by married people, and always the celibate respect of God and Lordship had to rescue mankind from the fires of material passion. Once the fire of lust is burning love with the passions of hell the only outcome is to withdraw to oneself, God and the celibate discipline. Passion that doesn't want to stop is known by its madness and warfare which grows rampant as a contagious disease affecting the whole world in a terrible fall down. At all cost this must be prevented. The only way to do so is to follow this rule of having the celibate discipline as the basis of all relations. Married or not, the soul of the celibate comes first. One is born with it and after the love-affair and little wars of attaining in society are over one must return home to the interest of the authentic soul eventually with the help of pilgrimage, religious retreat and the like. Only in the voluntary suffering of this penance for the sake of the primal celibate a lasting personal- and world peace can be found. In fact is is a stage of life everybody must go through in order to conclude to bearing and raising children (or other by-products of life) and open up to the detachment needed to overcome the fear of death. Knowing this it is wise to remember and respect from the dating in the beginning on, the celibate friendship and order that preceded, consented and is still supporting the cherished love affair aspired with her and the world at large. 

 

           z) Respect her advice.

It is not only the heavenly father, but also the holy mother that has to be taken at heart. Manhood can endeavor planning and organizing forgetting her completely and thus running like blind lemmings into the abyss of one sided selfdestruction. Man and woman, time and matter, spirit and the body, soul and ego, should not be separated and opposed in interest. It is the schizoid tendency of opposing everything in the games of life that obscures the necessity of appeasing and harmonizing the opposites. Thus to the interest of time the matters of local identity should be respected, to the interest of the soul the individual identifications of ego should be taken in account and to the interest of man the advice of the woman should also be respected. Mankind has to walk on both legs of dual reality in order to attain to a livable future and a proper sense of progress (pict.). Repressing one with the other might be the psychological reality of everyday life, but without the order that is reminiscent of the other reality, other rules and other world there is little chance to survive the test of time.

Respecting her advice is of course different from following her advice. A mature person shoud ultimately follow the voice of God from within and nothing else. People cannot be one another's followers once graduated to selfresponsibility. Still two know more than one and broadening the vision can open up completely new perspectives. One cannot live after one another always but without one another nobody can either. Being patient respecting her initiative to say 'maybe I will' would be the best promise of marriage. 

 

Chapter 4: Relations

 

a) Be a star.

b) Visit people.

c) Accept visitors.

d) Always work on appointments.

e) Always make a day for meeting new people.

f) Accept people if they want to join you.

g) Do not expect anything.

h) If you want to get rid of people: do not take further initiative and accept the consequences.

i) Try to avoid buying and selling, lending and borrowing.

j) Give away without expectations of return.

k) Always tell where the line is.

l) Beware of accepting submission, betrayal, lies or foul play.

m) In case of harassment: request the authorities for the necessary actions.

n) Return unwanted articles, borrowed good or pay for the damage.

o) Speak to the mind of the other.

p) Be interested.

q) Help.

r) Guide and direct if given the authority.

s) Respect and appreciate.

t) Avoid talking religion and politics with friends.

u) Never forget your family.

v) Be honest and truthful.

w) Accept a game, be a good sport.

x) Talk over troubles.

y) Avoid free sex, intoxicants, financial speculation and the use of animals.

z) Accept gifts in return.

 

 

 

 

          a) Be a star.

There are different ways of relating to people. One can choose to belong to a group. One can also choose to be as independent as a star. Of course both is important. No one stands alone. There are always parents, cities, nations, races, sexes and creeds of all kind. One does belong to many groups this way. Still the only authority that will last is the soul. Everything is directed from the soul and everybody must take responsibility for one's own actions, to whatever group one belongs. Each group has an identity, an ego, a material set-up and a strategy to take care of the interest of that matter. This ego is not necessarily in service of the soul. There can be a lot of lipservice to God and the soul, the party or the science, while in reality everybody can be hiding behind the back of the other with no one really taking responsibility. Systems preach their own interest and the people can take it or leave it. Once the ego is fixed the soul of personal responsibility tends to die. Once the Lord said this, then the leader said that, an so and so the laws of the scientific paradigm cohere. Therefore the living soul is expressed by constant reform.

As everybody knows, it takes all kinds to have man real. From this and the common wisdom that from all can be learned and that ultimately everybody must take responsibility whatever group one belongs to, can be concluded that a mature person must be a star: a focus of experience with a constellation of preference that stands on its own relating naturally to everything and everybody around. A star-relationship means not to belong specifically to this or that group, but that the individual has accepted responsibility and does not refer to another authority but to the authority of his own soul. Whether all souls are ultimately the same Super-soul or not is a theological debate. Sure is that relating to other people a conscience of reform is needed and the realization that the self remembered is not the same as the material self remembering. 

 

           b) Visit people.

Often the interest of the soul becomes an exercise in selfhood. One doesn't want to get distracted, tempted, deluded and one concentrates oneself on one's own business. Selfhood has lost its openness: it does not freely associate, nor does it notice the needs of others. And not knowing the needs of others, how can one serve the other in the interest of the soul? The whole meaning of life is lost without the concept of servitude. One has to serve the fellow-man, the society with the consideration of God. One must serve the interest of the soul in the first place and not lose oneself in actions opposing. It is not blind servitude but conscious servitude. It is, to the soul, not the material profit but the profit of proper association that comes first. To attain to proper association one has to visit: then one has a free choice and then responsibility can be taken. People want to serve each other and if they don't ask more for their services than they need to keep their servitude running, one can freely accept service and visit to one's choice. Naturally there is an exchange of goods, services and money. But with everybody being interested in servitude in the first place the material problem can be solved.

To be able to visit one must know to be welcome. Normally, with a proper formulation of exchange this is not the problem. To visit a shop and buy something is quite easy. In the personal sphere this is more complicated. Going for any person in particular might be a problem because of the material ego which is a source of fear. Any soul identified with the body experiences fear since all matter is subdued by time and has to change form because of that. Any attachment to any person will give this realization of fear. With people serving in the interest of the soul this is less the case as with people in service of the lower interest of merely the physical body. But still, as soon as the name of the person is given, the conflicts of the ego begin. As soon as the interest of a material body is involved one is lowered to the motives of the senses and the frustrations and fears of identification. A common trick to diminish these effects is to live by the day and spontaneity and not by any expectations towards anybody in particular. 

 

           c) Accept visitors.

When one has to accept visitors, the trouble begins: one has to serve the soul in order to escape from the fears of the ego. Accepting people visiting, one can only say yes or no and determine the date and time. There is no question of free choice: the freedom is lost with the seeking of your body and habitat: one can escape by hiding behind a crucifix or another image of God, but that will fix the mind on the (non-vital) immobility of the image. One can try to lead the people away to another less personal place, but then, depending on others owners, one has less control over the situation, while still being held responsible. One can invite a speaker or performer of some kind, but that will not answer to the demand for your person. So, once people are after your body, there is little chance but to serve the soul, serve the people and take responsibility for the material set-up in denial of any profitmotive.

To the soul one needs to comply with the complete whole to which a choice of structure, a conscientious settlement of time is needed. This must be dynamic with the highest diversity possible. A program is needed to serve the guests with food, shelter and a show for good remembrance. The show is preferably colorful, with music and speech in service of the order of the soul: one has to make good memories not to be cursed by the guests. As stated above, there should not be a fix to anybody in particular but a preference of free association. The want for freedom and personal spontaneity limits the show. The more there is of the same, the less probable attendance will be. One goes to the theater because another picture is shown. One goes to church because another sermon is given. One visits friends because another conversation and/or party is wanted. One goes to the pub to be with another group of people. If people are coming for the soul and not for your ego you must be a (servant of) God. Since that is never completely possible, taking visitors will always be a kind of slavery: always you have to serve them, be polite,modest and attentive, while always something can go wrong for which you are to blame. Still the illusion of being cared after by the visitors and the inspiration from the people driving for a show, with the advantage of doubt (...), and the possible offers given by them, will together compensate enough for the damage suffered.

A common solution to the problem of the fearful ego and the suffering soul is to consider soul and ego the same. The duality is finished and thus the (mental) conflict: only the unreason of stagefright is left over. Of course this is just a trick of the trade. Duplicity of pretending soul with ego will not endure. In fact the solution is to give up asking for attention and, tuning this rule down to the impersonal, even willfully escape from people going for your body. To the ultimate order of liberation no body can be pursued. 

 

           d) Always work on appointments.

There are three types of work: material work, unwanted work and work for the soul. These are normally called, labor, crime and charity.(pict.) But things are not as simply divided as that. For the soul one works also with material outcome. For the soul the work is not always wanted either. Nor is unwanted work without material motives or without a soul. Important is not to forsake the soul in the first place and secondly to work in agreement with preferably the laws of the country in general and on appointments with people specifically.

Promoting the interest of the ego only, work becomes a nuisance, a disturbance for others, a conflict of identity and motive. Promoting the interest of the soul only one often gets stranded on theological debate and the ego of liberation: tradition. By no way the whole of society can be subdued for this or that religion, Godhead or system. The only realistic way is to develop a freedom of choice, settling which alternatives are to the law and which are criminal. Only simultaneous coexistence of different systems make a healthy society. Therefore the agreement of law should always be respected in the first place, amending for it in parliament to suit the time. Secondly, to escape from egoism and its madness, relating to others, working or not to whatever definition of work, the interest of the soul should prevail. In a welfarestate soul means to abandon the animal principle of survival of the fittest. Basic social security is in the interest of each. No wealth is happy without the legal settlement of rewarding basic adaptation. Without it the game of society is a compulsory neurosis hating for the profit living in fear. Soul also means independence and emancipation. This should not be confused with the individualism of ego-desires: possessiveness and false pride. Instead personal openness prevails as the soul is developing conscience towards everybody. To a more scientific concept of soul the emphasis of its interest goes to education more than to religion or politics alone. Religion and politics find their place within education, with the interest of education being to go without profitmotive being free available for everybody. The latter is the ideal of an informationculture: all information is neatly programmed organized and available to the common people in each home as an interest of state. To buy and sell information or limit it within one school only makes false elites and islands that block all real societal progress. Knowledge is a possession of the common people. To digitalize the complete of cultural fixation and have it available in a central computer(network) seems to be the only solution to the problem of attaining free choice, consciousness, progress and soul. As everybody knows, the only real happiness is the one derived from the soul. 

 

           e) Always make a day for meeting new people.

Depending people are enslaved by their weakness and sympathy: they have become attached because of their unregulated lives and resulting desires. One goes downtown, to have some distraction, but not to meet new people. One restricts oneselves to one or a few only being unfresh in the psychology suffering prejudice, deafness and cowardice, fearing and projecting in a negative deluded state of mind. This is the unliberated state of people traumatized by uniform and identityconflict missing a formal concept of liberation. The formal concept of liberation comes with service to the scientific notion of cosmic order: peace by the the dynamic of coexistence. To time it is not a problem to get a clear picture, to the greater of culture and nature it always impressed as a chaos, a maze to run through for the rest of your life. Therefore the soul is founded in a clear understanding of the dynamic and diversity of time constituting the order in the chaos. The chaos cannot be undone or denied: one is free to be whatever (pict.). A renewal of world-order cannot settle for this or that religion or political system of statemanagement. A new worldorder is simply to recognize the impersonal of God in the order of time. This cosmic consciousness will make people independent and free from psychological instability to a great deal. The personal of interest, emotional, political, or religious, will not be such a compulsory burden with the opposition of a neatly organized concept of time keeping the soul to its natural ground. With this liberation of all personal interest mankind is able to set a day for being open to meeting people they do not know already, thus overcoming the paranoia and fear of the unregulated. 

 

           f) Accept people if they want to join you.

A neurotic person, is not so sure of himself nor of the society he partakes in. In fact his basic emotion is shame and his basic response that of rejection. The neurotic just want to get rid, always feeling themselves rejected and abandoned. Neurotic society runs on the ego-system of the refutation by its not-paradigm. The only model of thought is to say no. Finding no real stable concept of order, nor within themselves nor in the onesided political and religious notions, one always quarrels about everything not having the same definitions speaking the same language. To the soul as a construct of Time (God) there are many definitions securing some kind of personal 'essence', being quickly mystified and dealt with magically. It is not to deny the existence of magic and wonder in the proof of the Person of God. It is simply to the sane mind of not needing it that mankind must find its honor. By no means the worship of U.F.O.'s and other miracles can be the objective of the worldculture. The question is: do we tolerate others, extra-terrestial or not, to join us? Do we really have something to be proud of. As long as we are schizoid divided in our awareness of space and time and neurotically unsure about our compensatory culture, how can we ever accept the other to our own?.

The next problem for having a meaningful society is to accept the other contributing. The other, once accepted as an equal to our own can still be an object of repression: you may join me, but not determine. This is also problematic. One cannot have the duplicity of false leadership. Each has its own capacity to align the ego with the soul. It is an art about which one cannot argue in fact. No strife about taste. One can understand more or less, today better than tomorrow. But to condemn the other because he or she is different is nothing but condemning oneself. To recognize the same interest of soul in the culture of the other man is the mission of society. This is the actual love of nature: all may be and are free to contribute as they like. This turns the old philosophy of becoming sophisticated within a school of thought into a filognosy of appreciating all the knowledge in practice.

Of course there is the eternal problem of fixed culture. To each social activity there is a contract. Anything outside of it is rejected. Fixations are the headache of mankind and amendments its quarrel. So nature commands gradual evolution whereby the old is not repressed by the revolution of something new, but wherein the old gradually assimilates the new as an expansion of the field of choice. The greater possibility offers more opportunity, more work, more awareness, more freedom, more chance and will be more sane and happy. From smoke signals, we have a telephone, from a phone a radio, and from a radio a t.v. computerized for the information-net. Thus culture is able to recall its own actions and have a soul as such. 

 

           g) Do not expect anything.

Having structure people are quickly caught in expectations thus seeing their free association ruined. Fixed to this or that literature they cannot think otherwise, fixed to this or that person the others are denied and fixed to this or that time elsewhere or later one looses the awareness of the here and now and the vitality of the free will. Fixed to the person, leadership makes the passion that perturbs the goodness of the mindful. Fixed to the thing one feels stranded in matter, and fixed to the time one suffers the choice and stiffness of a scheme. Therefore it is wise not to expect anything. From a leader one must not expect to be excused for one's activities, from artifact one must not expect to be happy and from the corset of a structure of time one must not expect the totality of God. In conclusion one may say that to be selfresponsible, in sacrifice for the things that matter, and to suffer the limits of a schedule make up the normal attitude of dealing with the inevitable of expectation.

Of course there are many tricks to break the madness of expectations. Lots of people lie and make false promises, just to satisfy the expectant. To be spontaneous in the here and now is a common cure, and to accept invitations without a promise to come is also common. Last but not least everybody learns to celebrate freedom on his own, whether the other is responding or not. When the only valid expectation is to be aligned to the soul, then all of this trouble can be tolerated and even be overcome. To be able to swallow disappointments and insults is a necessity. To endure is important. It compares to the immunesystem: one is in need of resistance. For that one is in need to be fit, properly fed to the body and the mind and free from toxic and other perturbing agents. Fostering a weakness one loses it: the devil breaks trough and ruins the discipline. No resistance, no tolerance and the adaptations cannot be maintained: one has to retreat and repent, drop out and tune in another way, gather new strength and have a better strategy; this is the way of experience. A book can say so, but not having experience, one doesn't recognize and forgets. Parents may tell the children, but if they e.g. enjoy sex liberally themselves, how to keep the children from it. It is practical example and theoretical support that runs society. From the thus holy we derive cultural propriety, step by step evolving our concepts of holiness. 

 

           h) If you want to get rid of people: do not take further initiative and accept the consequences.

Forsaking initiative the law of cause and effect will command a diminishing of activity. This learns that the love you get tends to equal the love you give. Nobody loves you when you're down and out. Game over. Also one can invest a lot of energy and find nothing in return. That is like paying the bill: a certain type of love has to be returned. To get things done with, to reach aconclusion is very important. Without it desire will continue like an everlasting fire. The art of getting things done with implies the third type of work: charity (pict.).Working, not for the fruit, but out of love for mankind, desires are overcome and conclusions are reached. Only finishing a job will give a job done. Maintaining the desire for the fruit, the work never really gets done. One may pray for an eternity, but without a conclusion to the sin the world won't be a better place. So relationships change: people disappear and other people come in view. The association changes, just as the quality of the work. Progressing the quality will increase. Tired of the old ways, refreshed by the new approach, initiative for the lesser quality is lost. Only respectingthe dynamic will give progress. Attached and fixed to the old ways (and people) quality is lost. Going for more of the same, quantity won't solve the problem. Only with people equal in the interest of progress one can continue.

The consequence of leaving people behind is that one has to make a school. There can not be theft, one has to leave a trace: this is the way to progress. Others may follow that way. Without this the world would constantly collapse when leaders die or withdraw. The leaders built up the system that works like a school they can graduate from themselves. 

 

           i) Try to avoid buying and selling, lending and borrowing.

To buy and sell will subject everyone to the laws of money. While God can be money, money on itself is not God. Like so many truth's irreversible this must be remembered. Corrupt one can be on any level of material life. One can be a good pauper and a bad one, a good millionaire and a bad one. Money doesn't discriminate between people. One cannot judge a man by his bankaccount. The higher principle of discrimination is to give without expecting return and to receive with nothing but gratitude. Practically this means that one should love to pay taxes and make a happy, grateful society and a meaningful government at the one hand and to be happy just to receive some basic adaptation reward for social security at the other hand. If both rich and poor can be happy, then society can be considered a game people always can enjoy to play. As long as the rules of the game are clear, the game can be called fair play. This is to be the condition for fair justice: clarity of rules and equal chances on a basis of social security. The opposite is duplicity and social fear with everyone insecure being a thief depending the way you look at it. Finding money an institute of distrust one can set the ideal for free provision of goods and general gratitude in respect of the system providing. This means that desires would be under control and all work would be properly done. This also means that everyone would know his function with identity being a given reality. Progress would then be defined as natural expansion in quality more than in quantity.

It is a difficult point for a culture depending on artifact not to go for lending and borrowing. Not promoting the acquisition but sharing of goods one depends on borrowing from a library or other type of storage and then there will be always a shortage with an obligation to return. Information can be available in a computingsystem without further lending, borrowing, buying and selling. This is more difficult with furniture, household appliances, jewelry and clothes. An evolved society can provide for homes including the decoration and utensils but the choice will diminish because of standardization. Just like with formal clothing diversity will be lost to a certain degree. This is not bad given the freedom to participate or not. Both systems can coexist. One can have a formal system of provision interested in serving the order only, and one can have next to that an informal society of free association being liberal to any desire of the ego or alternate definition of soul. The informal will depend on money and personal possession as it is serving any desire of the self, while the formal system will not pay anything to anyone but simply provide for what it needs to maintain itself. Freedom is to have the choice to be a servant of the order or to be a servant of the freedom of desire. Nor the freedom can fight the system, nor the system can fight the freedom. Both are needed. It is like work and leisure: one defines the other, while each on itself is a form of slavery. 

 

           j) Give away without expectations of return.

To any type of social order belongs a system of provision maintained by the people for the people. Things are simply given in return of membership. As to any family or greater social system there will be a counterpart formulating freedom - e.g. social security as opposed by the vagabond - there will also be interaction between the systems. The system will tempt the free people by free provision to participate, while the free people will only condone the system if they are also free not to participate. It is the complication of the human psyche not tolerating any diminishing of alternatives. Culture longs for the freedom of nature formulated as paradise. At the other hand doesn't freedom in paradise make much sense without the permission to enjoy the culture of picking from the forbidden fruit of knowledge. God only makes sense if we are permitted to act as if we were Him. The ideal will always, by definition be unattainable, but always we want to enjoy the illusions of power thinking we have attained needing nothing more.

Some maintain peace is only given by the first, others maintain peace is only from the latter. Truth is that life is defined by the vitality of peaceful coexistence. The tendency of going at the cost of others may not obscure this. 

 

           k) Always tell where the line is.

This rule implies there must be some explicit confession to the implicit rules. If no line is drawn, people do not know their limits. Order implies rules which must, sooner or later, be confirmed. Without that confirmation no stability of selfawareness or clarity of soul will be possible. This defines the groupego as a construct of rules which will be overcome by the pressure of time that changes all form. Maintenance of the system will be guaranteed by loyalty to the eternal values of sharing, caring cleanliness and truth; of renounced compassion by the pure and celibate motive (pict.). This basic notion of discipline is the lead for all adaptations of the rules to time and circumstances. To each material affair renunciation is the lead, to each social set-up compassion is the lead, to each personal involvement, sexual or not, the clean of the celibate is the lead. This rule of thumb will clarify the further ramifications of rulemanagement and its adaptations and will give the guarantee of durability wanted. 

 

           l) Beware of accepting submission, betrayal, lies or foul play.

The command of compassion obliges the members of the order of the soul to accept all kinds of wanting people. These people are not always familiar with the rules and can develop submissive behavior to others. This must be taken care of by providing information and eventual guidance in study. Sometimes further communication necessitates educative interaction of teachers and pupils. To normal adults this is unwanted. The mature person is supposed to be able to study on his own and retrieve the discipline lost. Ill educated people, called low in intelligence must catch up by temporary regression to the juvenile state. This is a great problem. Regression is in conflict with the dictum of independence and often people continue ill-disciplined until the doctor and death make an end. The physician offers a chance for recovery in common penance for the sake of progress, but death at best offers a new body in an altered family to start from scratch with the same (cultural inherited) innate character of soul. Therefore initiation to and reeducation by another concept of order is called a second birth. This also clarifies the concept of death as not only being the destruction of the body. 'Another body' can also mean to have another order. Not only with submission one must take the greatest care not to 'kill' people pressing for another order, but also with the general state of deluded outsiders-ignorance one should be very careful. To the ego one tends to betray the other, to the material motive one tends to lie and to another set of rules death-fear will inspire to foul-play. Taking to the advantages of its free provision people sympathizing with the order will not always be sincere. They will try every possible way to prove the system a failure against their freedom and will find excuses for disloyalty. This puts the greatest demand on answering all possible questions while maintaining cautious reserve. In short the aspirant may have nothing to complain and see nothing but advantage in the expansion of his possibilities while not being completely informed about everything. The system being permissive to a life in freedom may quickly replace or pass people incapacitated in motivation or blocked in progress and always be prepared to reaccept continuing on the same line as before. No one can really judge how and why people drop out or tune in. It happens and all that seems to be important is the freedom to participate or ignore. In sum initiation to the order must be simple: one publicly confesses to the order and is then requested (by the order of society ) to identify positively (dressing up and answering to its demand for service like: 'I want, truthfully and clean, to share and care'). Success of order is thus defined by the capacity to answer to the demand for service and to be clear about its rules and outlook. The groupego thus formed is not bad as it is submitted by confession to the eternal values (pict.)of the soul. 

 

           m) In case of harassment: request the authorities for the necessary actions.

Love can be a heavy burden. Relating to people there is a lot of harassment. The law tends to harass the people with forms to fill in and elections to go for if it is not an international conflict to mobilize with. Lovers harass one another until love is saying no. Preachers harass the people, programming them with a morale that follows them day and night. Parents harass the children to obey perfectly which never is a complete success. Teachers try to program the students also with some serious dubiosity for an outcome at times. Commerce is constantly trying to make you to identify with your consumption, as if those desires would continue all day and employers keep harassing employees to be perfect machines, which they are not. Life can be a complete hell of conditioning with little chance to escape from all the demons of harassment. Still this is our love: that is how society coheres. The eternal question is how to get liberated and be free from all harassment.

To be your own judge is nice, as confronted with a complete system of all kinds of conditioning it is not difficult to understand the motives of the vagabond. To be a man though implies the burden of society pressing for a choice. One cannot escape choice, nor choosing. Seeking association and help to counter the harassment people form alliances taking care of the needs. This always runs into conflict with the mature option dictating selfresponsibility. So, the real problem is that of detachment: how can I detach without losing control and independence. Some believe animal behavior is the outcome, looking at the freedom and independence of the animal state. A sane human being though knows that without truth, cleanliness, sharing and caring there can be no such thing as basic trust, loyalty, provision and love. Humanity is founded on these values knowing the animal state to be of constant fear for survival, egoism, scarcity and lust. Therefore the authority is defined as the representation of these higher values. Normally it is simply the law and order of the state providing for the maintenance of these values condemning crime, egoism, shortage and abuse. Knowing conditioning to be the crux of the harassment all that is needed for detachment in liberation is to know the final authority ruling the state itself. Knowledge comes from consciousness and consciousness comes from coexistence. Thus the authority is simply found in the peaceful and tolerant coexistence of alternatives finding its common denominator in the eternal reality of natural time nobody can change. The eternal values (pict.) are a natural byproduct of that eternity: God in the form of natural time itself confirms in its repetition of night and day the trust of a genetic program, the loyalty to natural order, the provision of things grown by nature and the love for the sake of offspring. Man is not simply the animal in this using its greater potential. There is only one shadow in this: the higher you rise, the deeper you fall. 

 

           n) Return unwanted articles, borrowed good or pay for the damage.

Material life means accumulation of goods. Most of the things we buy, some we borrow. First of all one should not be indebted: things of which one is not the owner should be returned or else for the damage there must be compensation. In fact the whole concept of ownership as stated earlier, is a great problem. Of course there must always be caretakers concerning the material interest. But to the question of ownership there is no simple answer. If I call myself the proprietor I am simply possessive: it violates the value of sharing. If I deny ownership I don't take responsibility which violates the mature option of independence. Ultimately the common denominator of order defining the authority must be called the owner delegating responsibility to caretakers. This makes the state and its system of maintaining and instigating order the authentic owner. Normally this is expressed by taxcollecting: to every accumulation there is a debt to the state to be paid to guarantee the societal order wanted for the maintenance of management. The problem of accumulation is solved by either giving the state (the people) what belongs to the people: a fair share, or to represent the order of the state and take responsibility for managing the money and goods accumulated oneself. Usually both is done: an enterprise accumulates, cares for itself on the one hand, while at the other hand returning to the people what has been taken. In other words: human order is defined by share and care.

There is also the problem of unwanted goods: they can be wasted, resold, recycled, upgraded, replaced or stored away and also be put in museums, libraries, archives and/or memorybanks for later use and study. For society constantly renewing itself this can be a great problem. In fact the state should take care, but in reality no one wants to take responsibility for the complete of cultural artifact. Things are supposed to organize their own maintenance. Thus a lot of culture is simply wasted with humanity suffering the danger to suffocate in its own waste on the one hand and having no recollection, conscience and soul at the other hand. Thus the answer seems to be: limit the drive to collect, care for the unwanted goods and waste wisely not to pollute the environment.

Confession to order obliges. 

 

           o) Speak to the mind of the other.

There is a big difference between thinking for oneself and thinking for the other. In fact the mind makes no sense thinking for oneself only as it is the laboratory of social adaptation. The spirit is called holy if this is understood and effectuated. The reality of our material motives in the spirit of selfmaintenance always pollutes the holiness of the spirit: there is always a selfish motive to be put under the restrictions of regulation. The drive that gives the goodness of the spirit is the mind directed for the sake of the soul towards others. It is not enough to sit in a corner and just meditate for the sake of the soul only. That is no soul at all since every person is socially defined. The most important part of the conscientious selfremembrance is the one remembered by others, not to speak of the Lord Himself. In fact what the person himself can remember is a heavy censored copy of the personal story. Having repressed with goodness allthe failure and experiment that led so far, the person finds peace consoled with the idea of accordance with the holy. Still he has a workload because of that past (pict.). All kinds of bad habits, unwanted conditionings, a lack of knowledge, social mis-adaptation and lacking proof of commitment make the ego squirm en pervert its vision of reality to suit the necessary consonance with the mode of goodness (pict.). It is a basic law of the psyche that all of nature confirms itself and cannot abide by a mind in conflict. Thus everyone sees himself as God, knowing very well one is not. This is as said, the common lie of life maintained by the normal unregulated of lust. The goal is to see God, the soul, the complete whole of the cosmic reality as it is. The vision of the divine (pict.) cannot be separated from the others as no denial of one's basic social nature will do. Of course one can behave like a solitary animal for the soul of paradise a long time, but sooner or later that interest is in need of social confirmation in want for the human potential. Behave like a happy animal of paradise one can, but deny the most precious gift, the body to 'the image of God' nobody can.

Thus the essential nature of the mind is to live in service of the soul and God in the first place, just to discover that the concept of soul and God has no meaning in denial of one's own physical reality. The instrument of love cannot be denied in the realization of the reality of love. The body cannot be denied its function: it works of its own governed by instinct of survival embedded in its original nature: society. Thinking for others can give the illusion of selfdenial not to be important oneself, but order can be trusted. Goodness rules the other souls too and they have to think about you as if you were the best man himself. As everyone knows: life is give and take. 

 

           p) Be interested.

Directly following the previous insight of the social nature of the soul is the insight that going for the others cannot be without being interested in the others. Maybe thinking for the others is obscured by the want for results: I want food, money, sex, recognition etc. But no sane mind will forget to watch the road one is driving. No sane person will forget to speak the language of the people one is wanting from. It is not to deny the material motive, it is to subdue the motive to the simple interest one has to take in others going with a mind thinking for others. Only thus one can recover the complete insight needed to find the reality of the soul and be happy with the God that took the form of Time. This is not a futile argument, since many people fear Time as the great murderer of all that is living. Time grinds everybody to pieces just seeing a linear flow from the past to the future. But time is not just linear: it is also parallel: time makes a counterpoint of happy harmony of all kinds of integrities working their incredible sciences in the love of the great fugue of the cosmos. Realizing there are many going the same way one isunited, recognizing the difference one realizes the personal unique and the games of living. Seeing the great structure of harmony one is relieved from the fear of chaos. Seeing others remember too, having a conscience of time, one is freed from the fear of being forgotten. This is all the reality of time; time is not just the clock ticking (pict.). 

 

           q) Help.

One insight follows the other: knowing the mind to be inseparable from the others, knowing one cannot escape from being interested in the others, one also realizes that to help each other is the only way to have reality as it wants to be. To deny the natural ability to help, the aptitude will give rise to deathfear. If you do not use your hands to help you will fear to loose them as you know very well that everything neglected will dwindle. Just serving your own purpose might, as said, obscure, but not refute the factual motive towards the others. Its is essential fear for liberation and enlightenment that will keep the ego in the motives of the obscure. But no man can live in darkness alone: one is pressed to the reality of light, love and mankind. Forsaking the motives of the obscure defines enlightenment as the reality of regulated love. The fear comes from the identification with the body: one cannot escape from it for a lifetime and sooner or later the consequence of selfrealisation has to be taken. The more one meditates on the reality of the soul, the less it makes sense to deny the function of the body. Liberation is then found in servitude for the sake of the soul: as it is everybody's interest, as it pertains to eternal values (pict.), the inscrutable Lord, the all powerful omnipresent God, the complete whole of the cosmic and the total of past and future in one (pict.), one will stop worrying about that little bit of matter making up the temporal body that always must suffer birth, disease, old age and death. Being fixed on that is the anxiety-complex called neurosis: from matter one can never be sure, but from accepting Time as the form of God to reconcile with one finds enlightenment and liberation. In the end everybody has the same conclusion: he body changes, but not the witnessing of the soul. That sameness takes away all fear of life, enlightenment and liberation. Everybody thus learns to serve the spirit and will stop running away from the internal voice of God. 

 

           r) Guide and direct if given the authority.

One must take responsibility for helping and thus guide and direct if given the permission. Of course unwanted help is an offense against the mature option: the only sanity is the selfresponsible; all kids are a bit crazy more or less, just as all men are a bit crazy realizing the existence of a supreme being called the Lord. From this one could say all serious effort to be sane is heretic: only denying the Lord His Person, one can be mature and self-responsible. But that is a confusion from the outside. As said earlier, another general law of the psyche is that independence can only be on positive identification with the 'father', the ideal self or outside authority in general. All kids play daddy with little toy-cars, all little girls play mommy with dolls: that is how the way maturity works, and no one will deny it, although it always seems to run into the pit of 'primal sin' or dissatisfied overlording material nature.

The monkey learned to copy behavior: it is our misery, it is our love. It is also the positive identification with the less wanted authority of the animal propensity that gives trouble and obscures the pure of human intelligence needed to be a proper guide for others. We not only want to be like the Lord, we also want to be dogs and cats, vultures and sharks, rabbits and fleas. Men shave their beards fearing to look like a lion and will rather fight than cry fearing to become like a mooing cow. Woman paint their faces and perfume their bodies fearing to resemble a pig and give a more natural smell. That is mankind: we do not just suffer the likeness with the Lord, but also our propensities with the animal kingdom. Thus guiding and directing will always suffer these impurities and only a conscious confession against posing as the Superperson or being anxious about the animal nature will keep us from the madhouse of war and schizofrenia. 

 

           s) Respect and appreciate.

War and schizofrenia, fighting against others and against oneself instead of fighting with one another and with oneself against the delusions of the material affair, are the result of losing respect and appreciation. In the death-fearing denial of our essential nature of being social, interesting and helpful, we lose respect, get frustrated and angry seeing (the interest of) 'THE SUPREME' denied, and thus fail to appreciate life at large and the present world in particular (pict.). It is in the formation of ego that this down-fall takes place. Inevitably one has to adapt to the demands of the physical body and its greater social context. This adaptation takes the form of ego, religiously called primal sin, but commonly known as egoism, or blind selfinterest. The game becomes a war, once one is identified with the material result. One may not betray the Lord, but one cannot escape betraying oneself, going for the money, the recognition or simply the material artifact of one's service. A way out of this would be to skip all names from all the paintings, books, goods and religious exercise. To whom could we take it down then, just proposing collective responsibility. But the reality of selfinterest makes this impossible. Names are needed for quick reference like a password or entrycode, making it the only escape to refer to the divinity of the impersonal God who, or better which is the only reality that can bear the full load of appreciation and respect. No name, religion, Lord or demigod, devotee or sinner, mortal, holy person or whatever artist will do. They are all subject to change with the greatest problem being the conditioning to one fixation that will never endure and satisfy in the flux of time. Only the realization of the reality of objective change as not being a horror of destruction, but a feast of differentiation and renewal will give the stability and order the soul needs to find itself back (from time to time <pict.>). 

 

           t) Avoid talking religion and politics with friends.

To the interest of the soul and material body people conspire in alliances in the field of political and religious reality. For the sake of the ego on the other hand the complete of natural science works alliances of friendship and complexes of denial making more headaches and bewilderment than there were before the endeavor. It is, with friends in the first place of importance not to confess to any other alliance than the domestic science of this or that friendship. One will gossip to the ego of the alliance about everything and everyone anyhow, but to keep together, the infection of politics and religion must be kept away. Religion is a business- agreement of education, just as politics form a business agreement of material management. Friends should not teach each other a lesson, because that is defined as a quarrel or fight. Nor should one conspire for a material outcome for that politic is called crime or subversion without formal confirmation. One must not endeavor to change reality by making religion or imposing a political motive if one wants to stay friends.

What friends talk about is the more or less domestic of science. This will bring them ego and games of intelligence in confrontation with which they can waste their soul for sake of fun. Materially it can never be more than art that is discussed as art is the science of alienation. Too much of it will drive all the friends away as it is all ego. Less to the artful and more to the bourgeois soul of the domestic science will give lasting friendship. Of course the bourgeois will give no lasting peace and happiness. One either dies more or less resisting to the pressure of one's offspring or one will suffer the wasting of one's culture and intelligence clinging to the result until death will wipe that ego out of the soul. The enduring bourgeois is not so creative apart from acquiring and possessing, so that at best they make nice collections for museums protecting the alienation of the arts of sympathy. Ultimately the conclusion will be: above friendship there is only the principle of full surrender to the commandment of emancipated independence in selfrealized service to the God and soul of Time. 

 

           u) Never forget your family.

Going for the soul one can deny the complete of one's family. This can lead for a while, just to discover that one family is exchanged for another, not having solved the problem of expectations, social control and personal pressure. Seeing the family as inevitable one has to abide by its laws: do not deny your love and nobility, it obliges. Ultimately the whole of mankind is your family and to deny your obligation of nobility is to deny yourself your own life. One has to carry the load of one's own choice, the alternative being the escape in the animal condition which will always give fear and loss of control. The proper strategy is not to deny this family for that one, but to lessen the workload. By conditioning to the material, being unregulated and governed by the mad of unstable psychology, one is caught in compensations and enduring weaknesses like jealousy, anger, desire possessiveness, delusion and false pride (pict.). These conditionings to the material body and their degrading effect take all the energy and intelligence to find a way out. They have an economy and resistant ego of their own. One seems to be addicted, enslaved and possessed by the demons of the weakness. The solution is found in purification of the discipline of life. The purification lessening the workload is found in the construction and order of the interest of the eternal values of basic truth, cleanliness, sharing and caring. Practically this can be achieved by checking the attachment to e.g. one's bookcase and domain for fixations on literatures, other articles and intoxicants of consonance supporting the degradation, withholding oneself from energy consuming secret relations and activities with oneself and others, stop the justification of stealing and killing by becoming more vegetarian and protective to the weak and vulnerable and to spend part of one's financial reserve to the charitable and good cause (pict.). Keeping money in reserve, not being indebted, and promoting the independent position is o.k. (pict.), but to expect God from living in the security of a vault without serving the cause of God is folly. Thus coming to one's senses the load of the energydrain and sickening viciousness of the material motive will lessen. To be taken in account is that giving in charity needs organization. To take responsibility oneself is always better than to expect others to do that for you. Thus spending in charity implies also spending time. Just giving your wallet or change the vault into a temple won't give heart to the personal necessity of well-doing. Everybody may beg in the name of God, but want for money may not obscure the fact that the most wanted is to take heart in the name of God yourself. 

 

           v) Be honest and truthful.

One must be true to one's original nature. One can be a true and honest liar: I sympathize, I deny myself in compassion, I live for you. But that is not God, that may be God but can also be= the hypocrite, the liar or the coward. If God is compassion, compassion doesn't imply God. It is a fundamental error to consider an element of a category as exclusive for the category, while it can very well belong to another category too. To the concept of God we think God is all, so nothing is excluded from God and therefore compassion is God. But God is irreversible to His creation. Creation is part of God, but never God complete. The medium is not the message. Everybody knows the package is not the content. God being the content, we speak of the devil, the other category, if it is just for the package. So just for compassion is just as well the devil of materialism and egoism. So too, honest and true to the discipline, the person, the order, the ritual, the sexual, the book etc etc can just as well be of the devil. The package doesn't make the content. It is the first error to reverse the truth of God as God is always more than any derivative. Even the soul is not God, as souls can dwell in ignorance.

The concept of original nature as the essence of alignment with God must keep man awake. It means that no recipe will do but the dictum of adaptation to time and circumstances. Any order or conditioning of time will be broken. Time is the master, the soul has to follow. Time is defined as change, thus no fixation will last, nor will any physical body live for ever. The pain of evolution is bigger the more you deny. This is what honesty is all about: God can be me, but I must always suffer the reality that I cannot be God. The religion of independence is the science of selfresponsibility. No one can be accused for the pain of change: evolution makes more complexity and we must follow the time. Remembering this is what is meant with truthful. 

 

           w) Accept a game, be a good sport.

The game of the soul is called continence: who can contain the most the longest, the best, the happiest. That person who always wins is called the Lord. He is known to live in contempt of matter: we may kill Him, but he will resurrect, knowing that the remembering is not as strong as the remembered. We may respect His material form, but He will change the laws of nature in a miracle to prove Himself the master of the game. The remembered lives for ever. He who perfectly remembers is the Supreme Lord, the supersoul. Men always play the Lord-game; it is the game of selfresponsible adulthood. To his game continence is the key. The challenge is to find the essence of continence. This essence is the quality of goodness. He who gets angry is the loser. Many think the continence of seed is the essence as sublimation of the drive is the essence of culture. But that is the fundamental error. God may be the continence of seed, thoughts and culture, but can just as well be the giving of seed, thought and culture. Goodness is the essence and not a biological mechanism of cultured celibacy. Others think it is the continence of power that is God, since God is power, or the continence of love that is God since God is love. But power is energy and love an act, both being temporally conditioned they cannot form the category. Continence with time ,maintenance , is called to be of the mode of goodness (pict.) and is a basic definition of God (pict.). But God we will always lose holding on to a strategy of time. Time may be eternal, but not the strategy. The strategy is ego, the goodness of change is soul and the reality of the soul is God. As the Lord holds the key of the game, we must be a good sport and be able to bear loss. I is to laugh knowing that we can always be losers: it is the definition of humor. Thus a holy man is more recognized by his wit than by his suffering. It is the Lord who doesn't laugh. That is the price of His victory. All man want to see is the Lord laughing. He will let us win too. He can be love.

Playing the game we must deny Him: He does not exist otherwise we cannot win, and if He exists we must believe He wants to lose willing to be love. For that He must be an act, while the supersoul doesn't really act but for witnessing. Therefore any belief in the Lord is founded in the conviction that He will appear as the messiah of a specific cultural game of Lordship. Once having appeared He must be denied again in order to continue the game. Some go crazy for this, some simply die for it. Most of the people play the denial without the belief that He will will manufacture one's own fantasy-god or idol to the psychological necessity of fixing the ideal (stupidity is defined as defiance of the ideal). To the Other Rules the game of Lordship is the godfearing of independence: the Lord Himself may also participate.  

 

           x) Talk over troubles.

Since time changes and rules change too, we always speak of The Other Rules. They are never exactly the rules written or the rules spoken. The element of uncertainty is essential to the freedom of will. It cannot be denied (pict.) We have to suffer the mild neurosis of not always (or mostly not) being Him or our ideal or true self. This is the eternal psychology: doubt to the uncertainty of everything to keep the maturity of personal judgment, leads to the trouble of some temporary neurosis. Clinging to the fixation the neurosis will aggravate and culminate into mental illness. The neurosis is the result of clinging or attachment to a material fix formed to escape the fear of losing form under the pressure of time. So, any fix leads to the trouble of false certainty - denying the fears of change - and neurotic uncertainty fearing the loss of the fix. This is traditionally talked over: we have a lawbook, but must amend. We have fixed taxes, but must discuss the spending to find out the fix must change. We must invest, to realize that must change at the end of the project. The only way out of the trouble of time and its fixations, fears and neurosis, is to talk about the trouble and decide upon solutions to the Lord-game. If the talking fails with a parliament or personal relationship in recess, then war is looming. Missing the command of reason, only physical action remains. As physical action must find its end, destruction and violence will be the consequence, varying from mildly disturbed contempt of Lordship to international warfare to prove one's superiority the unreasonable way. Therefore the show of discussion must go on. Political, scientific and religious to the tripolarity of the Other Rules (pict.), alternated by the opposites of rest, study and festivity, there will always be trouble in the Lord-game to which talking it over is the most peaceful and constructive way to fight the war against the illusion of not-goodness. 

 

           y) Avoid free sex, intoxicants,  financial speculation and the use of animals.

The fix that can never be kept perfect is the fixation to the rule defining the basic command of the eternal values of truth, compassion, cleanliness and sobriety. To avoid free sex is the principle command of cleanliness, to avoid intoxicants is the command of truthfulness, to refrain from gambling is the command of sobriety (moderation, penance) and to avoid the use of animals is the command of compassion. Everybody knows, though, that sex is ruled by spontaneity, truth by liberty, money by speculation, and compassion by sympathy with the animal. Therefore these rules can never be perfectly followed without suffering a great loss off spontaneity, liberty, playfulness and sympathy. There will always remain a difference between values, principles, reality and virtues: one presupposes a value, lives according a principle derived from it, has to compromise in reality and makes finally a virtue out of it (pict.). To cultivate these values to the extreme of subcultural perfection is called sectarism and fundamentalism. It will never be more than a school fixed to a traditionfrom which graduation is imperative to stay healthy. The only way to maintain perfectly to the values is to teach them and be the teacher. But that teaching will always have to carry the load of the immaturity reinforced by the teaching: it is the dog of wisdom biting its own tail. Real progress will have to be imposed by maturity from the outside, as from the inside of the school nothing but the necessity of the immaturity-opposition can be expected. Once the basic values are in respect of the independent position the school and its inequality becomes obsolete. 

 

           z) Accept gifts in return.

As everyone knows, life is give and take. You cannot only give and not take, nor can you only take and not give. So, departing from the necessity of giving (service) one must take too. This is more of a problem than it seems to be. To give love is far more easy than to take. That is why there is mention of Lordship. Because people cannot control the love they get, but only the love they give, there is someone we call the Supreme Lord. As 'normal mortals' we are undeserving: with the love we get we tend to abuse; be selfish, wage wars, spoil the planet, corrupt and make money instead of love (making both money and love is a definition of prostitution). Thus accepting something, a gift, or a form of service is a problem. The continuation of a relationship depends on both parties accepting. If e.g. a political party does not accept the contribution of a member that membership becomes meaningless. If she has to accept a golden ring for marriage, he will have to accept too. If I want to contribute, I must accept others to contribute too. If the Supreme Lord would not accept offerings, His existence would end. Likewise normal men in society must learn to accept each other's contributions. It is because we refuse another contribution that our own contribution is refused.

There is one gift that has to be refused though. The gift that refuses us to give something back must be refused. All a little baby can do is make a turd in return for his food. And the small one is even proud of it until it realizes it shouldn't stink that much. Then it makes a drawing etc. etc. A woman that may not give her love will sometimes refuse to eat: she becomes anorexic or a drug addict. A man that may not give his thing can develop a mental disease that can destroy the whole world: a dictator can be a frustrated artist (pict.). For the purpose of accepting contributions society has libraries and museums and the like. All that is the problem is free access for all so that all may contribute to all. This is where the profitmotive drops and love without expectations of return can develop. For lending and borrowing being a problem, since we have to get rid of the expectations of return, we need a dispensable gift that does not destroy the gift itself. This is realized by digitalization. You get a book and waste a book digitally obtained without any expectations of return. That is virtual giving: one is liberated to contribute without any other expectation of return but a basic concession of commitment to the medium.

Real giving is more difficult: it is not just the thing, but also the person and his physical presence that must be accepted. The twentiest century is characterized by a crisis of unemployment: mankind doesn't know how to serve with hardly any service really needed by automation. The solution is to drop the fruitive action as a criterion for service. One must not offer so much a product as a service to the necessary order. Peace is the highest product as war will destroy the basic interest of all. Answer to the problem of unemployment is to invite, but not oblige, all the people for service in the profession of peacekeeping demanding nothing but the ability to read and write (primary education). The justification is that keeping (a righteous) peace is more productive than motivating to break it. One could call that new profession securityagent as security is the prime motive for maintaining basic societal interest. Security is attained socially by means of social control. Just material security is attained by guarding property in formalized consent, while social security is attained by guarding law and order. Thus a securityagent is a professional with a status between police (the law-enforcer) and the normal citizen (the subject of statelaw). He is the one calling for the (social)law, but not the one enforcing. He can be registered electronically (e.g. by the use of a creditcard) as socially present (away from his private address) by means of contract for a certain period of time by his free will and can be called for as a witness in case of crime passively or call himself for law-enforcement actively by means of (a silent) alarm (just like any other citizen). He can be protected by the legal status of state-official so that he may not be insulted. For optimum freedom the minimum of twenty hours/month at a zero-salary of 10% above regular social security can be settled (10% being the amount of money spent on being present elsewhere to be free with the profitmotive: socialization-subsidy). And that is all of the security-jobdescription needed. The rest is settled by recognition of his (free)dress of commitment to the underlying order of status and professional orientation. He can be single, married, withdrawn or detached as well as intellectually oriented, oriented as state-official, as commercial reinforcer, or as labor-supporter. That defines social control and liberation of the socially secure for a formal identity. Thus the institute of social security may engage in active service for the sake of social control and normal professional recognition while still permitting people to be passive and more free on the old and problematic lower level of unemployment-adaptation-reward and recognition. Not everyone wearing the dress of formal liberation belongs to the active part of the institute of social security or greater society identifying with the system.

In summary: giving may not imply the repression of service for the sake of social security, identity, control and formal liberation. This sanity of human relations can all be on the basis of respecting the basic values of clean and truthful sharing and caring. If the return of social control in service of these values is refused, the whole security and continuance of social order is in jeopardy as people must not (but may) be motivated for other means of identifying and cohering maybe less conscientious and peaceful. 

 

Chapter 5: Marriage

 

a) Marry for procreation.

b) Adopt children or medical help if childless.

c) Avoid adultery.

d) Avoid masturbation and sexual petting.

e) Care for a common culture of sublimation.

f) Work on agreement.

g) Care for relatives, tradition and ancestors.

h) Plan sexuality to avoid mutual abuse.

i) Avoid blaming the other.

j) Be clear and converse about relevant social topics.

k) Care for emancipation of you and your partner.

l) Hold together in education.

m) Consult impartial outsiders in case of conflicts of power.

n) In case of divorce separate the possessions.

o) Avoid violence with and against children.

p) Treat children as equal as possible.

q) Have days of festivity and leisure.

r) Go out with the family.

s) Play and appreciate the media together.

t) Beware of making dependence.

u) Keep former relations and be charitable.

v) Have some private space for each.

w) Share your secrets.

x) Take care of surprises and alternatives.

y) Keep the house tidy.

z) Bear poverty, adversity, disease and loss.

 

 

 

  

            a) Marry for procreation.

The commitment a (wo)man makes to the world compares to the commitment to a women (or man). The world is there made from matter and maintained by material activity. A woman is also a material manifestation of mankind. The demand of the relation is love: the man must be love to the world as well as to the woman. Childless one can practice the art of making and maintaining love for a long time, but unfulfilled the sexual drive will drop away and seek other ways of manifestation. Fulfillment of relating to the world and the other (of also the same) sex is defined by material outcome: there must be a product; a child or cultural artifact. As said before the highest product is peace with the more mindful work being closer to the soul than the material gratification of the lower senses only. Anyhow to any marriage there must be a form of material outcome. Even the spiritual marriage of a nun to her convent and Lordship is in need of the expression of her material service to the order: holy articles e.g. are also matters of fact. A preacher to a religion must talk people together as a material proof of success. Thus a normal material marriage between a man and a wife has the simplest basic duty of procreation. The nature of marriage will change dropping the simple sexual motive for another outcome. The more cultural the outcome, the less probable (necessary) the marriage will be. Solution to this problem is to be productive for the soul making conscience and selfremembrance. To each making though there is the shadow of passion preaching the necessity out of dissatisfaction with its absence. This shadow can take the form of anger, lust, jealousy and fear (pict.&pict.), defining the pain of evolution. The closer to the interest of the soul the greater the chance of purification from the shadow and of harmonizing with the existent as an expansion. Forgetting the interest of the soul will spoil the chance for purification and make the contribution a repression instead of an expansion. Unpurified, repressing one goes downhill ending in madness, disease, war and degradation. 

 

            b) Adopt children or medical help if childless.

Not rarely marriage goes without the blessing of offspring. This way people can be very unhappy and unfulfilled. Marriage should not be the selfservice of one's own lovemaking these people realize. Love is in need of an outcome is the general rule. The energy invested must give some return. One can feel terribly exhausted losing all tolerance for further engagement finding love unfulfilled. Marriage is thus seen a process of dating, engaging, marrying, and begetting children; clearly a material definition. Following this definition not having offspring would necessitate the adoption of children or even a medical intervention to promote against the will of nature. Especially the latter option is heavily doubted. One does not recognize the physician as a representative of God forgiving people their sins by mending the broken chains of natural consequence. Ovaries can be blocked, seed can have lost vital capacity and stress might cause rejection of the unborn. Recognizing people as servants and representatives of divine providence can be under the condition of consent to an order that encompasses the holy, the traditions and the natural logic. A physician in respect of the eternal values, not being estranged from traditions or the logic of nature, can be considered a representative and thus be trusted as a high priest of healthcare. To God and soul everything may be tolerated, while forgetting that interest the same thing would be despicable. It is not what one does, but the way it is done, that is decisive. The social control of the order of the basic values is as said the guarantee for proper functioning and thus only by overcoming the fears of formal identification and liberation the integration of science, religion, politics and natural demands can be.

To a less material definition of marriage the same holds for begetting other material byproducts than children. For writing books, plays, painting paintings, building houses etc. one does not need to be sexual. On the contrary postponement of the act will show the subliminal culture of creation as a game of sexual attraction without engaging in the sexual act (thus liberating sex in fact from its cultural isolation). The same way as a rooster can have feathers to enhance his sexual outlook, culture can have religion to protect the sexual interest. By the culture oF celibacy the animal interest of material marriage can be covered. Religiously it is called a sacrament, scientifically professional commitment and politically party-membership. All together culture produces a lot more than just according to the natural instinct for offspring. Also failing to contribute culturally because one's receptivity is blocked, the vitality of continence doesn't function or cultural influences hinder the inspiration, one can resort to the help of 'doctors' or adoption of the cultural products of someone else. This way the West got all kinds of foreign teachers, while foreign countries got all kinds of western help and equipment. Although equally doubted as well, in short by integration of the worldculture everybody can progress despite the fruitless marriages of a selfcontaining culture. What holds for physicians helping fruitless couples physically can also be true for teachers and authorities helping other cultures to progress: if there is a common concept of order to the divine of the eternal values all the strange and doubted can be tolerated. 

 

            c) Avoid adultery.

What is adultery? It is not simply the marital infidelity. It is much more. It is like heresy, a revolt or revolution against the constraint of culture. People take it as a disaster of marriage; a personal thing. In fact it is a cultural problem. Everybody desires after the fullness of God in fact in need of emancipation from a low level to a higher level of culture (pict.). Not acquainted with the content of emancipation (pict.) people simply displace the problem resorting to adultery and the like being deluded by the material affair. The fullness of God pertains to beauty, fame, power,renunciation, knowledge and riches (pict.). The church and the nobles used to give evidence of this. But not grasping the logic of these effects the whole concept of emancipation and surrender to the order of liberation is obscured. One does not attain by attachment to any of the effects of the Order of Time. What is decisive is to evolve, progress, expand and contain with time learning that it is quality and not quantity that counts. It is not what one does or has, but , again, how it is done and owned. From that the logic of fullness will be evident.

The name of content is found in the conscientious remembering self that evolves through different layers from the physical to the powerful, from powerful to the social, from the social to the heartful, from the heartful to the confessionate, from the confessionate to the insightful and from the insightful to the true of the divine self (pict.). On the course of this personal and collective evolution one realizes the logic of the fullness showing itself as the life of knowledge in renunciation attaining riches by sharing, beauty by harmonizing, fame by celebration and power by consent (pict.). Not knowing because of attachment, stealing riches, desiring beauty in disharmony, losing fame by celebrating egoistically, and corrupting power by breeding opposition one defines the true nature of adultery. This is how not only the wife, but the whole world is betrayed by unfaithfulness to the soul's interest of emancipation. Remembering the importance of emancipation to the interest of the soul from the beginning of marriage will keep from adultery or render it unimportant if it happened. To the basic values adultery is simply the unclean. 

 

            d) Avoid masturbation and sexual petting.

As with adultery the other most popular alternatives of sexuality are part of the same escapism. It does not really matter if you divert yourself in adultery, petting one another or masturbating the frustrations away. It is all part of the same problem of personal and collective evolution. In a system that is confused and out of balance and exhausted in its possibilities, there is nothing left but progress by the exploration of alternatives enriching life as a whole eventually transforming our ways and opening the gates of evolution to a higher level of civilization. It is good to be heartful from the schools of religion, science and politics. Certainly a lot has been attained to the level of the heart. But what is the collective confession about? One tries to escape in perversions fearing the unknown and the consequence of confessing to the truth's already realized for so long. Rather have that as a painting on the wall or a book of criticism in in the bookcase or have it neatly organized in a computer !?. Delving in illusory concepts of enlightenment one clings to the freedom of a private unlimited of the informal suffering all kinds of madness, identityconfusion, uncertainty, delusion, anxiety and other mental derangement. It is no wonder that many marriages fail because of missing the essential of personal and cultural progress. The heartful of material culture, supported by politics, science, religion and holidays for 'the enlightenment of nature' does not free one from the neurotic and schizoid of modernity. Heartful of matter one runs dry impersonal, politics suffer their endlessquarrels of opposition, religion loses in fixations, science on the profitmotive and the love for nature fails on a lack of cultural positivity. Just to make money and enjoy, to work and pray is not enough. It needs further integration (pict.). Next to days of working, the saturday for the homereligion and the sunday for penance from the fruitive motive, one also needs days to be merely social and outgoing no longer keeping distance with the media, days of study and contemplation without fruitive activity or socializing, and days of celebrating natural order as the prime of God (table). To keep mankind as a whole and the individual on himself from the escapism of the sexual alternative one simply has to formulate and investigate an acceptable alternative that is no repression but a suitable candidate to expand to. Twentiest century culture is like a plant in a pot too small. It takes some care to have the sexual roots not growing into themselves like with masturbation and sexual petting. An exception to this rule is all sexual approach within the context of foreplay: as long as the goal is procreation it is not unholy to stimulate each other sexually. 

 

            e) Care for a common culture of sublimation.

If the sexual habits must change as the waste of that energy is not productive and runs dry on being no solution at all, there must be transformation of that energy. Taking that energy on the higher level of exerting power, being social, going for the heart, confessing to a higher order, gaining insight and finding the fullness of the divine in everyday life, a common culture of sublimation is of the highest importance (pict.). No marriage between individuals or between individuals and the world will last without a conscious control of culture by settlement to the demands of power, society, the heart, confession, insight and divine integration. Power needs fixation by global legislation, society by divisions of statusorientation (pict.), the heart by formalization, confession by initiation, insight by scripture, and divine integration by settlement of continence in everyday life (pict.).

To the individual that wants to subscribe to this, as worldorder can only evolve from him, this practically means that a common second worldlanguage must be learned by all which will be English, the language of the new informationculture. Only with a common command of language a common law can be attained. Secondly the individual may identify with the system of statusorientation (also see pict.) as formulated in previous chapters to settle the identity as a candidate without any further initiation, confession or control. Thirdly one may sublimate to the heart by formally recognizing one another as a candidate to get obliged to the order as one likes. This formal engaging can fourth be confirmed by initiation, that is to say public confession to the basic values on all three levels of commitment (aspirant, recognized, advanced)(pict.): 'loyal and honest I shall care and share to the honor of my commitment'. Fifth the individual may delve in meditation on the scripture, and contribute himself in writing and/or teaching thereto while finally sixth, he or she may fully surrender to the service of the soul by answering to the demands of the order and its association. This final surrender would logically mean that such a person may expect all care from others as one cares oneself without any further exchange of money or goods. In the ideal situation with many members of full surrender the order would fully care for all the needs of the individual, like a family that cares for its children.

Next to all this formality on a realistic level of not having attained to anything of these ideals of personal liberation any marriage may still be endeavoring to contain on the sublimation of being engaged in a division of labor, formally confirmed by legal marriage, outspoken in moral confession, considerate of spiritual knowledge and positive to any congregation of the divine. To have a common culture is the best guarantee of continence.  

 

            f) Work on agreement.

Of course tripping the ego can be but will not suffice. As an experiment anyone can try anything, just like an artist. To have a marriage or commitment to the world at large really working though, agreements are needed. People in love may be private in their interest, but sooner or later the involvement with the greater society will prove itself in need of confirmation. As no one is an island, neither a couple or other 'folie a deux' can continue without further adaptation and integration. Social control might be a great hindrance as all kinds of deafness, cowardice and prejudice may judge and block the private experiment of evolution. Evolution means either pain or madness, death or disease and to walk the tight rope in between is not a simply social or anti-social affair. In fact to the God of Time constantly amending is required with a firm hold on the science of the soul being the best guarantee of continuation.

Going without any confirmation can be for a while, but totally out of the dialectic of the communal one will certainly burn up to ones own initiative. Therefore it is of great importance that as well as the individual as society at large stays alert to the expressions of selfrealisation that might seem rebellious, heretic or immoral and deviant. To judge one another is easy, but to understand is a bit more difficult. A society or individual not receptive to the reality of progress in general, or the signs of individual growth, cannot correct itself, nor control itself or confirm and celebrate itself. Within each marriage and between society and the married this alert to the reality of change is equally important. With no positive development at least the signs of an obstructed development should be timely noticed to prevent madness and disease.  

 

            g) Care for relatives, tradition and ancestors.

From the fundamental value of caring as a cornerstone of the house of culture can be said that traditionally in respect of the ancestral, relatives should care for the human interest without any expectation of return. Contrary to care there is selfhood that lacks in compassion and excels in competition. Competition might be a nice concept to play a game with, but to the interest of compassion it might be deleterious. Compassion is not a simple sentiment of sympathizing with the weak and needy. It is a big difference whether one looks down upon or is really selfless willing to live with. It makes a lot of difference to feel and live with human beings only or with the greater of nature in totality. What is tradition, whom do we call brothers and sisters and whom do we owe it to?. A narrow mind sees the wife and children only, like any selfish animal seeing the rest as competition or fodder. A broad mind might be more intelligent recognizing the interest of strangers and other species as one's own and the interest in other woman as a challenge for emancipation to realize equal human beings. To the tradition of mankind there is a lot of confusion about what our roots really are: are we meateaters competing with the greatest predators eventually devouring each other too or are we naturally primates predominantly vegetarian of interest living in peace and harmony with nature as a kind of potter-monkey? Especially because of populationgrowth the answer to the question becomes pressing. Following the lead of compassion as the key for the concept of proper care having the concept of competition and its selfhood as an opposite of predatory interest, one could logically hold on to the vegetarian way of life as an attainable idea of the future. The vegetarian is certainly the tradition of the spiritual discipline that founded our present culture making the sympathy with the neanderthaler love for hunting and gathering less dominant.

Not just considering the future of mankind as a whole but also the interest of maintaining within a marriage, the tuning down of passion by the lead of compassion seems to be an essential born from the eternal values of the soul (pict.). Practically this means that to love relatives, to be in touch with a broader concept of the ancestral and to have some respect of cultural tradition simply following the vegetarian motive replacing the meatproduct with bean- and dairy-products is indicated. Less the passion and more the compassion, there will be less adulterous deviation, more interest in human emancipation, less estrangement from relatives and the interest of harmony with the greater of nature and more continence in respect of the ancestral foundation of the spiritual part of culture.  

 

            h) Plan sexuality to avoid mutual abuse.

Sexuality is a very important issue to maintaining a marriage or keep the family of mankind together. Sex is the greatest love man knows. Of God it is the most popular characteristic wanted. The divine of sex is everybodies ideal and dream. Sober reality though dictates it a bit different: culture frustrates the primal drive of sex to keep us really brothers and sisters and once engaged in sex very quickly lovers notice the dangers of abusing one another selfishly. Love and lust are easily confused and not knowing the difference can give rise to a lot of relational troubles. Not rarely all kinds of tension are artificially created because of justifying the sexual release. Sex can become compulsive and neurotic losing all selfconfidence and personal certainty and respect. It can become a bad habit or an addiction. What is worse than spoiling the most beautiful of physical love there is?

In sum the sexual is always in need of regulation. We can't just do it in the road or with any stranger anywhere as abuse is bound to give trouble. A license is customary to guarantee the approval of the community: for sex one legally and religiously marries. Without it also settlements are needed: contracts for living together or keeping the bond as it is on mutual agreement. In fact lust is turned into love by all this kind of regulation. Whether the sexual motive dominates or the cultural motive, whether one marries before having sex or after, nobody likes to be abused and everybody thus is in need of a settlement of sex. Often people resort to masturbation in the face of all cultural frustration because of planning the sexual thing. But also to oneself the same truth is valid. Is there a real difference in relating to oneself sexually or involving someone else in the habit? What really counts is the ability to cope with the dynamic and complexity of culture. Losing the ability one may pervert or perverting sexually one may lose the ability. It can be a vicious circle. Good sex and good culture is what the real marriage with her and/or the world is all about. 

 

            i ) Avoid blaming the other.

The most famous of the human fall-down is the theory of attribution. Who is to blame for all the trouble: is it the meateater, the fundamentalist, the damn scientist, the wicket politician, the pervert, the wild artist. Who is the devil in person anyway? Aren't there enough criminals already? All this accusing and persecuting ofscapegoats in the name of some attribution-theory is a shadow of the need of a personal God. Thepersonal God is formed from the wicked of man that is in need of chastisement. The classical hero,knight, prophet, supreme personality, saint etc., descends from heaven with the judgment of Godmoralizing for better behavior in the sense of depending more on the soul than on material gratification. It is because mankind as a whole deviates from the 'straight path' and not because some single person would be bad. Just as it is unwise not to respect the missionary of God, it is equally unwise to consider any person in particular responsible for all the evil in the world. It is from this logic quite clear that missing the missionary gives the shadow of accusing scapegoats. And we can't always expect the God from heaven to take all the blame to protect us from that shadow. Studying the teachings of all these hero's of God selflessness is the motive of their preaching and acting. They do not particularly ask men to kiss their feet, although they allow, they always ask to take mature selfresponsibility of having a good conscience to the interest of the soul. Considering this the general rule of not blaming anyone and especially not the Godhead in person is evident: always blame yourselves and not the other. I am the one who failed to cope with the complexity of her and the world. No blaming of others will be anything but cowardice, prejudice and deafness: monkeybusiness. Incarcerating criminals accused of the (d)evil can only have this as a goal: each should search within himself fighting the evil. It is just that some people are more imprisoned than others as liberation in surrender to the service of the soul is possible. This is also true for the confinement that makes up the marital agreement. 

 

            j) Be clear and converse about relevant social topics.

Clarity is love. Keeping things unclear in the secrecy of hidden cultures fond about their precious continence, a lot of love is lacking in the world. Secrecy, initiation and betrayal are dominant themes of mankind. The more doubtful the culture is, the more hidden the reality. Openness is generally considered a sign of strength: tell the whole world the Lord took the burden of His own shadow (pict.), tell the whole world about the invention that is in the interest of all. No buying and selling is the ideal. No pricetag on the interest of the truth. This is the ideal of an open culture where anyone may know anything from public libraries and information-networks. The meaning of secrecy is found in the silence that covers the weaknesses. The weakness may not be betrayed: it is private, a professional secret or a professional aberration to which the previous rule of selfresponsible non-accusation applies. It is even a psychological law: a person can only continue on a positive selfimage, despite of the weaknesses, eventually defending the most improbable of consonance. The lawyer will defend it in court, the psychologist will defend it in the counselingroom, the spouse will defend it in marriage and the priest will absolve it on confession. Clarity is love and to be clear about one's loyalty is of the greatest importance. Therefore to give evidence of loyalty to the order of the soul is of prime importance making liberation in service the prime motive of action. This clarity not only safeguards the holiness of matrimony but also the redemption of mankind. In this sense the tabloid taste for slander is nothing but betrayal while the confessions of the one's reborn to the order make the reality of belief in the true real.

To converse means to be opposite openly and implies to do that by means of the word. It is, properly, the same service in clarity that fears no confrontation or opportunity to surrender to the interest of the soul. This is the way of becoming a happy person. Nothing as bad as a heart full of murder and a mouth unable to speak. A good marriage is characterized by a healthy sense of communal interest to which there is open communication. Therapy, politics and religion can be the topics avoided with friends but to members of a family political and religious conversing or talking to a scientific paradigm is the way of confirming the bond.  

 

            k) Care for emancipation of you and your partner.

Within a marriage it is quite clear what care for emancipation means: the woman has the same right as the man. Despite of the biological difference both may work, study, vote and stay home with the children. Parting ways of adopting another religion, political party or scientific paradigm not necessarily lead to separation, although it often does. Emancipation always brings the risk of estrangement. Sobering up from the regressions of lust one may discover not to have or be a suitable partner at all. One may decide to go for the soul and tolerate the difference of the estrangement or even like it, or one may decide to go for the culture, remarry and not tolerate the estrangement. In emancipation culture and the personal soul can grow opposite. Not rarely people continue on their regressions fearing the burden of emancipation eventually fostering diseases blocking their energies. Attachment is the root of all suffering as such. The greatest chance of success is to emancipate to cultures that hold on to traditional ways of keeping the soul. The more experimental, sectarian and speculative the sublimationculture, the greater the chance of divorce and estrangement.

The ideal is cultural progress covering the whole of society. For that a simple concept of soul is needed with a concrete generally accepted form of God. In sum the answer seems to be that attaining to a conscientious (soulful) remembrance of the order of time (God) is a proper basis for human progress. Practically man and woman should agree about who does what at which time. To the greater concept of the emancipation of a worldculture, mankind relating to nature also should agree about who does what at which time (pict.). It is not simply having the same rights and then competing until death follows. Emancipation with soul means conscientious reckoning with each other and thus the afore mentioned. 

 

            l) Hold together in education.

In raising children it is important to have consistency. In emancipated, mixed marriages this can be a problem. Emancipation also means that one has to accept the dynamic of personal evolution. Different stages of development follow one another (pict.) and children do not always match with this. Children may get very confused, disappointed and neglected. A writer also may write a book and adopt to that a complete of culture, just to drop it later on to write another book. Still those 'byproducts', the children, the books are in need of proper respect. Therefore a common cultural basis is needed to which couples privately and greater cultures collectively agree in order to take care of the proper educational and filognostical (loving the books) continuity. As mentioned above an agreement of conscientious action to the order of Time is needed. Such an order has been discussed in the previous chapters. To the cultural importance of a denominator of formal identity also a structure of statusorientation (pict.&pict) and commitment (pict.) has been discussed. On the basis of an alternative order of time (tables) and a settlement of identity (pict.)for emancipation and social control one can find solidity for the purpose of filognosy and education. Properly founded in the charitable, that is to say in voluntary service, such a respect of order can replace the parents that drop away because of disturbances of personal evolution. All kinds of things can go wrong and a community must learn to take collectively responsibility for such calamities. The dictate of personal freedom is a heavy one, and not wanting to spoil the children, lose the love of knowledge or the honor of soulful emancipation, there must be provided for a proper continuity of culture for everyone. Only on the basis of equal chances for all real worldpeace can be. Forming elites may happen, but cannot be the dominant theme. Openness to each, also of the past and the future, defines the health of progress and the sanity of any system of management. 

 

            m) Consult impartial outsiders in case of conflicts of power.

Losing touch with the interest of the soul, deluded by the attraction of material nature, couples can stray from the path of emancipation (pict. & pict.) and explore the less righteous realms of human activity. From that one certainly learns about the limits and borderlines not to transgress. Another unwanted effect of such an experience is the conflict of power. Experimenting one easily loses the authority and certainty of the culture and order of the soul. Trying to have the power oneself in a deluded and perverted concept of authority and maturity one may end up in a relational hell. The dear lover becomes a dictator and the dear life becomes a lie. In order to find a safe way home, back to the good and real of Time, one may temporarily accept to regress to a situation of apprenticeship in order to regain the discipline lost. For that help is often needed. Just by books alone it is difficult to progress at all. Some things are purely social and lots of knowledge and rulegiving is unwritten. In order to learn something there is also the source of outside authorities and other seekers of the truth of personal emancipation (pict.). To that there are priests, politicians and scientific therapists teaching and healing according their beliefsystems, policies, and paradigms. Each system may claim to be exclusive and the one and only solution, but political reality learns us that evidently the coexistence of all is the need. Whatever system of management adopted, each will hold on to its own agreements. One may participate as far as one can but to change it will be difficult or impossible. There is a law of nature that commands the coexistence and continence of the diversity of all beings and only onlosing function and adaptation species die out. Culture is not different from this: complexity may increase but to repress the existent is a war. For instance to time we had the old dynamic definition valid for thousands of years to the reality of the heavenly bodies. Later was added the electromagnetic definition of time defining the stability of the measured unit by means of the element Cesium. That atomic concept of time though did not really undo the authority of the sundial defining the dynamic of time. Still the exact length of atomically counted timeunits as hours and days, must be corrected to the evident instability of the mean of its natural length (earth progressively spins slower to the sun). The law of Time is that it has to change; no measure will hold however much we are fixed to a standard unit of measurement. The difference between what one measures and with what one measures dictates a dual concept of validity when it comes to the settlement of a comprehensive order of time. From this example it may be evident why the outside authority is important to overcome the powerconflicts and psychology within a certain system of management and fixation (pict.). Life ruins all systems and forces them to (re-)adaptation to the outside reality for their survival.  

 

            n) In case of divorce separate the possessions.

Sooner or later the mature person must follow his own course. If it happens to be so that emancipation leads to separation, discovering one does not match beyond the lustprinciple, one simply has to forgive and forget. Detachment is always the problem of progress. Holding on to the material past the need for progress becomes a mental disease. Therefore it is important to separate mine and thine. Being attached to the tokens of one's own culture one has to learn to forget and forgive about the follies and stuff of the other person. The infatuation of love leads to attachment to all kinds of behavior and stuff one cannot forget so easily: it makes two fools that should not accuse each other of one's own madness. Separation of the possessions draws a line between two attached people who cannot agree about what to detach from for what purpose. Of course it would be nice if the partners would agree about a common culture of sublimation and detachment. But often this is not the case.

Being in love with the world, getting disappointed about it and settling for another course of and stopping with it is as difficult as giving up an addiction. Not only one is conditioned to the behavioral pattern that no longer satisfies, also the world is conditioned to expect nothing but that. Conversed to another style of life suddenly the 'whole world' drops away, friendships do not work, employment has to change, another language is spoken. In the beginning emancipation can be very bitter discovering only after some time how sweet it can be. On the contrary in the beginning lust and attachment can be very sweet, just to discover after some time that when the excitement is over one is caught in a bitter battle against slavery and boredom. Because of the former one should not separate and because of the latter one should not hate each other. Ultimately selfrealisation is the result of what one has realized oneself and true love recognizes it in the other.

To the reality of time mankind has the same problem. Fallen in love with the modern we ended up in attachment to timezones that are not really needed and a calendar stemming from before the year zero that is nothing but a confusion of different timedivisions and policies. Separating mine and thine the ones attached to the past should be able to continue while the people who follow the simpler scheme of true world time (GMT corrected for the time-equation eventually adapted to one's place) and a 24-division-calender (see tables) should be happy with their alternative and ideal of harmonizing with nature and reason. To regard the complexity of peaceful coexistence as a whole the design for a new type of clock can as said before be respected. 

 

            o) Avoid violence with and against children.

Not recognizing one's own ignorance children are often hated by the parents who, struggling with the mature command of selfresponsibility discover aggravation by the dependence and dictates of childhood. In stead of becoming free selfrealizing emancipating individuals parents have to suffer the slavery of the workload of their former lusts. The lustprinciple is not overcome in a day: it brings a whole world of consequence that is naturally settled by having offspring. The most simple things like eating, behaving, toilettraining etc. have to be learned over and over until a healthy sense of reality dominates the innocence of life (pict,). Failing to cope with this workload estranged from the paternal authoritative attitude people go to hell needing reeducation in mental institutes, monasteries, counselingrooms and other trainings. Lots of human life is all about this business of taking the workload of former lust. It is quite normal and nothing to be ashamed about. Mankind always had pilgrimages, religions and other occupations to cope with it and in the future it will continue to exist in the same or another form. Also the order proposed in this writing in the form of another clock and discipline of statusorientation forms a workload that is an intermediate between the old lust and the new outcome of simply another calender and the same old clock managed to the sun as it should. It simply might take a thousand years to have the whole world culturally unified on an improved timepolicy. Because of everybody having his own way a great complexity is to be worked at while ultimately it is nothing but the evolutionary pain of progressing one step in the management of time and identity. With this burden in the personal sphere of raising children or caring for the precious artifacts of one's own culture, violence must be avoided. Violence is the result of frustration being confronted with more trouble and work than would be wanted, needed or wished for. To curb the underlying desire that steals the sanity of mind is as said done by regulation in the political, religious, scientific and natural, personal sphere. 

 

            p) Treat children as equal as possible.

The fall of intelligence is shown in the relationship with the ignorant and innocent. The more debilitated the culture the more severe the relations between parent and children, teachers and pupils, priests and believers, governments and citizens. With no sinners no religions would be needed, with no profiteers no security-order would exist, with no fallen souls no teachers would be beyond the parental and with no lust no humbling would have to take place. Parents humble children seeing them as the little devils of their own lust. Priests have to preach at people having to accept the common sins of the flesh, governments have to pay endlessly for social security not able to demand anything material back because of the profitmotive and teachers have to repeat the lessons over and over since people lose their intelligence constantly in the fall of the soul. Once settled though for the realityprinciple (pict.), priests, teachers, politicians and parents have to learn to treat the fellow men not as a victim but as an equal partner. The other is not simply a subject of state, a child, a pupil or a sinner. It is in the elevation above the other that selfawareness is lost and enmity looms with revolutions against false classdistinction and wars against estrangement. Therefore the rule of treating in principle pupils, children, believers and subjects of state as equal as possible: it is a demand of selfhumiliation: I am myself a profiteer, fallen soul, sinner and pupil. I am the one in need of emancipation and thus I will not only liberate myself, but the whole world of my preaching, teaching, manipulating and belittling. 

 

            q) Have days of festivity and leisure.

As discussed earlier just to work and pray is not enough. Especially in a culture in which the media have become very prominent a great deal of work is done for the sake of keeping distance. More and more people living closer and closer to each other necessitate the informationculture that overcomes estrangement at the one hand and keeps the people separated at the other hand. Thus watching television has become almost a profession of peacekeeping by social security with the multimediacomputer as an answer to the problem of oneway-information. Of course keeping distance and confirming distance may not go on endlessly. It might be a job in an overpopulated world but to each job there should be a counterweight. Work and leisure should alternate, and thus keeping distance and even confirming distance, must be alternated by the contrary: one must cover the distance and be present no longer trying to confirm the distance but contact in the real. Practically this takes the form of a new type of repose: a media arrest on days to an alternate scheme to contrast the culture and timeconsciousness. Thus we have sundays and saturdays that might be of a religious or familial repose but still mean working at the media. Thus we have workingdays ignoring the media, solely meant for free association in social presence for the sake of social control. And there are days that both types cover one another because of the contrasting consciousness of the different timeschedules (tables). This is the complexity of postmodern informationculture: it is so complex and diverse that separate days are needed just for study and contemplation - not working for the distance or the profit or for going out - and days for celebrating a new season and forget about everything else. From the chaos of free exploration of all human potential a new type of order arises settling everything to its own nature: the politics of time, the appliances of science, the religions of the old and new age and the natural order of the ancestors. Thus modern man can retrieve his lost soul having extra days of festivity and leisure redefining the concept of work and celebrating holidays. 

 

            r) Go out with the family.

For each marriage not only a conscious approach of scheduling to time is needed to cover the whole of culture, also keeping together with it is important. What the celibate in his freedom of selfrealisation might settle wouldn't be different to the interest of the family. To go out together, having children or not is terribly important to keep the marriage or partnership vital. One consciousness contrasting the other changing from private to public, from repose to work and from culture to nature, man and woman learn to know themselves better which will improve the quality of their marriage. Marriage is thus not only an economic agreement, a childrearing modus, a religious agreement or a natural lust of life. It can be a complete diverse enough to be interesting for the rest of your life. It can be a liberation to an order that has a clearly set goal for the future. It can be a motivator that keeps from selfdestruction and falldown. It can be a way of being outgoing to the world at large without losing the continence of the family or the liberty of the celibate. 

 

            s) Play and appreciate the media together.

There are two things that people tend to forget in the philosophy of prayer and work: play and appreciate together. Growing up people quickly learn that to live means to go for a profit, be it making money or making peace. But once having acquired the goods and the peaceful settlement of their wanting, they still must learn to appreciate and play. Going for your own thing the ego goes in refutation of everything else: openness is lost, competition is bred. Also seriously believing in one's own game, having made it a profession and a strategy of domination the sense of playfulness is also lost. One has become a piece of chagrin that is no longer sensitive to the fun of life. The one who always wanted to win turns out to have lost the most precious: the innocence of the children's soul that plays and wonders about all. Thus it is very important to settle one's schedules for the sake of appreciating the offerings of the fellow-man and to take time to play a game free from the profitmotive.

For appreciation we have all kinds of media: radio, television, video, magazines, newspapers, books, c.d.'s, tape's, computers, telephones and the like. There is a difference in the media that support direct communication, like television, radio and the internetcomputer-telephone connectionand the media that are less direct, a fixation, and quickly a possession that leads to accumulation and bewilderment by attachment and fall-down. The greater the timelapse between sending and receiving the more difficult it becomes to experience the communication as being alive. Slow media like books, newspapers, films etc. depend on a collective interest at more or less the same moment so that something may be in vogue but a week later may be forgotten. The same thing one year being 'in' can hardly be appreciated the other year considered to be outdated. Books are best red by a studygroup or religion as in essence each message is a social reality. Thus one can understand why it is sometimes difficult or impossible to read a book, however good it may be. Reading a novel one communicates with the writer tuning in on the theme that one must live oneself somehow. Thus one's literatures, records, films etc. represent one's life and ego.

For a good marriage to appreciate together is important as culture can represent a lot of ego that does not align to the soul the same way the partner would or could like. Also to have communication as direct as possible with a minimum of distance between the people involved enhances the quality and content of the message and the ability to enjoy it together. This directly leads to the appreciation of theater performances before television, television live-performances before previously fixed programs, cinema-performances before video or televisionperformances, on-line discussion before newspaperpolemics, etc. etc. It is important to have one's priorities clear in the appreciation of the media as ultimately the distance between people must be covered. Essentially the message of each medium is to get together and celebrate the order propagated. Violent and tabloid presentations can be recognized as warnings against keeping distance to much with the wrong idea of discipline. And that we should not celebrate. The message of the medium is to discard it as the human body is the ultimate machine to live with. Playing games one must learn to recognize the same thing: to the soul they must be representative of the eternal values to have an alignment that supports the marital bond or the continence of the celibate. In the games of sport etc. one tends to be fixed on winning with the implication that one never has won before the game is over. The proper philosophy though is that one has always won to begin with and that each game gives the risk of losing. Realizing that to lose the game itself is the greatest danger, the risk of losing points weighs less than the risk to be considered a bad sport who can't stand losing. The golden rule of all games is to play for the game and not so much for the result. Reinforcing the winning of the game with money and other privileges is exactly the way to corrupt it, define war and create victims. For the sake of worldpeace thus in fact all

professional play should be forbidden. It runs into the same pit as violence on television etc.: people forget that their fascination might be about bad habits and creating victims, while the goal of the game was exactly the opposite: to recover the childrens soul of innocence.  

 

            t) Beware of making dependence.

Not emancipated people in marriage and other partnership heavily depend upon each other. It is a bad habit not to share the know-how, to make secrets, to subdue and to foster other strategies of power. It should not be necessary to exert power over each other at all. The powergame is a symptom of lost authority. Lacking the authority of a trustworthy order, people begin to fight about rulership, ownership, right to enjoy and the right to use etc. After the age of twenty-one people should not be the victim of powergames and destructive powerstategies because they lost the authority and have to fight for it themselves. It is primitive culture that does not settle the order of authority because of a lust for opposing in conflict: it is strange to the spirit of playfulness and sharing in appreciation. Having society as a battlefield does not make happy people, not even when they won: you can't buy happiness, nor can you possess it. Happiness comes from being right with Time, that is to say, of successfully aligning to the soul which is the seat of the consciousness of eternal happiness. In the soul all goodness comes together as conscientious selfremembrance containing the best of man as being God or the true self.

In the soul the good is remembered and the bad forgotten: that is how we can forgive and forget. True independence is the result of depending on the soul and its values. Hence all dependence in relating within or outside of marriage should be subdued by the motive for the basic values that guarantee the proper conscience (pict.). Conspiring against it might give the illusion of a bond but is in fact an addiction in service of the senses: the dependency about which always the conflict arises. This dependency one should not make. Practically one should not tempt each other into free sex,meateating, speculating and gambling for mere possessing and betraying the truth with intoxicants. For the frustration of sex we have the cultures of sublimation, for the frustration of meateating we have the delights of the vegetarian kitchen, for the frustration of going for the dough we have the world of games, and for the frustration of non-intoxication we have the cultures of consciousness found in the alternate reality. The cure for the desires of the malingering dependency that ruins all marriage and other partnership is in one phrase: enjoy the sublime, eat with compassion, play for the game and go for the alternate. Once appreciating this dictum, knowing the do's forgetting the don'ts, the frustration will be tolerated and the rebellion overcome. 

 

            u) Keep former relations and be charitable.

Marriage and partnership can be a conspiracy of bad habits. Not rarely the Lord will manifest Himself in the form of a partner to teach the lessons of the eternal values. Sex is offered as a lesson or punishment against egoism, possessiveness, lying and corruption. Lusty one forgets the value of the subliminal continence that feeds with progress by the internal force of the soul: in love you lose your mind building an ego, acquiring possessions, compromising with the truth, and corrupting in sex. Fond of the punishment of love one loses intelligence and does not really progress; one does not really learn. Old allies of celibate continence are lost in the process and the selfless attitude is forgotten in the bewilderment of the outer effect. Willfully keeping former relations and the attitude of charity is the cure for the side-effects of the love-school. It demands the domination of the mode of goodness (pict.), compassion sharing and caring, not strange to the parental instinct hat should go with the sexual preference. Clear is why not to corrupt the instinct of parental care is so important. Selfish sex ruins the alignment with the soul and thus the way out of the clutches of material bewilderment. 

 

            v) Have some private space for each.

As stated earlier to withdraw and recapitulate is important not to get lost in the affairs of the world. Even as a small child for the ego it is important to recover the authentic nature of alignment with the soul in the seclusion of a personal sphere. Missing this escape from the dominant social impositions in education and later on in marriage one may develop mental and social diseases. Forced into the social one may develop destructive attitudes just to get rid of the pressure. This can develop in a negative groupego fostering enmity or even criminal aberration towards others or even worse will breed anti-social behavior of individuals eventually deranging psychiatrically. Society and also marital association must be a free choice (pict.). All things can be appreciated as they are with all their limitations when one is free to refute and withdraw. The material manifest is always full of deficiency and limited. Bound to that with no escape one can get pretty desperate.

Practically a man may withdraw in fishing, an attic or shed for his hobby, while mommy may develop, likewise an afternoon-meditation or nap or may loose herself in needlework and other withdrawn activity. As a private place is not always available one still must try to have one's own thing, activity, chair, play-corner, sewing-table, study-desk etc. instead. 

 

            w) Share your secrets.

As known not everything can be said and revealed. One has to keep front. Although one should not worry too much about one's image, things going really good or bad must not obscure the importance of keeping up the appearance. Thus many people are not as holy and pure as they appear or speak. This is perfectly normal and o.k. This is an eternal practice of human society that demands its members to be loyal to the common standard to which an alternative may not be destructive. It is even one of the greatest forces of mankind: once a certain form of social control is working the whole of society can live in fear of losing that collective honor. In warfare the fear of freedom and emancipation will manifest in enmity thus losing its precious honor: mankind thus lost a lot of precious but wrongly propagated ideals. Honor turning out to be false pride is a drama and trauma for man.

The traditional cure for the disease of falsification by attachment to the outer image is the religious confession. Confession would prevent estrangement from the interest of the soul and forgive the aberration before real derangement in society would take place. In modernity this has taken many other forms: television is like a collective confessionboot putting high demands on the side of the one's who have to 'forgive and forget' appreciating. Psychotherapy would forgive people their egoism in the confession of their weakness while new-age approaches would forgive people their irreligion lacking the traditions. Alternative strategies of alignment kept the honor of modern men preventing individual and collective falldown in the enmity of false pride. All these strategies are founded on sharing the secrets in some or another form of confession. In marriage one might not confess all secrets to the partner, but to have them forgiven by others will not make the marriage better. The cure consists not rarely of the practice of breaking the false pretenses of holiness within a marriage, thus preventing downfall of the marriage itself: it is a bond of strength and weakness proving that honesty will last and that there will always be a difference between God and men, between men and their ideals. Another way of saying it is that to share in the humble of being human is the best way of realizing the common reality and need of an ideal to go for. Man dies when his ideals die. 

 

            x) Take care of surprises and alternatives.

Keeping track with a certain rut can be important but bears the danger of losing consciousness. A rut has a sexual connotation: it can be a form of attachment or bewilderment by material nature. Because of time, the movement of matter, we have consciousness: without change one does not perceive. Even dead immobile objects are perceived because the perceiver changes position or moves his eyes. Staring at an object is an old meditation technique to arise 'above time', meaning to get concentrated and appease the mind. In the repetition of the same old way we have two realities: the natural reality of cyclic time repeating a certain pattern making up the consciousness of normal living beings and the unconcious habit of a conditioning that takes away the consciousness of a living being. The difference between the naturally conscious and the conditioned unconscious lies in the authority to which the living being is subjected. Living beings are structured, form a pattern themselves under the influence of the outside and the inside. The inside pattern is genetically programmed, the outside pattern is a mix of cultural and natural influences. To the authority of the genes not much can be done: if the program does not satisfy there will be stress to mutate for the next generation. To the outside we have in principle a free choice of natural and cultural conditions to suit our taste of life. Culture and nature can harmonize or be in conflict. According to culture we have the authority of other persons: holy men and woman, politicians and scientists who operate by means of their fixations in the form of lawbooks, bibles and contraptions of applied science varying from a simple clock to a complicated computer. To nature we have the authority of natural order, religiously called God, politically called green or ecological and scientifically called time. Time orders nature by showing patterns of cyclical time religiously perceived as God because of its natural confirmation of each genetic code. Politicians have difficulty with time as the movements of nature form a counterpoint of different rhythms to which they simply develop a pragmatical concept of time of their own. In fact mankind deals by means of clockwork with a concept of time that does not exist in nature: it has lost its natural dynamics and suffers induction to a manageable mean-zone-summerconcept of 'standardization'.

Conditioned to the authority of nature one does not lose consciousness because time by nature is dynamic: no measure of time stays the same (apart from the pulse of a quasar). Because of that change we have to stay, under that subtle command, alert as an hour is not an hour a day not a day and a year not a year. That change guarantees the continence of consciousness. To cultural change we have the opposite effect: because of fixing time to a mean, a zone or a season, we lose its dynamic, its adaptation to the place, and its gradual change by nature. With a mean we become rigid and with a zone we lose touch with the space described by time (identity). With summertime you develop a shock of change instead of supple, gradual smooth change. Because of these latter defects of cultural time man suffers being put off, getting exhausted compensating and feeling bad in a state of confusion of identity to the here and now. We speak of cultural neurosis or a collective schizoid condition that might break out in the psychosis of warfare or general criminal disobedience. The latter condition of normal cultural neurosis means estrangement to the command of the soul which inspires to conscience in regard to nature by the instinct of (collective) survival.

Concerning the collective reality of political standardtime not much can be done by an individual: we can only compensate by developing person by person a counterculture of cherishing alternatives and surprises. From this counterculture of surprising each other by means of unexpected alternatives a new concept of time (tables) can evolve as a cure for the pathogenic of standard time. In order not to become chaotic in the love for alternatives, defying expectation, the theme of time should be remembered: it is not to get addicted to drugs, free sex, financial speculation or killing living beings. Lies, deceit, selfhood and possessiveness are symptoms of attachment. Restoring the basic values of truth, loyalty, compassion and sobriety (pict.), the alternative can be trusted to lead the way to a better society with better marriages and a better concept of time with a healthy tolerance for as well the old as the new.  

 

            y) Keep the house tidy.

Literally it seems to be a simple rule for a good marriage. In the context of greater culture it is not as simple though: who is responsible for the chaos of society: who must clean up the seas, the air, the soil and our precious timeawareness? It all went out of control working for the money instead of the ecological green quality, exchanging spiritual happiness for material gratification. Mankind must struggle for survival increasing in population discovering that without the basic virtues of sharing and caring, honesty and loyalty (pict.), we cannot survive. We have by love of truth to accept that killing, intoxicating, lusting and acquiring are not the way to survive collectively. To 'have the house tidy' any married person may try to remember this: the future of mankind as a whole and the individual marriage in particular is in the vegetarian, staying free from intoxicants, regulating the lusts while sharing the cultures. By no way any progress can be expected from promoting the meatdish, swallowing pills, sexual freedom and segregating cultures. These attachments lead to a 'messy house' in which mankind in the long run can not survive. It is not to make a new moral norm and to forbid: there will be always some love for chaos (pict.) messing up to the basic values: testing the limits is allowed as far as the law permits. It is all about seeing to the proper horizon of the ideal, the good of willing and the future of the children. Eating meat one loses the joy of compassion (the willingness to help), intoxicating one's sense of truth (the honesty), promiscuous one become's deceitful (dirty or disloyal), and possessive one loses tolerance (the ability to share). Remembering this it will be no problem to keep the house tidy and the marriage satisfying.  

 

            z) Bear poverty, adversity, disease and loss.

From poverty one discovers the cultures of happiness, from adversity one learns to detach and accept a challenge, from disease one learns to repent and from loss one becomes free. The hindrance (pict.) in the way of all this learning that sooner or later has to be accepted as everybody finds out what it is to be without funds, luck, health and support, is called attachment. One can be attached to riches missing the discipline to survive poor, one can be attached to everything going easy not able to endure any stress or responsibility, one can be attached to one's health getting desperate aging and one can be attached to people and provisions completely debilitated in one's dependency. Nor as an individual, nor as a married couple one can persevere without being confronted with this test of time. Without the firm decision to stay loyal in times of disease, poverty, adversity or loss no relation with each other or oneself can maintain. The loyalty pertains to the basic values (pict.)that guarantee the reality of the soul. Staying rich, healthy, lucky and supported or not, these values guarantee the continuity of personal and marital integrity. 

 

Chapter 6: Sport

 

a) Be a good sport.

b) Do not force yourself.

c) Eat healthfood.

d) Stop smoking and drinking.

e) Keep exercising.

f) Follow instructions.

g) Avoid drugs.

h) Be a team.

i) Do not swear and curse.

j) Always shower.

k) Take precautions.

l) Love thy opponent.

m) Invite for a game.

n) Play outdoors as much as possible.

o) Respect the rules and serve goodness.

p) Meditate before and after.

q) Quit a game running bad.

r) Play for the game and not for the gain.

s) Keep your strategy in respect.

t) Take care for an impartial judge.

u) Do not fear a psychological game.

v) Always remember to thank your opponent for the game.

w) Do not hate to be an outsider or beginner.

x) Do not gamble on outcome.

y) Identify with the honorable.

z) Accept your loss and glory equanimous.

 

 

 

 

           a) Be a good sport.

Sport is defined as physical activity engaged in for pleasure. What the real sport is all about is to gain control over the body. Trough the spirit the body is controlled by the soul (pict.). Thus of first importance is not to lose your soul, but properly align to it. Het ware genoegen, geluk, wordt gevonden in het zich gewetensvol herinnerende zelf. Dus moet men op de eerste plaats spelen volgens de regels van de ziel. From that the goodness of sport can be: the success of having no words, but deeds. 

 

           b) Do not force yourself.

There is a notorious conflict between the mind and the emotions. Many people are confused seeing thoughts and feelings in opposition. The mind can be driven by a lower motive with the soul alarming by means of feelings that the wrong program is operating. Also the body can be conditioned or being under the influence of a lower drive with the mind alarming that those kind of feelings don't match with the program of the soul. Both ways one tends to force the other. There is no recipe saying thoughts or emotions should prevail. There are recipes for alignment to the soul. The soul communicates through emotions ànd thoughts and properly aligned the two are in harmony with no forcing taking place. Following material motives one may think that either one has to suffer pain failing to follow the emotional or madness failing to follow the mindful. Aligning though one escapes from being caught in the duality (pict.). Aligning with the soul means to restore the relationship with the body by means of exercise. Not only from the spiritual motive the mind should be trained, but also from that same motive the body should learn to answer to the definition of sport: one does it just to feel good to begin with, not for the sake of being number one. Thus basic exercise is not to develop skill or muscle or stamina, but simply to feel good in the body the way it is. One does basically not force oneself to any accomplishment or outcome but one engages in physical activity for the sake of itself. This is commonly known throughout the world under different denominations as bending and stretching. The Indians do it this way, the chinese that way and the westerners call it so and so. However named basically the mind and the body align by simple exercise according to a personally preferred pattern. Muscles are stretched and contracted for the sake of toning them up. Blood-circulation is enhanced as a consequence and one feels good from that. Regularly straining the body this way without forcing it appeases the mind and makes the body supple. It is even prescribed as a precondition for proper meditation. One will notice being caught in conditionings as the body will get stiff at times. Realizing where the stiffness comes from the exercising gives room for meditating alternatives to counter the stifling conditioning. This is better than forcing oneself against the conditioning thus running into pain or falling into madness. 

 

           c) Eat healthfood.

To eat healthy means predominantly not to eat too much. Overeating leads to all kinds of diseases having too much fat and too much toxic waste in the body. Especially eating meat is really not necessary. Proteins and essential vitamins can be obtained from beans, cereal and dairy products. Digestion of meat takes more energy and produces more toxins as pure vegetarian food because of the more complex proteins in the meatdish. Our stomach doesn't really have the kind of acid and short intestines predators have so that half digested meat will tend to rot in the intestines unless one stresses one's body to have a more active digestive tract. Any physician will tell the ordinary meateater to eat more diverse and have more exercise. By nature primates that eat meat just do so once in four to six weeks to replenish the supply of vitamin B12 which is rare in plantfood. Humans can find it in milk and foodsupplements like kelp and spirulina (a seaweed and an algy). Therefore switching to a more vegetarian style of taking healthfood the advise is to eat normal as one did before except for replacing the meatdish with beans-products supplemented with kelp or spirulina in case not enough vitamin is acquired from milkproducts. Cutting in the amount and the type of protein digested one can lead a more calm way of life without stressing for the sake of discharge. One will not be less strong in the body provided a wholesome diet, nor will one have less energy giving up the agressionmotive that would justify the predatory style. One has exactly the same chemicals and same body to operate with. It is just the food-discipline that has changed. Difficulties in switching from one style to the other can be ascribed to a lack in routine as one is always conditioned to continue the old way. Hunger may not be hunger properly kicked off from the habit of meateating and eating too much in general (pict.). 

 

           d) Stop smoking and drinking.

Smoking one loses lungcapacity as the lungs fill with slime for the purpose of cleaning them from the smoke residue. Regularly smoking will seriously prevent the body from restoring to a clean state so that all kinds of disease can follow. Of those cancer is the most notorious. It is said that smoking not only will cost you ten years of your lifespan but that it also seriously impairs the normal functioning because of a diminished condition and a mind agitated by the toxins. Nicotine narrows the bloodvessels and falsifies concentration. One will even be concentrated when it is not wanted, so that caught in toxic stress one will lose one's normal positive attitude in life. Addictions have a psychology of their own. The general denominator is unhappiness because of intoxication. The real cause of smoking and other intoxications is the inability of proper aligning to the interest of the truth: the soul. Because one does not know how to bind and focus one's energies one holds on to artificial means that of course will never satisfy beyond a certain superficial effect or faking. It is escapism with an inability to cope with the truth of life .

Drinking alcohol is traditionally done to relax and let go. Especially meateaters must overstrain their bodies to get rid of their toxic waste. Stressed up unnaturally they tend to accuse the cultural situation for it and derive from that snobbish elevation in the predatory mode a spiteful attitude of contempt against society to justify their alcoholabuse. Heavy addiction follows the failure of adaptation in the negativistic intoxicated mode. For years one can be lying to keep up the pretense of health, but the process is difficult to reverse without a serious conversion to the higher values of the soul (pict.). To maintain and be successful in sport or society in general, not to smoke and drink at all is the best. Practically a conscious confession to the eternal values with a wise attitude of moderation considering any intoxicant (also tea, coffee, cacao and soft-drugs) will give an acceptable result. 

 

           e) Keep exercising.

Endurance in exercise is important. From the basic interest of bending and stretching one can have many more exercises to develop skill and strength for the sake of a certain outcome. All these will have to be discarded later on as one gets older and/or has realized one's goals. One may even hope that the exercise did not do any harm as overdeveloped muscles will fatten losing function. Especially for the heart muscle that is dangerous. Thus one has at the one hand to give up while at the other hand one has to continue with the basic exercises that may continue until death. Simple bending and stretching as far as it goes will keep the body as fit as is also possible at a high age. With the endurance of exercise the art of alignment will come forth. 

 

           f) Follow instructions.

Buying an appliance one receives an instruction for use. It is normal to follow these instructions although always the temptation is strong to experiment without reading any instructions. With the contraption of the human body playing the games of life there is the same tendency: it is normal to read of all the 'commandments' but rather we find out by damage and shame for ourselves how the game actually works. Once beyond the age of twenty-one the urge of the mature option is that strong that not rarely children docile as they are would do better than the adults. Adults make up their own rules creating societies that are not at all meant by the books of instruction. No one would maintain that dropping atombombs would be the ideal way of ending an armed conflict. Still those things happen just because scriptures are not properly consulted and put in practice. Another nice example is our julian/gregorian roman calendar: it is really a chaotic mess we only managed to tune to the sun by means of one reform. The mess of having two divisions of time running through one another (date and day, week and month), was never meant in the ancient scriptures of e.g. the Far East. From there the sober notion sprouted to have one division for the day as well as for the year (tables). But only recently this could be noticed as no one knew those scriptures while the one's knowing them did, apart from a mooncalendar not really feel responsible for such technicalities and gave priority to an adaptation to the roman style.

Not following, not teaching and thus not knowing these instructions many perversions of culture in ignorance could sprout making the world-culture a vague idea of what it could be. This is also found in the department of sports where all kinds of rule's drive people against each other in opposition forgetting the primal definition of the sport. One would sport for pleasure and not for the sake of enmity between opposing parties as evidenced by e.g. the mutual killing of soccersupporters in serious battles of armed confrontation. The actual rules of sport hardly provide for the meditation of the values of alignment fixed on accomplishing points, money and status more than on accomplishing a superior command of sport. What is forgotten is that another definition of being a good sport is not just to be pleasurable, jest or likable but also to be one showing mutation. One should evolve adaptations to a higher level of selfrealisation in sport getting more close to the values and truth of alignment. Thus seen consequently following the rules would lead to better rules, higher games and smarter players. 

 

           g) Avoid drugs.

This is a basic rule sprouting from the eternal value of loving the truth. Those who are in conflict with the truth feel that. Those who adhere to the truth that is in conflict feel that. Not knowing how to define the truth, which according to the dictionary is to be understood by the real state of things as an agreement with fact or reality, people suffer and want to escape. Drugs offer such an escape. To a psychiatrist a person is sick as soon as he cannot manage the problem of the truth: such a person would be in need of medicine as his brain does not function properly. To a psychologist though a person in need is not a sick person as such but a person honest enough to admit that he hasn't reached his horizon, never will reach that horizon but still has to go for a horizon. Although the psychologist cannot exactly define the horizon as he has to be value-free, he can help to find out what the position is the person has taken and to what horizon there would be perspective. To a filognostic the horizon is known: love for knowledge means one always goes for the soul. The name of the therapy is order, the name of the authority is God, and the form of God is Time. The filognostic is the representative of the God of Time and the Lord is the authentic expression of his practice. Loving the truth he cannot say what the name of the Lord is as the Lord has many names. In that he stays the scientist undecided about the value of this or that Lordship.

What counts in the fight for the sake of the truth of the soul is the adaptation to Time and circumstances so that no fixation will overrule the love for the fellow man. Loving knowledge books are the second medium, the first medium of truth is the person himself. Therefore always the books, the media, come second to the human being transmitting the knowledge himself. If he can choose between the theater and the cinema he will chose the theater. If he must choose between a scheme of time and a dynamic improvisation to that scheme he will improvise. Also choosing between the priest and the bible he will choose the priest. If he can choose between holding on to drugs or giving them up for the sake of the order of the soul he will choose the latter. A person loving knowledge, a filognosist, will always talk and meditate with people as direct as possible without glorifying anyone or anything. That includes drugs. Drugs might be temporarily needed, but the chronic use to escape from the challenge of truth he will reject. No clouding of consciousness may be seen at the horizon one is going for although often one may depart from the intoxicated mists of the down-fall. 

 

           h) Be a team.

To the definition of truth there is need of agreement. One must form a team and hold together. Considering a (re)new(ed) worldorder the most likely scripture of accordance is the (english) dictionary. Knowing what one is talking about there is the strength and danger of a groupego. Ego separates itself as a cultural specific in defiance of others: it is identified with the body, a uniform, a scripture, a style of celebration etc. The ego is self-esteem of the mediator between soul and material reality. (pict.) Identified with the material purpose and forgetting the duty of mediating the interest of the soul it falsifies and becomes dangerous. E.g. in the interest of filognosy one might propose a new design for a clock. But to the reality of the soul one must honestly say that such a material endeavor is not really needed for an individual who can very well handle with a normal clock and calendar when it comes to settling alternatives of timemanagement (see tables). Putting the material effect secondary the interest of maintaining for the sake of the soul is guaranteed and the danger of the violent falsehood of ego evaded.

To the idea of sport the same is true: one must have an agreement about rules that represent proper mediation between the soul (eternal values<pict.) and material nature (the rules of the game). Without the first the ego will falsify and the sport will be a fall-down. Thus the rules of a game must somehow reflect the eternal values. The idea of forming a team must precede the game, as everyone knows. The game may be that one cooperates or opposes, but to begin with one must be one. To take the example of soccer: one should be all good football-players, but for a game the teams should actually only be selected at the beginning of the game, not be fixed long before as an ego of opposition. Another rule of equality is that the reserve should have equal chances to play. So having e.g. 32 players one can be separated in two teams just before a game, say red and blue expressed by shirts and/or bands, while each randomly selected team should be cut in two with eleven playing and five reserve, while the rule of the game can be that anyone playing the ball out of the field should be replaced by a reserve. Thus everybody has a chance to play while the motivation to keep the ball in the game is also strengthened. This way no falsehood of ego can spoil the teamspirit while everybody has an equal chance to prove his ability to keep the ball in the field. The people then also come for a good game with good players an not so much for this or that team. 

 

           i) Do not swear and curse.

Expressions of strength and discontent arise with the aggression that comes with the desire for results. The game can be overshadowed by the desire to win. The basic philosophy should be that the will to win is proof of the uncertainty that one takes a winning position. From the idea that one can only lose and thus one must be defensive, aggression is much better controlled. Thus the game must be for the quality of playing, not for the amount of goals scored. One can, with the idea of soccer, imagine that players are motivated in the first place to keep the ball in the game and on one's own side thus scoring minutes of control while scoring goals can be discouraged by calling the first party who scores more than ten the breaker of the game. The ball would then have to be scored in one's own goal only to be defended by the other party who has the exclusive right to the defense-area not wanting the game to be ended. The public would be decisive in judging the quality of the play and stimulating players to score or keep back. As in real life one must go for one's own goal scoring on the time of control while others keep you from attaining to stretch the game as long as possible (not for more than eight working hours of four times two). This is a game of 'dutch' soccer more close to the reality and truth of the soul than the ordinary aggressive typeof soccer making victims and enemies on false ego and profitmotives. 

 

           j) Always shower.

In a good game one must run oneself into sweat. For instance in the previous example of 'dutch' soccer one could try to keep the ball to oneself in the defense area, just training a bit amongst oneself ignoring the the other party that must stay out of the area. The public would have to call that off as boring with the philosophy that winning without sweat is no good sport at all. The rule may be expressed by the fact that time of control scored in the defense area does not count to the victory so that the team is always motivated to get into the confrontation decided to score and finish the game or not to score but stay in control. It is just like monks who cannot stay in the monastery to keep the honor of the order. The honor of the order is to have a mission and score on the capacity to control or attain one's goal although obstructed by the 'ignorant'. The shower each good sport must take after playing must be like the public hailing for the success. No sweat means no success and no victory. Only the good will of defending oneself (the possession of the ball') in the confrontation with people with another goal can give the success called real and the shower called deserved. Not wanting the shower is simply a dirty game to oneself. This also reminds of what is traditionally called the class-struggle: the different statusorientation-groups (pict.) may play their own games that can only count for being a victory if they manage a confrontation with another group. The sweat thus obtained may not be feared though since in the real game of 'dutch' soccer the parties are not fixed but randomly chosen irrespective of the statusorientation of the selected. Maybe the uniformity of a team will be more successful according to statusorientation, maybe a mix is more successful. Time will tell what will rule when. Sweat as such means one does not fear as long as one remembers the goal of the soul one is going for. In such a game of society as well as the individual (statusorientation) as the spirit of teamwork is promoted. The colors of the teams might be expressed by the bands and shirts of red and blue (having the referee in white) while the individual may clothe in football-garments in the color of his statusorientation (pict.). 

 

           k) Take precautions.

The usual way to take precautions is to test and try in training and education. Therefore one precaution is not to let any junior or aspirant member of the order dominate, settle or determine the game. At least a first initiation in life, the mature age, recognized commitment, confessed status (pict.), acknowledged by age, diploma, special deserve or award (a 'silver star') should be before the status (pict.) of independence can be supported (pict.). Only from independent people, matured to the filognosy of the order, a responsible attitude can be expected. They can stand for their own commitment and identity and be a worthy member of a party of cooperation. To learn patience is the most important precaution. It is the truth of man proposing and God disposing. Of course any group of youngsters may play a game of 'dutch' soccer to themselves but to the parallel in society that just might take the time of one's life to attain.

Precautions are there to prevent the loss of control. Thus a schedule of activity should be accepted regulating the need for proper education, progress, identity, alignment, bondage and independence through time. The stages of life should be respected as well as the daily routines needed to settle each culture to its own. Also a game of sport to itself can be regarded as a precaution: it prevents people from alienation from the real structure of society and the nature of playing itself. One should, by the game realize that the whole of life is a game to which there are many complexities of interaction with the 'audience' or 'public' and the opposing parties still keeping an individual identity of one's own. 

 

           l) Love thy opponent.

People play different games. The most popular game is not necessarily the best though. Thus we have competition between different games and within the game itself. An integer game is a game uncorrupted. Corruption means things going bad because of taking money etc. A game that leads to moral debasement is a bad game. Corrupted one loses quality and character because of missing the principles. To have a proper game that is in support of character and quality regulative principles are needed. This leads to the basic notion of the eternal values. Once having the game right along these lines opposition can be the love of your life (pict.).

To have the game in order there must be sanctioning to the basic values. People in respect of the order should be rewarded while offenses should be penalized. A game representing eternal values, quality and character cannot do without sanctions. Playing the ball is, with the example of 'dutch soccer' rewarded, but only team wise and out of one's own defense-area. Scoring to one's goal is itself not rewarded while scoring to the goal of the other party is regarded as playing out of the field and penalized by replacement. The ball may not be played by the hands and playing out or scoring the ball by the body of someone else will be regarded as if played by the last person that touched the ball. Therefore to score a goal does not count when an opponent touched the ball. In the defense area the opponent may touch the ball. There is no fixed keeper: all players can be a keeper and even toss one another the ball within the defense-area. This also results in the fact that kicking the ball out of the field by the body of an opponent will result in kicking that opponent out of the field. Thus the game can be rough too. Since one is playing on time the team that has the longest time can score as much as they want and finish the game to secure their victory. This guarantees the motivation to score goals. On the other hand the losing team can only be motivated to win time in controlling the ball without scoring as scoring would secure the victory of the opponent.

In the parallel with real life playing by the hands would equal constructive, fruitive activity: to make, to potter. The defense area would equal the private sphere where no opponent can disturb the tossing of the ball to train one another or the children. Kicking someone out of the field would equal accusation, framing, projecting abusing and such. Being on the reservebench would equal unemployment. Managing society to the terms of 'dutch soccer' would mean that everybody would keep fit in social security ready to replace anyone being accused, scapegoated, abused or otherwise victimized. Playing the ball out of the field would equal being unresponsive without losing the ball for the team. Not being obliged to respond one is free to withdraw in the reserve position confiding that sooner or later replacement by turn is needed: the ball is not lost, just the player is replaced. The ball itself would be a commitment of work: a contract, an agreement, a project, a proposition etc. This all means that essential to a good society would be the ability to keep work going on by keeping agreements, making new appointments, setting the time for scoring goals, settling policies of management etc. A sick society would be either seriously unresponsive(as e.g. during holidays), playing the ball out of the game, or be unable to agree about work by not being able to keep the ball within a team or recognize the capacities of the team. A sick society or bad team can be recognized by the lust to kick others out of the game (thus losing the ball for the team), indiscriminately wanting to score to the goal of the other (to drop oneself out of the scene pushing others in defense) or stay within the sphere of private interest (overly defensive not playing the game at all by disqualifying the opponent). To love thy opponent means to play the game to its full capacity engaging all possible players. 

 

           m) Invite for a game.

To invite for a game first one must agree about who would be in the reserve, who would play and what strategy or ball one would like to play. First the team may agree about this or correct the strategy later on stopping the game holding the ball in one's own area. To the preparation of a game the first initiative is to get a ball; to take an initiative for action. Then one must find the suitable partners or team and then one must agree about the strategy or return to the drawing-board for another ball or team more willing to the proposition of a game. Once there is agreement about the ball and the strategy of the game, the opponent must be invited to join and counter the ball to another goal and answer to the strategy. To have a fair game a referee is needed to decide about the sanctions and respect the times taken for playing to decide who has won after the scoring of ten goals or decide on breaking the game after maximally eight hours of playing.

To compare to the greater game of society each person may set a goal with other people: e.g. to have a theaterproduction. If the company would still exist after ten productions one may say the game is finished to the concept of attaining to a strategy and type of ball. To invite the opponent would be to advertise to attract an audience that on themselves also might be a community of people managing to their own material goals of producing and managing. If those ten theater productions would last with the same company in the same community, it would be to the sweet Lord of Time, the referee, to decide who would have won the game on scoring to the concept of real public playing time. Thus seen to invite to a game is not the same as leaving the private sphere to go the theater e.g.. To have it the same also an agreement of work to that outgoing attitude is needed. Winning the game would be recognition for the team inviting or the team invited: to the theater e.g. people can amount to recognize each other socializing or to recognize that a certain company performing would be of a more significant social continence.  

 

           n) Play outdoors as much as possible.

This rule pertains to the difference between having fun and playing in the private sphere and being seriously engaged in a social game of strife about the favor of the Lord of Time who would keep our soul to our preferred way of serving the 'good cause'. Thus seen having a school of science, a political party or a religion around the historic reality of a manifest Lordship would all belong to the private sphere of practicing skill, training in morality and planning for goals and strategies in preparation. The real thing is in fact the totality of the outdoors society willing to accept the confrontation of the different matured philosophies, strategies and goal-orientations. The familiar illusion that this or that religion, philosophy or scientific approach would win and dominate the world is hereby debunked: one can only say that temporarily this or that team has won, but that, since society only makes sense with the game of life confronting the parties, there will always be the winning of the game itself and not of any team ever on the long run. It is important to remember that teams in 'dutch soccer' are formed for the sake of one game only. One really must withdraw and form a new team after every game. To each age new religions, scientific paradigms and political strategies appear to prove that the old adaptations are in need of reform. Fighting to win the favor of the greater of society all have to share in the free association (pict.) of the outdoors society forming teams of whatever make-up. Although teams can fight each other no one can deny the necessity of the game itself. Losing the game all together is nothing but war and total destruction in the false belief that any option of teamwork could rule private unlimited forever or exist without playing the games of opposition in a fair and regulated confrontation. 

 

           o) Respect the rules and serve goodness.

To the greater of society the rules are quite clear: they are settled by law in agreement with religious, scientific and political considerations. Maybe mother nature is forgotten, but she will surely let mankind know and feel about the consequences of overpopulation, destruction of species, ecological failure or living in dangerous areas. To any sportsman this is not different: the rules of the game are known while forgetting the dear wife at home or the greater interest of society, the soul and the natural reality,will bear consequences. The game is not called cooking and cleaning. Nor is the game called sleeping and forgetting. Still a great part of life is filled with the interest of the private natural sphere. In fact the schizoid position of people moving between the two positions must be overcome. The game should include the natural interest, while the private sphere cannot be denied its political, scientific and religious reality. To the game as well as to the private interest one can have great passion or ignorant indolence. Decisive is the practice of attaining to and maintaining in the mode of goodness (pict.). To this one must rise above the lower levels of personal integrity being the sexual, powerful, social or emotional. To use one's head includes to speak up, develop insight and attain to the divine of selfrealization in everyday life (pict.). By means of the higher levels one attains to the pure goodness of God, the goal and divine of selfrealization. This isthe real center of command that no one can falsify as everyone is connected and controlled to it. To the mode of goodness only the realization that one has become a servant of the divine interest can contain. Any lower motive of the sexual, dominant, social or emotional kind will be tainted by the mode of passion which has anger for it's shadow and the mode of ignorance that is followewd by madness (pict.). Full continence in the mode of goodness with all knowledge, power, riches, beauty, austerity and fame (pict.) only the sweet Lord could accomplish. Once having accepted that as a normal profiteer of society one always has to go for that horizon of the ideal self never attaining it, goodness can be as a straight idea of servitude in devotion. Fostering jealousy, anger, possessiveness, lust, misconceptions and pride (pict.) though one will miss, being attached to the byproducts or opulence of the mode of goodness, the actual goal of selfrealization. For the goodness one has to work for the game of accepting the confrontation with an opposite. No escapism within any system will bring the goodness and peace human society is needing to survive with mother nature. Once the rules of the game are set the goodness of accepting winning and losing in a fair game can be. 

 

           p) Meditate before and after.

Not mystifying meditation is to view and consider thoughtfully, to contemplate. It means one has to fix one's eye on something and to think about it seriously according to a plan. Shortly meditation is serious consideration according to a plan. To give thought must precede actions as well as follow them. Without planning before and evaluation thereafter no selfcorrection is possible. Without selfcorrection things become fixed, dead and have to be given up. The complete of life and evolution is nothing but constant selfcorrection. It is how genes mutate and organisms work. Fixed one dies while adaptation to the changes of time will define the continence of being, the survival. Therefore no fixation on anything material will stand. Essentially one should be fixed on the soul in conscientious selfremembrance but since one is always identified with the body one feels fear: something will happen inside the spirit if really the conscientious and not the physical is the objective. The physical is in fact just the mean to the end of soulfulness. But the soul cannot be without the intelligence while it's spirit will direct the mind. Meditation gives mindfulness, that mind must be managed to a spirit and that spirit must accord with the soul through intelligence. If one of these steps is missed anxiety will ensue: one will serve the false self of the body, find the mind going negative missing the proper spirit and as a consequence will lose control over the drives of the body.

Many people think sport etc. would be just a matter of physical training: that is how one attains to control. But the reality and necessity of meditation prove differently: the body is ultimately controlled by the motives and reality of the soul. It is just like managing a computer: if the user commands against a program the computer will either do the wrong thing eventually ruining the program itself as a virus or will simply fail to execute. The human body is an organic computer not run digital, but trilogical (pict.) under natural command. To the duality of yes and no there will always be the uncertainty-factor of the alternative or shadow while the whole is subjected to the nature, order and matters of time. The uncertainty of the alternative will slow down to conscious prudent action known as the safeguard of intelligence once is learned that any option has to change by time.

The difference between prudence and fear is given by the motive to the goal one is heading for: material goals make fear while spiritual goals will give intelligence, consciousness and happiness after truthloving selfrealisation. Missing the purpose of the spirit one becomes unhappy, a liar and a possessive egoistic cheat. Serving the weakness one becomes a coward, traitor, and a blind addict or slave of financial speculation, killing without necessity, sex and intoxicants. The first is called heaven and the latter called hell. 

 

           q) Quit a game running bad.

Fixing oneself on the appearances of the world and giving thought to it in the remembrance of the soul, one soon will find out about good and bad: the bad will be paranoid seeing evil in others escaping from the conscientious and thus fall down, while the good will find trust seeing good in others being thoughtful to the spiritual plan. Young inexperienced countercultures often have to invent the wheel anew, just to discover what everybody knew already: experience is the best teacher. For instance the game of courting for a relationship is in the western world done in discotheques. But having lost control in the use of intoxicants everything ran into free sex, commercialism and the glorification of the ego. The postmodern situation is characterized by fear of sex and criminal corruption: the music is too loud and hectic and the intoxicant is no longer the legal alcohol but the illegal soft or hard-drug. The fear of sex is problematic: couples have difficulty to find intimacy as no slow music is played anymore. The criminal sphere of illegal intoxication makes paranoid while the danger of incurable venereal diseases ruins the trust in any possible sexpartner. It all becomes like an autistic masturbation to which never any intelligence can hold and all innocence of youth will be spoilt.

Growing older and wiser by experience one begins to expel the experience itself always being corrupt on the contemporal of a generationmotive. This is not at all was meant: it should not run into a generation conflict of hippies rejecting the next generation having that generation later on rejecting their own culture the same way. Instead a cross-generational liberation in a healthy love for sexual partnership, celebration of good and popular (dance)music being free from crime, mental illness and addiction was meant. Games running bad should be abandoned as bad company will ruin your life. But at the same time ideals should not be given up. After generational thesis and antithesis also synthesis will take place by nature. The good of the modern generations will be kept in the style of a e.g. 'straight edge'-mentality tuned down to a less fanatic level, while the soulful of the previous counterculture will offer a purified version of the same old thing. Thus the countercultural experience can be maintained for all people of all generations as a welcome expansion of the human potential: to our example - the ability to find liberation in dancing in freedom without any fear. 

 

           r) Play for the game and not for the gain.

To winning and losing with a game the most important to remember is not to lose the soul; not to give up the conscientious. Willing to win, while spoiling the spiritual one may gain material power or position still in fact having lost the essence. The losers are the one's grousing: corrupting one runs into the seduction of intoxication with a profitmotive spoiling the character with illicit practices. Therefore not the material outcome is decisive but the experience of the game itself: in fact the game of life never ends although it constantly changes form; e.g. this generation has to be afraid of sex, while the previous one could be overly positive about it. Both have in common the lack of good regulation or planning of formal liberation and culture. Essential to progress in this is the tuning down of the profit motive: money and such is really not that important once is known who one is dealing with and what the possibilities of spending and obtaining are. The quality of the player and the game is important, not so much the quantity of players or the profit it would give. From this the importance can be derived of upgrading the formal structure of society and thus reinforcing the qualities of the people involved. 

 

           s) Keep your strategy in respect.

Strategy is the result of experience: one has learned to exercise respect according certain principles. To the outer effect there are as many strategies as there are people: each has his own version of the idea of being human. This can be very confusing. To be yourself is a vague idea of keeping integrity to which there are no absolutes, laws or rules in general so it seems. But on closer study it must be said that to stay yourself is a value: it is a confession to continence. Continence seems to be the essence of the true teaching. It means that to oneself one should be loyal; not to be a lie to yourself, not to betray yourself. This is half of the eternal values: don't lie don't cheat for the sake of being true and clean. The other half of sharing and helping is a social notion. To the first notion of continence one can be egoistic since it is concerned with relating to oneself. But since no man is an island the social option cannot be denied. To this the first 'egodefeating' principle is the religiously common known principle of compassion. For the sake of compassion the other principle of sobriety, the willingness to share, is accepted. Thus realizing that the interest of the ego is just half of reality one cannot escape from the selfdefeating loveprinciples of compassion and non-possessiveness. It is not a command but a psychological reality no one escapes from. Love cannot be ordained individually, but collectively we cannot escape from sharing and helping without running into warfare. Individually one can run into mental illness failing in the psychological need to help oneself and share one's life. One may play the patient and enforce help from others sharing in sickness. Still the values are reinforced although not practiced to the ideal of selfrealisation. The mature option of independence can make it very difficult to sort out how we should share and help without patronizing and manipulating others into dependency. It is very easy to become a false authority claiming to be better than the one's in need. But to call the other a profiteer is unjust as everyone profits from the accomplishments of the forefathers. Gratitude naturally takes the form of helping and sharing: one feels guilty without being accused. Only on frustration of service and inability to share, problems arise. Thus unemployment and individualism are considered great threats in modern society.

Realizing the dynamic of Time and life as a whole keeping to a strategy gets another meaning: it then means to stick to the principles (pict.) of progress and not to look back. Without this unemployment cannot be recognized as another form of work nor can individualism be recognized as a stage of selfrealization. The delusion lies in the idea of being fixed in an unsolvable problem of unemployment and egoism. It is a matter of consciousness: one should drop out of the standardway of thinking and tune in to the alternative just to have a fresh look at exactly the same way of life. One can e.g. be a politician with a policy of one's own, but at the same time in another state of consciousness be a meditator committed to the interest of the Lord. The first option may show an unemployed individualist while the second option shows a considerate servant. The latter is the view of progress in selfrealization while the first belongs to the 'not-this' delusional state ofmaterial consciousness. A simple way to summarize this rule is to say that progress is from content and delusion from the identification with form. 

 

           t) Care for an impartial judge.

Caught in the duality of material opposition any sportive or professional competition runs into the risk of a 'not-this' realization of delusion. This state is generally unwanted, destructive and debilitating. One alienates, suffers loss and loses quality as a consequence of the 'not-this'-realization. The whole meaning of a spiritual concept of order is about defeating the illusions of the 'not-this'-type of consciousness. It is not to call the standardway delusional itself. It is from the lack of consciousness of the complementing and expanding alternative that delusion is born. The negative flippancy of knowing it as 'not-this' ruins all respect and progress making any goodness of standardsociety a nightmare of addiction, imprisonment and disease. Hating the rut, missing the grit one misses it not knowing what. That is misery. To get out of the old misery of 'football' that always knew suffering in delusions of opposition, the position of the referee is needed. The referee should not be fixed on counting offenses and goals, but should be the one deciding about time to judge the capacity to control. Thus the referee will be appreciated by the players who are in need of the positive sanctioning of their playing. The impartial judge should not be the God who is feared and hated as he would always punish the sinners. The impartial judge should be the fellow human being who can rise above the duality of the opposition and judge when the game is rightly of this or that person and team. The judge is impartial if he himself is not in opposition to the game itself which would be foul without him. The judge should merely judge and not suffer the delusions of the 'not-this'-game thinking he can control the players by means of chastising. The game is controlled by its rules and the rules are derived from natural reality the way God wanted it. A game that is constantly in need of a chastising authority is simply a bad game that is in need of revision. And this notion not only concerns english soccer. Also in e.g. the political field the impartial judge may appreciate the quality of a team to the endurance of its reign.  

 

           u) Do not fear a psychological game.

Especially concerning strategies there is a lot of psychology involved. The purpose of control is served best by fathoming the psychology of the game. Once the mechanisms of control are understood even loss can be a victory understanding that for instance age, statusorientation and experience are decisive to a victory. There is always some psychology going on in any game of life. Some games are set up just to challenge the ignorance of a certain psychology. For instance the will to win can be considered psychologically as a weakness only awarding losers with the satisfaction of a certain insight. Not knowing this people can be afraid of even playing the game: they suspect an evil genius manipulating them into dependency. With mental patients this can often be observed: the will to be independent completely perverted by the 'not-this' aversion runs into a chaos of selfrealisation where not even one's own mindimpressions are recognised as being imagination of authority in positive identification with the paternal. From the perversion of refutation people grouse and regress twisting the definitions of reality to concepts of rules and games that can never arise above the duality. Religiously the social derangement of the 'not-this' mind is called false prophecy, scientifically it is called imposing and politically it is called dictature. The true believer is always a devotee, the true scientist is always a rebel and the true politician is always a democrat. From this the ideal cultural person would be a democratic and devoted rebel: the mature person is always critical about the other authority, wouldn't need to impose himself either and leave the management to the democratic rule. The devotion would be to the free association of people following the alternatives of formalised and informal society liberated to this or that service of order or not.

After thousands of years a mature culture would not have to chew the chewed anew running into the same old type of war etc. Like a chess-computer defeating the worldchampion, science can form a program of management that is no one in particular anymore. The lead that is no one is the accumulation of our experience. Just like with computers, all that is needed is memory, high speed and a dynamic program of adaptation to time and circumstances. The psychology arises not recognising the authority or missing the filognosy, the love of knowledge. Taking the challenge of a psychological game the winner always has discovered the true authority being a devoted and democratic rebel. 

 

           v) Always remember to thank your opponent for the game.

It is a gentlemen's agreement to be in respect of the people who opposed in he game, whether they won really or just believe they have won. People who believe that they can lose or win to the reality of an eternal soul have forgotten that conscientious selfremembrance is not restricted to one's own body and thus cannot really be won or lost. The only thing unreal is death as to Time change is the fact of life. But still there should be gratitude for the body, the game, the society and the opponent in the game. Although form is not eternal, matter certainly is as eternal as the consciousness thereof. The only thing that counts is the continence of soul through the changes of time. The miracle is in the selfremembrance that continues over death. It defies material logic which declares it discontinuous. The miracle affirms the principles of love as they declare continuation of remembrance. Once having the ego settled without the falsehood and 'not-this'-realization of lies and deceit, love can be with all its sharing and caring. Following this it is possible and even mandatory etiquette to show respect after the game of the opposing ego has finished. Each game of sport and otherwise should be recognized as a doorway to the reality of human love. Without it the game of life wouldn't be worth playing and loss would be unbearable. How can you lose a game if all participants win love sharing and caring about it? Losing a game one should thank the opponent saying 'thank you for the game', knowing that the only real loss is the loss of the love for the game. A game is not bad because you lose it, it is bad because rules are missed. 

 

           w) Do not hate to be an outsider or beginner.

Another problem of all good sport is jealousy: beginners and outsiders can be that envious that the whole game is discarded or even perverted and debased to a form that is nothing but injustice. Mr.Muscle tries to win over Mr.Morality in a classical competition that is ultimately won by the moral majority as mere opposing force can only find peace in the forgetfulness of intoxication. The synthesis of muscle serving morality makes the godhead ruling the sports. All sport is in service of this godhead that is himself a mature devotee of democracy. The godhead religiously is always a devotee himself of the complete whole of God he can never cover completely. Therefore there is always classically a multitude of Gods or supreme selfrealizers who model for the beginners and outsiders. Righteous people love to see a good game as an outsider or realize that a lot has to be accomplished being a beginner. The fun usually is over once the game is under control: then one begins to think about a game of one's own as everything should evolve. From mastery to divinity is a big step though involving the whole of mankind. Even a thing as simple as a cooking recipe can change the whole world. Any small change in the habits of a human being will result in a complete change of that human being. If e.g. nobody would smoke cigarettes we would have a completely different type of social cohesion and collective selfrealization. Often people underestimate the impact and importance of their own contribution. Thus seen selfesteem and selfknowledge is very important. If a soul would reincarnate e.g. but would not catch up his or her former practices humanity would certainly lose an important capacity. This is also true for animals whose contribution to the joy of life is difficult to estimate. Being prudent as an outsider relative to e.g. animals or trees or as a beginner relative to e.g. other believers would save mankind a lot of misery. 

 

           x) Do not gamble on outcome.

This rule relates to the reality of the eternal principle of sobriety. Peace can only be with contentment: be happy with what you are and have, do not desire for anything more. Still evolution presses towards a higher, say more complicated, state. This seeming contradiction is understood from the need not to repress; the assertionrule that states that any defense of one's own interest may not go at the cost of others. Likewise evolution may not go at the cost of what existed before. From a developing fetus we learn that in man all the previous stages of evolution are still kept. From an amoeba we develop towards a fully adapted homo sapiens not stopping at being a fish or a reptile. In psychoanalysis the failure of sound evolution is known as repression while the spiritual stresses personal emancipation before a collective revolution. Economy stresses the idea of fair competition being social darwinism: although it does not regret repression and monopoly still the belief is that competition is needed to have the best service. The problem of economy specifically and mankind generally is as far as the value of sobriety or sharing is concerned, the tendency to gamble; speculate on the outcome. As explained before, in the delusion of material gain, the idea of winning is contained which is indicative for the reality of offense. The speculator does not defend but attack. He puts his money, energy and capacity in building castles in the air with the only possible real outcome of living the want for ever more. This defines desire before servitude and its shadow of aggression (war) before acceptance of service (peace). Therefore sobriety and its outcome of sharing is known as a basic principle or eternal value of the soul by means of which one avoids speculation and gambling (pict.). In contrast with the evasion of speculation for an outcome there is the speculation in favor of the soul: it defines intuition, inspiration, the sixth sense, metaphysical knowledge, the intelligence of compassion, he love of God and the wisdom of the holy spirit. Without this speculation nobody could fathom about his original nature. Striving for servitude the mission of selfrealisation is to uncover the authentic relationship, the eternal nature of the individual soul. Psychologists define it, not speculating about the possibility of reincarnation, as the identity formed in positive identification. 

 

           y) Identify with the honorable.

As identification is as well the problem as the solution, it is of greatest importance to give it due consideration. As a problem identification pertains to the falsity of permanence of the material form while for the positive religiously the honor of holiness, politically the honor of the becoming and scientifically the honor of the paternal is concerned. To this positive of identification the natural option should be added of the honor of natural self-evidence. To respect the complete whole in this the reality of the holy, becoming and selfevident paternal is the object of identification. Religiously one might call for the Lord, scientifically for the biological father and politically for the head of state. But from natural selfevidence one follows one's hate and love to follow or oppose from the personal to the impersonal. Although the personal is the way of learning in identification, the mature option always presses towards the impersonal norm and values of aligning to the invisible connecting soul of the soul: the supersoul religiously called God, scientifically called the true of time or ideal, true self and politically called the purpose of utopia.

Practically identification boils down to the idea of what would be holy, becoming, selfevident and paternal. Holiness follows from the value of cleanliness. Not just taken materially but also spiritually the spiritual pure is defined as holy as far as it is worthy of reverence. Since to the mature option no name can be betrayed one is for the sake of worldorder left to the impersonal object of reverence. In fact the clock must learn to represent the individual identity. God impersonally taken in the form of time can be and is venerated by means of clockwork. There is no sane person religious or not that would doubt the status of the clock as the director of the order of society. We simply cannot do without. Hence the before mentioned serious concern with alternatives of clockmanagement and a proposition for an improved design.

As for the becoming we are looking for the suitability of a good form which is also a religious definition. To the selfevidence of the natural option we would need no further explanation, shortly defining validation as a scientific it-is-as-it-(naturally)-is to which the discussion of which paternal option, would be solved by the value of freedom. The purpose is to have a free choice of timeawareness by means of an instrumental respect for alternatives. The impractical of natural chaos contrasted with a free choice of pragmatic, religious, political or psychologically inspired paradigmata of timemanagement (pict.) would ultimately look like a computer-clock but be practically worked out by a simple indication on the existing calendar and alternative use of existing timepieces- and schemes as pictured in tables & designs. Those who call the love for an alternative as being neurotic may realize that their own confession to the comfort of standardtime can also be considered a compulsory neurosis. As long as the heart does not dominate the lower conditionings of the body to the ego of a group, the power of a position or the sexual of love, neurosis (the sickness of the nerve) is the reality. 

 

           z) Accept your loss and glory equanimous.

Equanimity is a great accomplishment. It is popularly known as 'being cool', not very concerned about the outer world or material effect: he who loses temper is the real loser. Psychologically it is one's composure with which the calm is kept. Winning is a relative thing and losing too. The soul is the mystery of continence that irrespective of the condition of the body continues to operate. A dead person or a loser (of life) can still be working in the heart of the others and a newborn baby can still be wanting to win the whole world showing a character that doesn't change for the rest of its life. Equanimity directly refers to the reality of God, Lordship, selfrealization, personal interest, soul and maturity. A young child can thus be more mature than an adult because of which we cannot have standard recipes of judging people.

An overly concern about gain and loss is proof of ignorance about the reality of the soul. One can be very disturbed possessed by this ignorance not being aware of the train of illusion one is on. Although good sport seems to be a matter of skill the reality is that a good game can only be with people who are familiar with the science of the soul. The game of life is complex and nobody knows all the rules but certain is that it must be clear who, where and when one is, to play a game of opposites. It is also a game to find out who, where and when the master of the game is. Tobe equanimous to the master is always the human problem going for opposition or not. To crash seems to be the inevitable consequence of life as no one can control the complete of the human game. A good sport may see no other choice than to laugh about the missers in the comic-book of life. Some day everybody will be finished crying about spoilt milk. To see the game means not to take life too serious also.

 

Chapter 7: The Body

 

a) Eat natural stuff.

b) Avoid indigestion and toxic effects.

c) Do your daily exercises.

d) Give up if you lose control.

e) Restart if you feel confident.

f) Make the body obey.

g) Listen to the body.

h) Give the body time to restore itself.

i) Try natural healing as much as possible.

j) On depression, relax and enjoy.

k) On mania, check your motives.

l) On confusion check time and circumstances.

m) On paranoia check your expectations, promises, plans desires, aspirations, righteousness and duties.

n) Satisfy the bodily needs on schedule.

o) Be moderate.

p) Meet the conditions of resting.

q) Guard your limits.

r) Do not exhaust without guidance.

s) Fast regularly.

t) Keep diversity of bodily action.

u) Award the body at the proper time for obeying.

v) Exercise the imagination willingly.

w) Do not fear the spirit, but direct it from the soul.

x) Purify by abstinence.

y) In case of pain: check your integrity.

z) Maintain the body meticulously until death.

 

 

 

 

          a) Eat natural stuff.

The first commandment of health is to stay sane not sleeping too much and to stay healthy not eating too much. When one eats the first commandment is to eat regularly, little and diverse to get all you need. Nature will provide all you need provided this rule is respected. Exactly knowing what one needs one doesn't have to eat that much. Purely chemical only very little is needed forgetting that the intestines need bulk to keep working. The dictate of natural food comes from the mature option: we should not depend on cultural fixation but on the vitality of mother nature. It is a kind of first religion: mommy is all and everything and that should be so for ever exchanging the biological mother for the one of greater nature. The effort for chemical replacement and manipulation can be considered as a bad quality: man has the tendency to be envious and copy and thus tries to imitate mother nature not always because it is needed, but just to prove himself, for the looks e.g., equally capable. Thus the mature option can sometimes lead to as well harmony as opposition: maturity is also defined by its process of becoming; its evolution.

Of course is dependency a broad concept when it comes to food. One can depend on other people, animals or plantlife for sustenance. The children won't mind depending on people, the mature won't mind depending on the animals while the selfrealized will not mind depending on plantlife. Just as a child has to mature not to depend on people, the mature in fact has to learn not to depend on the animal. In fact the greater part of human religion is about the dependency on animals: it is a constant preaching for the sake of the human values which are forgotten going for the animals. The pure vegetarian might be mature and not infested with animal motives, but still has to exercise to move from his place and not grow attached to the peace and inertia of the nature of plants. It can be a mystique to unify with the consciousness of plants spiritually. It is certainly a form of spiritual therapy for restless hunting and gathering meateaters. But once having found that green anchor it must be actively remembered that one has to overcome that temptation of inertia. Properly fed wholesome the vegetarian is no weaker than the meateater and will possibly even live longer not wasting his energies on unnecessarily destructive lifestyles. As depending on the artificial and chemical can e.g. make the human being too fast not being integrated with the greater of nature, the dependency on plants only can make too slow being overly integrated with the vegetable motive. One is what one eats, they say. Nor being artificial, nor being inert belongs to the definition of a balanced sane and healthy person. Defining unhappiness and its shadow of disease by the artificial, animalistic and passive mode, the secret of eating proper is to remember that happiness means to be real, human and active. 

 

           b) Avoid indigestion and toxic effects.

Eating at regular times makes it possible to control the amount of food taken. If e.g. six times a day a certain type of food is taken at a certain time, it is possible to cut the food otherwise taken spontaneous to fulfill the need. The need for sweets can be satisfied by taking a cookie or other small sweet at the morning and afternoonbreak. The need for snacks can be settled in the evening watching television. The need for protein, fat and vitamins can be regulated by means of a considerate diet settling the amount and type of food that must be taken to satisfy the needs. If something is lacking in the diet one will develop rebellion and start eating at irregular times according to the lust. Not only the appetite will be spoilt that way but the total control will be lost over the food intake thus running into indigestion, intoxication and other eatingdisorders. Overeating is best treated by regulating the times of foodintake. Once those times are accepted the amount can be controlled.

Regulation is in fact an agreement of fasting which is the basis of all good health. During the night or for another set period of time one may be fasting. Breaking this rule by plundering the refrigerator forgetting the agreement of discipline will result in disorder. Food is a reward for the body and to the spirit the body simply has to earn that reward. This will keep the body alert and motivated like any dog trained to get a cookie. People who can't sleep at night might e.g. turn out to be night-eaters having their bodies rewarded for waking up during the period of resting. No sleeping-pills will cure them unless they regulate their foodintake. People who have difficulty finding work during the day may also develop eating disorders taking the satisfaction of the reward for the work for the satisfaction of the work itself. The eating-disorder can be a symptom of psychological disturbance. Treating the symptom will result in another expression of that psychological conflict. While there is no guarantee that that expression of conflict would be less destructive than the eatingdisorder itself, it is always important to break a bad habit once the psychological basis is known..

Another point to remember is that fasting may concern only a certain type of food for a certain period of time. Naturally human culture has developed by means of religious regulation periods of fasting at the end of the winter simply to deal civilized with a shrinking supply of food. By strength of the conditioning to time this rooted as a proper health strategy of alerting the body (and religious spirit) by deprivation although no real foodshortages are there anymore at the end of the winter. Not to eat meat at fridays and not to eat vegetable protein at the eleventh day after full and new moon are other examples of fastingstrategies that are more known for their conditioning than for their original purpose of alerting the body. One may fast not for the sake of the body, but for the sake of the spirit of Time being an expression of God and the soul. No meat on fridays is a support for the julian-gregorian roman calender while the beans-cereal-fast is a meditation on the regularity of the moon. These fasts may be forgotten once the order of time is understood and settled. Properly setting the time and the diet makes a further regulation of fast superfluous.

As for toxic substances especially grilled and roasted meat and alcohol are associated with the incidence of cancer in the throat and digestive tract. Generally the digestion of (red) meat burdens the intestines more with toxic byproducts which eventually also can lead to cancer. Researchers advice to this is to eat more fresh fruit, vegetables and fiber generally and consider vegetarian dishes more. 

 

           c) Do your daily exercises.

The regular stretching and bending exercises to integrate body and spirit can monitor the actual situation of timeconditioning one is in. It provides for a control to make sure which conditionings result in what stiffness or break of continence. This way the private person is a scientist of his own lifestyle experimenting with the best possible adaptation to time and circumstances. During winter e.g. things might work out differently than to the time of summer. Also conditioning to activities in the weekend might work completely different from schemes that plan the same activities during normal weekdays. There is also a collective consciousness that favors certain abstaining or acting at certain times to which one might adapt or alternate. This way celebrating religious during the week can also refresh one's belief while at the other hand working on saturdays and sundays can also vitalize society. Simply for the sake of the body and the psychology of consciousness it is conducive to break the dead of stiff schemes of conditioning vitalizing to alternatives.

Whatever the way one likes to live, the exercise of the body for the sake of exercise is important and not to be neglected considering health. Lost in the games of life one easily has the mind slipping. To have exercises as a daily habit give the consciousness and control that is not depending on the type of life one is leading. To each game of opposites it is important to have the position of the impartial judge having an exercise of discipline of his own. Thus one can align to the soul remembering the basic values (pict.) not going for the results of exercise. It factually only stabilizes once the discipline is light enough to perform at all ages: then it can stand the test of time. 

 

           d) Give up if you lose control.

Managing one's independence and body sooner or later the limits will be reached and control will be lost. The better one cooperates and gets monitored by others the better the controls will work. Timely one will be warned entering the danger-zone with two people knowing more than one. Still group-forming is no guarantee against the loss of control. The rule of quitting a game running bad must be remembered here. Thereto one must not be attached to the result of the bodywork. The rules of the good sport must be remembered not to get lost in the destructivity of a physical conflict. International war e.g. is an example of losing control in political management. The only answer to warfare is to give up. Considering what must be given up during war one may wonder about the nature of the original conflict. Did we eat too much now we evidently have to give that up? Did we fear confrontation too much now that we can't escape from it. Did we deny sexual love too much now the soldiers are raping to their desire? Did we forget to ask the proper questions now people are tortured for their commitments? Did we forget the sweet Lord too much now we are seeking refuge in prayer? War shows where the controls in fact lie: in togetherness, foodintake, sexual love, discourse and worship. Thus the regulation of gathering, foodintake, sexual love, human discourse and worship are of prime importance to keep control and survive in times of crisis. This leads to the values of regulation: socialization, moderation, sexual abstinence, listening and respect. Moderation is settled by social security, sexual abstinence by means of marriage (not just the spiritual marriage), listening by means of the media and worship by means of clockwork. Socialization is left to the freedom of association as no philosopher can tell what individual preference and need would be needed. One can say to that only that some kind of settlement for social control is needed. As proposed the government could settle for a (non-political) socialization subsidy for people confessed to an agreement of social order. In conclusion the best way to keep control is to watch television and socialize regularly, being married living for the maintenance of the basis of social security and settling one's days to a proper timescheme (pict.). 

 

           e) Restart if you feel confident.

During war and disease everything breaks down: human discourse, socialization, marriage, social security and scheduling can all have failed. This is an enormous break in confidence. Everything was based on the peace and continence of listening to one another, being together, espoused, socially secured in a pleasant daily order. To restart is inevitable after failure. Life must be lived whatever the failure. Still there will be due consideration as to what the cause of failure would have been. May be too much sex despite the marriage? May be too afraid of going out being with strangers? Maybe too much prejudice against alternative lifestyles and opinions? May be too disrespectful about social security? Maybe the wrong type of time was cherished? Each failure stresses to find a proper answer to these questions. Only with a certain conclusion of repentance one can restart and try again. Fighting this is the same as fighting against experience and evolution. Man is an evolutionary success because it grew a brain and it will keep being successful not denying to use that capacity for adaptation. Confidence will come from the mindful realigning to the order of the true self remembering that being forgetful and repressive equals having lost (view of) that divinity (pict.). 

 

           f) Make the body obey.

The body is a material construct in the harmony of the conditionings of time. It is 'made by God' as the religion declares. The motive is essentially for harmony as harmony is the experience of pleasance and vitality. Psychoanalytically called the lustprinciple, the love for harmony tries to escape from pain, confrontation and the problems of life. The body as a fix of matter always experiences stress under the influence of conditions to a scheme of time. These conditionings are dynamic. No stable pattern can be. No one will visit church every sunday without, sooner or later missing a sunday, being too sick to attend. Illness can be recognized as a problem of conditioning. Fixed to a pattern of behavior missing vitality one stifles to a disease being exhausted a certain way, vulnerable to germs, toxins, stress etc. The therapy always is he same: the disease makes it impossible to continue with the diseasing pattern of behavior, one has to decondition and find other ways of continuing life. Deconditioning is the basis of all cures. It restores resistance and vitality by inducement to another way of life. Meateaters cannot eat a bit anymore, sportsmen cannot sport anymore and overly stressed employers cannot continue their job. This is the language of the body: it has its own authority and power to direct the person. Still the body must be under control. It cannot be accepted that the body will be completely determined by its impulses. There must be a program of action, conscientious selfcontrol reminiscent of the reality of the soul. Psychoanalytically this is called the reality principle to which regular psychologists talk about contracts, agreements and schemes of action. The art of managing the body is to have such an agreement that the person is not compulsory, stifled and diseased to a fix but is in dynamic control to a certain idea of order. Like with a good computerprogram all kinds of adaptation to the time, circumstances and person must be possible without wrecking the essence of the agreement or program. This means one has to compromise between the motives of lust and the commands of material reality, between the individual and social, between the economic and idealistic motive. One has to balance between the pain of the realityprinciple and madness of the lustprinciple. One has to balance between power and surrender, between one's nature and one's culture. The proper balance defines the health of a free association of control and body which is the purpose and method of the regulation by the book of rules (pict). 

 

           g) Listen to the body.

The body is also a sensitive instrument like a controlpanel in a spaceship. All kinds of alarm can be given to indicate disturbance. The type of alarm, being false or not, is built in the program of behavior. A person must by the law of consonance believe in his program however outdated it may be. This defines his selfesteem and ego-boundaries. A person has an integrative shield warding of impulses and even warningsignals to another program. This way greater society regularly has to pay for its immaturity of management by means of a sudden outbreak of war. Within a few months the whole world can be in misery because of a serious armed conflict threatening all kinds of socioeconomic balances and cultural integrities. Like a psychiatric patient without medicine or behavioral program the world can at any moment run into the chaos of a collective psychosis or chronic derangement of a schizophrenic civil conflict. Individual people can (temporarily) be artificially fixed in the straitjacket of psychiatric medicine. The greater society cannot be managed that way though. For societies only behavioral programs of education, management and politics can be effective in the battle against the delusions of the 'not-this' realizations of material involvement. In this the electronic 'straitjacket' of television is an important medium. In principle all matter, and therefore also the material body, induces to anxiety knowing that nothing material will last. As soon as a person must identify with his body, having to perform in public e.g., great fear arises to drive the person towards an optimum of taskperformance. People in showbusiness must be adrenaline addicts some way or another to be able to continue, eventually suffering serious depressions after performing or being unable to continue a program. The normal person will recognize the arousal of the adrenaline-alert as healthy up to a certain point beyond which there will be refusal of action. As soon as the person feels too much fixed on his own body or anything else fixed in matter be it books or other consumer goods e.g., he will reject it to give priority to the human interest of free association preferably in the private sphere. Being too much fixed in the private sphere one goes public by hobby, religion or otherwise assembling. Also animals form an important escape from being fixed on one's own body or other matter. The living bodies of other people and beings are the ideal escape from the selfconfrontation in the spirit (pict.).

To have proper control over the body it needs careful attendance as it will warn against programfailures and disturbances. Listening to the body one must also learn to listen to the spirit which will reflect also as a controlpanel when certain bugs, viruses or otherwise negativities are wrecking the program. Schizophrenics might be people talking to themselves realizing they have lost and given up control. Normal people may also talk and listen to themselves keeping their sanity working out their problems with other people in the imagination thus regaining the control that turned out to be ruined upon introspection. Turning the mind inwards is a need. To realize that everybody temporarily has a schizoid lack of control over the spirit is essential to be motivated to work over consciously the programs of action and correct them to the changes of time. This is maturity. To the young it is important to teach them that to talk things over as well as with oneself as with others is important. One may present it with prayers or common proverbial wisdom to teach them to concentrate and endure for the sake of a good spirit. Running from that reality is a common basis not only of Individual disease, mental and physical, but also of collective sociopathic derangement. Young people and inexperienced people who later in mature life have to catch up with the commands of maturity, under guidance learn to internalize from the mature model and thus learn to listen not only to their own bodies and minds but also to other people in general. Proper identification with paternal control is the basis of all good health and sanity. 

 

           h) Give the body time to restore itself.

Sooner or later anyone working a material life of obligations and pleasures must step back and introspect. Given proper identification in the religious, scientific and political sphere, the person will successfully overcome the temporary schizophrenia. It must be learned that in order to meditate successfully a certain program must be followed: certain physical exercises have to be performed to keep the body under the control of a stable conditioning to time so that the revolting spirit deranged by material attraction can calm down, has no direct expression and learns to serve the meditationprogram and God of time built into it. It must also be understood that that can only successfully be done with the aid of maxims of meditation like the eastern 'put the pearl of the mind in the lotus of the heart' or 'all honor unto Him who has taken the form of Time, being the restingplace of all the worlds, the subduer of all beings and the supreme divinity upon whom I meditate' stressing the importance of heartfulness and modesty. Next to common prayer to the father in heaven and the holy mother other essentials of truth can help the mind reorganizing itself to find, peace, goodness and association working out the social problems in the spirit. Also important is to have learned not to use the internal, spiritual as an escape from social reality. In fact only after working proper it is good to relax. With a bad conscience it is difficult to meditate. Meditation is a higher stage of personal evolution putting high demands on the individual responsibility. To each temple and church there is a ritual of approach to ward of the demoniac. Likewise also selfconfrontation is in need of a certain strategy of approach and a limit of time. E.g. to meditate longer than one hour, physical exercise or not, can give rise to serious psychiatric trouble missing the necessary reality testing. Experimentally it has been proven that anybody can hallucinate under the conditions of sensory deprivation and social isolation. It is punishment used for prisoners and psychopaths and to experience that as a positive liberation one must grow to be a stern hermit. Mortified to austerities the ascetic may realize a lot about God and his own soul but without proper preparation under the guidance of a spiritual leader one will certainly be a failure of selfcontrol. In order to be alone one must be very social as the whole world must be internalized. Still only aloneness will give the body and the managing spirit all freedom to develop and maintain the honor, health and sanity of the mature option. As one half of the bodily affliction may result from disharmonious conditioning, the other half may have resulted from the dependencies in the immature state. Ultimately everybody will agree that nobody is completely free from misery and that there is only an opportunity to restore body and spirit, while there is never a real opportunity to escape. Even death offers no guarantee of not continuing in the here-after. Usually one attains to where one wants to be while being not is difficult to imagine. One may lose the body but not the trace left behind. 

 

           i) Try natural healing as much as possible.

Nature is the great healer as mother nature gave birth to us all. Also culture can be regarded as a special form of nature with healing properties. A lot of people sick would be perfectly healed going out and socialize in a pub so now and then. Eating natural stuff, preferring real people before artificial or virtual representations in the media, smelling a real flower instead of smelling from a spray can etc. can make the difference between a sick and healthy person. In the circuit of holistic healing it even does not really matter what kind of peculiar program one follows as long as the people can cure by simply escaping from the stress and lovelessness of artificial and dead routines. Being together that way it is much easier to forget about timeschedules as being alone. Also having a garden e.g. it can be much easier to be in touch with nature as having a balcony in an apartmentbuilding far away from a park. With that the big city can be a serious hindrance in selfrealization never permitting to relax more than strictly needed with all noise, mind and nearness of other ways of living. To find nature and the real of life back can even be a serious economic problem as culture perfectly knows to exploit any little bit of natural liberation. The art of healing natural seems to lie in being the perfect cultural escapist. One escapes from the artificial in a religion of free association remembering oneself as a harmony of time conditionings and reconditionings. The enemies of natural healing are repression and escapism: never the way back to the workload one has to deal with must be blocked, nor must the thereto opposing duty and likewise cultures be repressed to have a respectful and righteous retrieval of wholeness. As long as fear does not have the lead and no one is victimized, scapegoated or painted black, love and peace are no weakness, heresy or perversion. Who is afraid of mother nature when the revolution is called green? 

 

           j) On depression, relax and enjoy.

Depression can follow nutritional deficiency, missing vitamin C for instance or can follow the workaholic breakdown missing the people and oneself one escaped from. Also depression can follow sleeping too much. Depression can be a complex of conditionings to which a new style of life must be learned once dropping out of the 'not-this'-way of life. Instead of deriving honor from dealing with misery one might have to derive honor from dealing with the proper. Although human goodness and compassion dictate to care for the fallen and needy, the uncultivated and criminal, still the honor cannot be derived from being superior or holier than thou. It is both ways, the workload that may be cleaning the toilet or whatever menial lower job, while the other way joining the uplifting celebrations of the subliminal culture support the true ego of identifying with the order of the divine (pict.). As said it is important how things are done not necessarily what things. After the workload has been taken the other life must liberate and align all to the same freedom of association (pict.). Stressing the formal of classidentifications as being relevant for the workload one can celebrate the perfect order, honor and identity of each form of commitment in the liberation of the statusorientation-culture that can reward and reinforce all equally for the sake of celebrating being there only. It is not good to deny classdifferences out of fear for jealousy or false ego meanwhile covertly still maintaining the gap in culture. Why is it bad to recognize people going to a concert or movie e.g. as being of all classes? Why would a certain class be dishonorable? Isn't the freedom of orientation to class decisive for its righteousness? Isn't it the ideal that all are equally appreciated for their own way of attaining to respect and commitment (see also the colorcode) ?

A government taking these arguments serious could consider the hindrances of economic capacity as overcome by granting subsidies for people in respect of the order irrespective their line of material work (as long as they are not ashamed of it). Subsidies are reinforcements. A government thus should know to what line of behavioral science they are committed to be effective in building a society and order that would satisfy all. Injustice in this can be found in ignorance and negative thinking of e.g. leaders who are caught in the clutches of the 'not-this' mind of material entanglement. This way even the cultural identitycrisis and depressions of the lost ideals of the twentiest century can be overcome by relaxation and enjoyment. As all know : to cure from trauma is a psychological treat. Psychology bad, psychology good, once it's done, it's understood. 

 

           k) On mania, check your motives.

Bio-psychiatry proposes physical deficiency as the cause of mental derangement. E.g. with manic-depressieven clear deviances can be noticed in the chemical balance of the brain-substances (neurotransmitters). Still the regular scientist will say that all causal explanation depends on the paradigm, the theory that explains for a practice. Thus the bio-psychiatrist can be true, can as well be erring or can cherish only a half-truth that is practical to his medical commitment of devising medicine as a therapy. Postmodern approaches will stress the importance of interdisciplinary teamwork in the treatment of manic deviances and other psychiatry. It is not simple psychology as it transgresses the boundaries of the sane and safe. Still the psychological cause, the psychological departure from sanity and selfresponsibility is important. Sometimes the only way out of the trouble is to defend the idea that the manic is a special case of sanity and can only come to an end when the person realizes his goal selfresponsibly. It is like being in court: the psychiatrist is the prosecutor accusing the subject of being a patient endangering others and himself. The psychologist leads the defense that must prove that the special type of behavior is within normal limits and even of importance to others and himself. The problem lies within the power of judgment: who is to decide as a judge; or american: where is the jury that will decide about guilt and innocence? In fact a formal order in defense of the interest of the soul is needed. From this order it may be clear what is untruth and betrayal, egoism and possessiveness. From this order can be understood why there is deviation and how it can be forgiven. Mania for instance in the theater is condoned while in private such a show cannot be tolerated. Decisive is loyalty to a script as the script defines the limits. The same way normal manic bouts in a human life can be condoned when there is a guarantee of loyalty to an order fixed by prescription. For instance soldiers in time of war can be completely manic for the sake of a victory until they disobey their superiors. Only then they suddenly are potential criminals eventually to be executed on the spot. In conclusion it is important that finding oneself in a state of exhilaration, elation, bubbling over with inspiration, being energetic and directive etc., in such cases one must always ascertain the motives of action that must be unequivocally clear and fixed by agreement. Otherwise with the latter, social control will be lost and will one be forced to resort to less favorable means of control overruling the mature option of the deviant. From this follows the importance of an explicit concept of formal social order that will set the limits of control. Sooner or later each person must experience when 'the will of God' or the reality of social control in service of the soul will override the claim of independence and maturity. A lack of formal order will result in an excess of deviance: crime, madness and corruption. To hearten justice to this equals devotion to a formal concept of order that will formulate the motive, the line of action and the sanctions of control. As stated positive sanctioning is done by initiation ceremonies, special decoration and monetary reward in the form of payment or other benefit (privileges, attention, freedom, etc.). Normally negative sanctioning is done by withdrawing the positive sanction or even punishment settled by law. All this together will purify the personal motives and secure society against the harm of individual mania and other deviance. 

 

           l) On confusion check time and circumstances.

With all types of status and professional orientation (pict.) a lot of confusion can be in the seemingly opposing conflict of the different motives and action. There will always be a need of conscious discourse in parliament or other meetings and ways of deliberation. However one works the importance of an agreement, to each effort there is an agreement about time and circumstances. Therefore the general advice for everyone who feels confused is to check himself to the program of time and circumstances he has or is heading for. Opting for meeting in parliament will give another confusion than meeting privately in a bedroom, opposing on a field of sport or meeting for businesspurposes and religion. Generally to switch from one confusion to another gives the greatest trouble as the bedroom might not give the mind for business, or parliament might oppose to the interest of religion.

Again as with the previous rule the unifying and connecting force is the soul that must be secured socially by formal agreement. With everyone properly aligned, switching and working the confusion to a clear end will be successful. With the reality of compensation and repression though, not being properly aligned to the interest of the soul and its evident order sooner or later there will be a crash that destroys the adaptations and will look like a war collectively or mental disease individually. As yet the twentiest century has proven the reality of this as if it would concern the medieval black plague wiping out the lives of millions of people. The flea that turned out to be the cause of the trouble concerning the plague (or our lack of resistance against it) might for the disease of warfare be the estrangement from the reality of the soul (or our inability to have a mondial agreement about expressing its formal order). Nor religiously, nor politically, nor scientifically the twentiest century concept of ego is that subservient that its falsehood and warfare could be prevented. For this purpose not to have the periodic madness of 'the plague', a mondial reform of formal order in service of the interests of the soul is absolutely needed. Laxity in this, denying, compensating and postponing will never lead to a better guarantee of maintaining social order, peace and security. Blocked in progression mankind will only develop new diseases, madness, deviance and misery. Another definition of disease is to see it as a consequence of a blockade of progress. 

 

           m) On paranoia check your expectations, promises,

                         plans, desires, aspirations, righteousness and duties.

Caught in a web of expectations etc. with its belonging sense of righteousness and duty one can become terribly paranoid. The real mature person will always have a healthy sense of resentment and rebellion against each imposition. It is natural instinct that will whisper into the animal ear that culture can be a bad threat to the personal interest of freedom and selfrealization. Mankind can be seen as just another anthill to which one may not aspire to be such an obedient servant. Paranoia is the result of 'not being yourself': one is possessed by evil spirits the shaman will say. Or to the nineties: one goes too fast, too hard and too cruel within a certain state of consciousness to keep in touch with the health of the relative. A Groupego fixed to a material motive will develop resentment against others projecting its own evil in suspicion. Thus the whole of society can become schizophrenic rejecting itself being exhausted in the psychological battle. As seen before any system its health is defined by its dynamics and openness or its ability to correct itself and readapt. The human body itself is the best proof of this reality: it can only function under the neurological reality of inhibition and selfcorrection working uncertainty for the sake of openness to others for a lifesaving adaptation. From this the necessity of a dynamic timeconcept and a healthy sense of alternatives in timemanagement is derived. Modern politics manage this truth by means of a liberal strategy in zonetimemanagement to which there is no realagreement in the world. And this freedom can stay so. From this freedom the individual or any group of individuals may develop its own consciousness of time. This way also the possibility of a worldorder can be conceived without repressing the existing reality of chaos in timemanagement. Not denying the liberty to live in chaos one only needs the freedom to choose for a concept of order that offers enough benefits to have a real possibility of enduring world peace irrespective political, religious or scientific preferences. To the consciousness of time there can be a dome oforder that is big enough to cover all the major cultures and mode-marks (pict.)of timemanagement in the world. Thus the paranoia of being caught in the onesidedness of a single groupego, language, culture, mode or time can be overcome. 

 

           n) Satisfy the bodily needs on schedule.

As stated before lust can become love by means of scheduling. This is the essential alchemy to make the gold of silence that covers all the weaknesses of man. As also thieves work in silence it is not the priority of silence that is advocated though. It needs conscious talking over to have a holy spirit dominating. A psychologist may observe, analyze, report and advise in silence, but politics of social management will have to take up the challenge to match the spiritual motives of wisdom with the material motives of the common man. The class of rulers, the politicians and other officials of government must compromise and agree about temporary settlements of order that would satisfy all. Important is to realize time and again that no material agreement can be a fix for ever. There is always an expansion, exception or new principle of evolution that will change the perspective asking for amendments or general reform. If for instance fire-arms are common use that might no longer be so if weapons to depolarize the nervous system come about that will be able to stun people with less destruction. New laws would be needed to keep mankind from complete chaos in shifting balances of power. If e.g biomagnetic induction would result in a new evolutionary capacity of control over matter that way that fossil fuel becomes ridiculous, all economic balances will shift so that the complete of mankind would need another international policy of management to survive. All scheduling to satisfy the human need for safety, transport, housing, food, work and entertainment is depending on the stage of evolution society and mankind is in. Always we suffer the psychological law of consonance that dictates our position or attachment to be the best. And always evolution will be a kind of pain suffering resistance against change or decompensation after detachment. The diseases of blocked progress and unmeditated detachment must be accounted for by means of liberalization against repression and alternation against decompensation. One may only be liberal if it does not repress or harm others and one can only let go of something if one can hold on to an acceptable alternative. Indiscriminately stressing detachment and the liberal will result in madness and disease and must be labeled as cheating and fraud or lies,deceit,egoism and possessiveness in political and therapeutic disguise.

To regulate the need for private and public entertainment for instance, one needs the clear cut alternative of an other schedule than the normal calender and consciousness that advocated the stress one tries to escape from in entertainment. Without this the entertainment will be another version of working the system, madness and disease and lose thus all its attraction. A certain awareness of say weekorderconsciousness does not heal from its diseases of fixation if one can't find liberation to an alternative.

The authority over this alternative may at first not be that important: one may for instance cherish to do one's laundry every fourth day irrespective the date or day of the week. But with this one must consider what one is harmonizing with, otherwise the alternative will only lead to further confusion, falldown and failure of adaptation. The objective is to become more clear and not become more confused. Thereto to walk the safe lane of settled alternatives forms the best guarantee of a harmonizing, clarifying effect. For instance a popmusician starting up may begin with covering many known songs just adding here and there a song of his own making or his style of interpretation. From not repressing one can be progressing to the settlement and acceptance of an alternative. The scheme of time proposed under tables on this site will regularly harmonize with the existing weekorder just to cover the complete of the week subtly shifting in rhythm. That way with everything one harmonizes as well as opposes so that the mind will not be able to form a false ego against the normal timeconsciousness of adaptation. Of course there are many tricks in the management of the conditioning and deconditioning of time. Meditating on it will certainly reveal one's personal way and strategy to overcome attachment and be liberated in free association. 

 

           o) Be moderate.

Addiction is the opposite of moderation. All the weakness (pict.) is not so bad as long as there is only moderate alcohol-use, a bit of lusty sex, a small amount of money wasted in gambling or just so now and then a meat-dish (pict.). Conditioning is a peculiar thing: it cannot be seen, it is not a bug or virus, it is not a person, but still it can ruin the complete of your life. Eating a little bit too much today may result in the same tendency the next day and before one realizes it one has developed overweight. How can this happen? Holiness is an integrity almost nobody can keep. It is extremely difficult to control the forces involved and once in the wrong style of life it is difficult to realize, remember and appreciate the better way. There is the law of consonance that preaches contentment and selfesteem despite of a bad habit. In defense of the bad habit it is called ego while in defense of the ideal the conscientious self is called soul. The idea is that just for oneself it is ego, a defense of bad habits, while in remembrance of an example being a model of virtue to others oneself, it need not be repressed and denied as bad but can be remembered as soul or continuing selfawareness. Thus seen continuation can be as well as a problem as far as an addiction is concerned as a matter of soul since it gives evidence of an eternal existence of goodness and virtue. This way people can be confused about the time-factor or even be completely unaware of its influence. As the good as well as the bad continue, time wouldn't matter as much as the strategy of alignment. But why separate the two creating a destructive opposition? Why would timemanagement be strange to a discipline of alignment? The answer is attachment. Attached to a certain strategy of timemanagement one may worry endless about the effectivity of a moral code. But within the same state of consciousness or mode of conditioning one cannot see or become aware of the value of the alternative. It is difficult to deprogram oneself out of a certain hypnosis.

A good example of hypnosis within a certain frame of conditioning is the attraction of the culture of standardtime as experienced with television. Hardly anyone can escape from the compulsion of the program of managing standardtime. It is like the greek hero captured by the cyclops: only by attachment to the sheep he and his men could escape from the monster. There is shame about confessing to the addiction of watching t.v.. Hardly anyone takes pride in the accomplishment of watching t.v., while it certainly is a heavy burden to endure the stress and overload of the tabloid and commercially colored programming. Around television there is about the same shame and taboo as around psychiatric medicine: they are two types of straight-jacket to manage the lack of selfcontrol. Still t.v is just another medium like books or letters. To control the medium of television one must be able to step out of it. Television is by its fixed programming typically an example of timedependent attendance. It is in fact a clock with imagination. What is seen is representative for the mode of time it manages, which is standardtime: lots of sex and violence or movies about predators and dictators devouring innocent victims. If it shows life as it really is, just filming a shoppingmall e.g. it is too boring to be considered otherwise than as an interlude. Still almost everyone is captured by it because of its timeconditioning: there is no alternative and thus also nothing more attractive or stronger to deny the t.v. irrespective the program on. The only way to get out of that addiction of shameful tabloid lust is to find the 'sheep' or association of a concept of time that is more harmonious, more real and more naturally attractive than the standardmonster or cyclops of conditioning to the artificial. An agreement with that concept would offer the real of life in the real of time with the real of attraction that can never be overruled by the artificial. The real of time is pragmatically the true of time also known as suntime and true sidereal time. The real of the calender can be described as the division of the year that is not of a conflict in the division of the day and date one is living (see table). These are practical definitions that are commonly known as the natural 'feeling' of time, indescribable and even mystical since it is a subtle conditioningforce whispering silent inspirations as a guardian angel against the evil of modern time. A conscious confession to this reality of natural harmony can take away the mysticism, superstition, loneliness and estrangement of that 'other' state of consciousness sought after so heavily in drugs and sex. Especially because of the shame about the latter it seems to be almost sacrilege to settle anything to the divine of time. Still to drop out and tune in is the dictum of the spiritual revolution as propagated in the second half of the century. The way it is done is less relevant than the bare sociological fact that modern subculture thinks that way. Postmodern culture in need of finding order in the chaos of the modern ego can learn to find honor in e.g. watching television by considering it a type of psychological work one must certainly decondition from to an alternative timescheme. This way its lust changes in love for the human effort accepting the moderation that reinforces the real thing. Also going downtown for the real can thus be purified and controlled. 

 

           p) Meet the conditions of resting.

In order to be able to take rest one must meet the demands of resting. Just like being active, sleeping and resting also depend on timeconditionings. The body will develop a rhythm of its own regulating e.g. its temperature and digestive activity according to the style of life. A person daydreaming may find it difficult to dream and sleep at night finding himself to be an alternative nightwatch to the collective interest of a peaceful night. Going against the order of the day may result in a lusty dream in the night. Once a certain pattern of behavior during the night or day is fixed chronic sleeplessness can be the result of simple timeconditioning. For instance laborers working in shifts in factories that run day-around full-time may suffer serious problems of mental and physical health being constantly urged to change their conditionings to time. Such a social construct can even be recognized as a neurotic effort to decondition from the dictature of standardtime. Being a 24-hour workaholic collectively is no solution to the onesidedness of standardtime. Nor is living a counterculture of drugs and sex a real solution. To drop out is not difficult, but to tune in without repression is something completely different. One may escape for instance in a sectarian belief just to find out that one is just as jealous, proud and deceitful as any ordinary civil servant e.g. The goal of life may be found in the love of rest and peace but seeking that, unfair shortcuts or unwise and diseasing strategies must be forgotten. It will simply have to be a sincere effort to counterbalance the existing culture with a generally acceptable alternative that is sound scientifically, politically and spiritually at the same (alternative) time. 

 

           q) Guard your limits.

The act of testing the limits is sometimes described as psychopathic or sociopathic: it would be a condition in which other people would be tested and burdened for the sake of one's own desire for control and power. Strange enough all kinds of religious, political and scientific imposition in the form of reseachprogramming, experimenting and reform defy this definition in the name of God, the good of will and the love for the truth. Organized it is condoned and endured while egoistically practiced in the private sphere, sexually, politically or scientifically the relatives may try to get rid calling for the psychiatrist. However practiced the limits of the possible must be explored in the search for solutions to the bewilderment of modernity. Testing can be a sign of disease, a symptom of unrest and proof of dissatisfaction and unease with all the new of culture. It takes almost a lifetime of experimenting how t.v., radio, computing, bookreading, newspaperchecking, magazinappreciation, cinema-attending and assorted modernity would work and balance best. The essential problem of the mature person is to find himself time and again caught in conditionings, expectations and dependencies ruining the integrity of mind and soul being called down as a follower inferior or traitor demoniac. The whole of culture sometimes seems to have become an impossible burden one can only escape from in a monastery or other seclusion just to find out that that is where the present timeconsciousness sprouted and is maintained.

Experiencing the pains of collective evolution the limits must be guarded carefully. There is the basic interest of having to keep one's job, wife ,kids and home in order and still be a respectable member of society despite of the animal motive. Not rarely it is felt as a seriously debilitating conflict between the higher and lower self. The eternal question who or what would be the authority as a proper answer to that, would be a matter of life and death. A classical answer is that the Lord as the supersoul would figure as the control over the soul that controls the spirit controlling the mind that directs the body. Proper alignment to this line of authority would be the solution to the problems of duality. Psychologically must be added that to the concept of Lordship no direct answer can be given as to what name we would refer with the dictum 'who would I be to tell the Lord what form to take?'. The Lord may want to take my form also and who am I to resist that? The mature person only knows for sure he is to take responsibility himself whatever the name of the Lord might be. The examples of the past are known and the one's of the present are under debate. Whoever the supreme personality might be, undoubtedly He will be able to set the limits of what is possible and wanted Himself. Finding out about them the adult can only guard them to prevent further unwanted testing and burdening at the one hand while at the other he might help to settle them not being afraid to explore and discover for the sake of progress either. 

 

           r) Do not exhaust without guidance.

Especially manhood likes to exhaust and compete just for the sport of it. This might not always be responsible wasting not only lots of money setting priorities wrong but also wasting complete cultures and people forgetting their value in overrated selfinterest. One of the best strategies in this is to attend to the reality of e.g. olympic alignment as familiarity of the self. It is in your own interest to recognize your own alignment in the other person and culture. For this onemust stay open and receptive evading the weaknesses of deafness, cowardice and prejudice. To listen, dare and trust to alternatives and other people is not an exclusive of the young or enlightened. It is the definition of the sane human being in general that is in fact leading the way.

From this realization may follow the notion that any human being can function as the necessary control, as any person might function as a magnifying-glass of the divine. Also e.g criminals have a sense of justice one can learn from certainly when it comes to guarding the limits of exhaustion. Either in support of the system or in support of an alternative of culture classically righteous perfect or not, working the body up to a limit is best done under the guidance of others. E.g. youngsters exhausting their bodies in a sphere of drugs and fast music may run dead in their efforts to enjoy secretly fostering contempt against the generation before that also explored the limits of that activity. Inventing the wheel anew also the same kind of accidents in e.g. drugabuse happen. This kind of destructive alienation based on age-discrimination or a generationconflict must be and can be overcome by means of an order that abridges the different generations, statuses (pict.) and vocational identifications (pict.). Only by means of a conscious confession to the complete of the human potential the necessary balance can be kept so that limits are clear, accepted and known. In this simply clarity is love. To have symmetry, complementarity or to be parallel of relational functioning under guidance is of secondary importance. To subdue, talk it over or be equal in independence will find a natural evolution once the order or frame of communication is clear. 

 

           s) Fast regularly.

Fasting is not something just of the body. Any habit needs the contrast of abstinence to become aware of its impact and reality. This creates the total complexity of life: all kinds of habits are in need of contrast and consciousness while they all intermingle dependently. What is the influence of meat-eating, under what conditions is sex conducive or destructive? When do I break down or flower? When do I run into arguing and fugue and how does that relate to the collective affair? To what am I contributing in which season, etc, etc. The common lay is a chaos of speculation: nobody exactly knows, but all do more or less understand. Many theories of attribution explain why and how things go wrong, subtly corrupting to their secondary gain. Some swear by moralization as the only outcome, while others swear by silent and steadfast work. Physicists search for a unified field-theory that explains everything and religions battle to be the most comprehensive. Whatever may be the case or aspiration sooner or later it must be given up. With that knowledge wisdom whispers the term voluntary suffering or penance hated by the common man and most favorably forgotten by all but the serious candidates of holiness. Still the rule stands as a cornerstone of progress. Without sincere penance no real knowledge, consciousness or progress in whatever walk of life is possible. Many people must experience that only with shame and damage wisdom will come. Only after a debilitating disease or rampant failure the put is covered in which the calf drowned. And man is a slow learner collectively. Heavily attached to all illusions of control and enjoyment time and again the total (and very expensive) disaster of warfare comes about punishing all profitmotives and refutations of penance. War is the whip of God screaming in our ears that it is healthy to be hungry, good to fight for the cause and a primal sin to betray your fellow man.

All this is the reality of fasting: just by not eating meat on fridays, or not eating cereals and beans on the eleventh day after a new or full moon or just by abstaining from sex before marriage, or just by refraining from drinking milk for a month, or just saving a little money every month etc. etc. etc., one's whole life takes a different course. Fasting, bye and bye there are less inscrutable conflicts, disasters running out of control, quarrels, nervousness, generation conflicts that cannot be overcome, divorces and diseases. Just because of a little bit of fasting in this or that the right sense of discrimination and consciousness could root. It is not, as said to be holy in a day. It is just to get an idea of what and how to work at going for health, soul and happiness. 

 

           t) Keep diversity of bodily action.

Another trick of the trade is in keeping versatility of the body. Normally one develops like any animal in the forest a walk of life just training this muscle or keeping that posture. In fact an important part of human integrity is known as a kind of cramp that tightens the muscles in the neck or lower back as the individual is attached to this type of 'music' or that type of 'humanity'. Liberation means that the whole of the physical apparatus is subjected to the filognosy of alignment to the soul that regulates the dynamics of the human motive and the vitality of the social career. Nor cramping to one's marriage, nor cramping to one's sport, nor cramping to one's hobby or possessions of whatever kind will bring salvation. Only a conscious confession to the social and individual reality of real progress and emancipation will bring enlightenment. It practically simply means that a grandpa may also check out in the discotheque so now and then, that woman also may get together for soccer or something masculinelike, that men may also handle the vacuumcleaner and cook so now and then. This down-to-earth concept of emancipation is not a vague idealistic concept, but a sheer physical need for diversity. Sexual variations e.g. are not a kind of perversion between lovers afraid to get bored, but make up a strategy of liberation where all physical cramps are overcome by energetic mixing.

Of emancipation the bodily concept is the most common and popular. The danger is to think that that would be all there is to emancipation: in that it can indeed become a perversion or escapist routine of training and straining. Anything healthy can be abused for spiritual escapism. The half or greater part of eastern religion is renown for that effect: everybody does it for the integrity of the body, but who is really working up a realistic and effective mind and heart for the decency and fairness of human society? Just simply abstaining for a happy body will not justify the societal rebellion against everything else as being materialistic. There are no real atheists and materialists. Carefully searching one will not be able to find a single one. There are all kinds of sacrificing in all walks of life and who am I to judge about another man's sacrifice and devotion to God? One can be devoted on the physical level seeking altruïstic liberation with good food and good sex, but also devotion on the level of politics, cultural affairs, personal relations, overt verbal interaction, intellectual pursuit or religious association is a legitimate and valid way of emancipating in alignment to the soul. Even anyone watching a clock can be called a devotee of God as time can be recognized as a form of God. Thus not only keeping diversity of bodily action for oneself as a standard of good health, but also respecting other strategies of alternation and alteration in others is a way and necessary complement of keeping and promoting good social and mental health. Only if the cultures of the East and West realize this filognosy a reasonable and realistic concept of worldorder can dawn. 

 

           u) Award the body at the proper time for obeying.

To the soul the body is like a pet or animal of the circus that can and must be trained, awarded and caressed for being obedient and nice. To keep some kind of order in one's life especially people who live on their own accord in social security, at old age or as a student or reorienting adult, have to award themselves for respecting the God of Time by eating a cookie for taking a regular break or having a proper meal for finishing work or getting out of bed. Without proper reinforcement the body will be an obstinate dictator not only losing physical health, but also spoiling the happiness and peace of the soul by means of a mind full of lust and rebellion. Sometimes a semi-psychotic fit of bewilderment and fear is simply remedied by reinforcing loyalty to the order of the day. Missing the fundamental interest of this adult strategy people may roam for long the consultation rooms of analysts, psychotherapists, doctors and alternative healers just to realize they have to mind their own time. It is in the politics of standardtime to manage employment in the department of healthcare by creating and maintaining dependency on politically fixed dualistic and opposing notions of standardtime that run on the secondary gain of silencing the basic and simple strategies of health. Especially the political arena itself can illustrate the perversion of the secondary gain, fighting complete physical battles in parliament or having marathon meetings transgressing all norms of human decency and selfcontrol. No lay can match with the exuberant culture of political meeting, feasting and conversing to their heartsdesire and lust like a medieval bacchanal or adolescent studentfraternity. This kind of misrepresentation of civil culture creates the problem it is fighting against: the estranged isolated madmen that can no longer understand, sympathize with or incorporate the inscrutable and uncontrollable of political tigers and lions. Keeping this in mind it is not difficult to understand why many people lose control with the existent judicial-economic political paradigm and end up intellectually repressed in asylums and on parkbenches as tramps and schizophrenics. Simply pointing at everybodies individual responsibility will not free society from the responsibility to take care of an order to which all kinds have a fair chance of successful adaptation. The criterion of political volubility can impossible stand and manage as a leading principle for the common man. To the common man no monopoly of speech can be tolerated but a healthy understanding and discourse of a common concept of worldorder. The political as it is may be, but cannot afford to fail in modeling the objective and order of political action. All this belongs to the ramifications of the science of reinforcing human bodies for the sake of obedience to the indwelling soul and its loyalties. 

 

           v) Exercise the imagination willingly.

There is a difference between schizophrenia and normal psychological health as pointed out earlier. As known man is running from himself habitually unless special notice is given to the importance of taking time for meditation and contemplation. To the alternative stardate * calendar there are only 48 weeks in the year slowing down the tempo of life stealing from holidays 24 days for the sake of days of study at the end of a fortnight (table). This way the individual may realize that independent of religious exercise or social involvement otherwise, there is a frequency or vibe or state of consciousness possible in which one can find alternation to the schemes of the roman calendar. One may call it spiritually an aquarian sunday, politically a starday or scientifically a fifteenth day; whatever called, to the consciousness of standardtime and its conditionings, to keep a healthy postmodern sense of liberation and progress, the withdrawal for the sake of study and contemplation snapping out of the standardmode is psychologically an absolute necessity. As said before it is useless to train the mind and imagination seeking liberation at one hand while at the other hand refusing to let go the compulsions of the state of consciousness one is in. Many will find it impossible to even relax, let alone meditate, upon the things of regular living as no conditioning and reinforcement to another rule of time can be conceived. This makes up the difference between madness and health: without the conscious choice of accepting to a contrast of time no consciousness or control of the self that would emancipate and progress can be. Simply taking a friday for studying e.g. will not give that awareness or reinforcement of the alternative that makes up the reality of soul, happiness and consciousness. One may ask the psychiatrist and he will explain that to withdraw for study may not go without association or otherwise one will lose concentration, integration or even compensation. The association the psychiatrist is referring to may be filled in by himself but important is to remember the difference between attending to a school of thought like psychoanalysis and the result of graduation from that school going independent for a common concept of maturity and social order that is emancipating and liberating. The association of liberation might feel bitter in the beginning as loneliness and strangeness. But being conscientious to the soul finding structure to the mere conditioning of an alternate timeconcept, one will develop the taste for realizing the difference between health of diversity and the madness of regression and projection fighting the 'father' of paternal authority and the rigid of a culture.

As said before to the practice of exercising the imagination to work out the problems of adaptation and preparation for action, contemplation as such is part of the psychological health-strategy. The psychiatric warning predominantly concerns the realization that one may hear voices that are out of one's control or otherwise lose selfcontrol and start to hallucinate missing a proper structure of bodily and spiritual discipline that would secure one's adaptations and loyalty to the holiness and grace of the spirit of the divine (pict.). The psychiatric warning predominantly concerns the realization that one may hear voices that are out of one's control or otherwise lose selfcontrol and start to hallucinate missing a proper structure of bodily and spiritual discipline that would secure one's adaptations and loyalty to the holiness and grace of the spirit of the divine. Some courage though is needed to encounter the inner realities of initiation into the world of the spirit. Hearing voices and having visions is also a sign of good spiritual health as proposed by eastern scriptures and shaman cultures. What is of psychological importance is that whatever the experiment of imagination might be, that one knows the beginning and end of it to a rule of time. Then even a complete counterculture of only working together one day in the (aquarian) week meditating the rest of the time is possible.  

 

           w) Do not fear the spirit, but direct it from the soul.

The greater part of human trouble comes from escapism. Afraid of selfconfrontation in the spirit, the conscience is perverted to serve the material motive. With matter alone one is thus never really in order which will express itself as a form of lust. From that lust a struggle for power ensues because of which one sooner or later will lose control. Thus the profiteer falls down and loses his intelligence. The 'not-this' awareness of delusion is the result of material bewilderment. It consists of illusions about being the enjoyer and controller while at the same time conscience whispers the opposite of suffering for sacrifices and submitting for cooperation. The spirit as expressed by cultures of control can be daunting. Everybody knows it so well for himself that the other is told and judged to do the same. But fact is that not everybody is the same nor can do the same. One must be different while two must be the same. That is the problem of life. The ontological question of how to be with God, the Lord or the order, is to answer and decide about living in harmony (e.g. one consciousness of time) or whether one must accept the confrontation and live according to winning and losing in the conflictmodel (e.g accepting the coexistence of two types of time). To have peace two people need the same order or harmony (God). To have work one must be always aware of the difference between the ideal of total sacrifice for harmony and the imperfect confrontations of the profitmotive. Nor should one fear the sacrifice nor should one fear to be in opposition with the imperfect. It is like working and leisure: one can't be without the other. Without the conflict one cannot work and without the work one cannot be motivated for the harmony of being indifferent with the grace of God and nature. What is decisive is whether one knows who one is or not. The soul is a pool of identification with all types of manhood. From this a certain consistency of mind or spirit arises. This spirit is secured by emotions that warn whether one aligns or not. For this one must listen to oneself regularly, e.g. in the early morning before taking breakfast. Premeditation of action is indispensable for achieving the selfknowledge and consistency of spirit to keep control. Lots of people go to church on sunday giving the priest the voice of conscience. But having this as an external form of control still the selfresponsible of a daily meditation and a separate day (e.g. the fifteenth or the aquarian sunday) for study is needed. 

 

           x) Purify by abstinence.

There are two concepts of abstinence: having a holiday and to do penance by voluntary suffering. Both purify in their love for nature and the spirit. To have a harmony of the two the abstinence must be a frequency, a vibe or state of consciousness that can be picked up any time as an agent of control. For that purpose one must compromise: holidays must suffer a little and abstinence must enjoy a little. Holidays suffer by spreading them out irrespective of the weather as a separate day for joining with people, religious or not, and the denying of keeping or confirming distance with the media. At the same time abstinence must learn to appreciate the fun that people like to have joining in e.g. the cinema or theater. For religion we have the roman saturdays and sundays. For abstinence there is the stardate calendar * giving regular alternation and cosmic consciousness. Both intermingle to have roman sundays and aquarian socialisation-freedays and sundays coinciding and diverging. This makes life more diverse and interesting. This gives man the two legs of ontology he can walk on. 

 

           y) In case of pain: check your integrity.

Pain is not simply a bodily phenomenon. Often on pain nothing wrong can be found with the body. The body may suffer some cramp to which no mechanical cause can be found: it can be directed from the mind. A conflict in the mind can express itself in the body as a cramp or a form of pain. Pain is an alarm warning against some threat to the integrity of the body. For many people it is difficult to accept that the mind or the spirit directing the mind, or even the soul directing the spirit, must be counted among the causes of pain. A conflict of integrity can be purely physical and as such pain can be of a purely physical nature. But it is not always so. A conflict of integrity can also be purely of the spirit as many (married) couples e.g. know. There can be a conflict of integrity in the spirit because of which one may suffer bodily pain. The pain in the heart e.g. is notorious for love broken. Also headaches are known often to be of a psychological nature: some attachment, conditioning or conflict in the motivation can lead to incompatible drives which are displayed or perceived in the brain as pain. Also identifications with animals or other material forms that do not harmonize with one's own body can be a cause of pain. Pain as such is a psychosomatic phenomenon to which one must be alert to prevent real damage to the body. Prolonged and neglected pain can lead to physical dysfunction: a headache can become a cancerous growth, a broken heart can become a heartattack and a painful spot can develop into a serious disease. When the doctor at some point notices a chemical deficiency in the bodily state, for instance not enough vitamins, he may propose that the (cause of the) pain or a disease can be overcome by taking those vitamins. This does not exclude though the fact that from a dysfunctioning spirit a mentality of neglect may have risen that would be the real cause of the ailment. As such medicine won't help really to overcome the generally destructive attitude of neglect. The fact that a doctor is not a behavioral scientist and as such is not able to treat behavioral disorder may not obscure the fact that in many cases treating the problem of pain at the source: the mind, the spirit and the soul, can give a much more promising and enduring result than just reasoning from material causes. It must be said though that interdisciplinary cooperation would give the best possible chance of health, which to the selfresponsible individual not in need of help yet means that to check, as a routine meditation, one's integrity at all levels of functioning would be the wisest, even before having problems. 

 

           z) Maintain the body meticulously until death.

Not only the dictum that cleanliness is Godliness is true, but also maintaining health and longevity is of the divine. With the passion of managing sacrifices one may become indifferent to health and longevity. In war and love everything is permitted so that health and longevity can be lost quickly. But finding order out of the chaos of love and war also a strategy of peace and unattached commitment is needed.

The hero may die winning soul but losing his body, but staying alive after the crucifixion of sacrifice and opposition must also mean to be liberated in service of the paternity of the order of time that accompanied the soul from the beginning. This way religiously to the Lord there can be any form and name, politically there can be a life of order, truth and harmony, while scientifically there can be an end to experimentation and doubt without losing honor and identity.

Evidently to maintain the body for longevity is a matter of continence in discipline. The rule of moderation is certainly essential to this, remembering that abstinence can also lead to death by neglect or madness by fanaticism and dogmatism. The rules, principles, and values of the order are guidelines or a capstand for the coat of ego one is wearing. Filognostically one must never forget that one is only a profiteer enjoying the benefit of the alternative and other man's sacrifices. Remembering this the modesty and gratefulness to tolerate all the trials and tribulations of the daunting culture can be. Thus one can survive and even appreciate this love of knowledge as the salt of life. Being meticulous according to the interest of the body means to realize what the practice of filognosy is all about: it is to talk and meditate for the sake of the order of the soul that is expressed by the body. It is not just to the alternative of an aquarian or more scientifically conceived counterculture that one realizes this. It is to the complete of human culture that all this is realized. 

 

*: Stardate calendar does not mean that this calendar runs to the stars. The precession is with the cakra-tempometer respected by means of celebrating the socalled birthday of the sun, that shifts form pisces to aquarius by one day in the 70 years. The calendar is called stardate because of the fact that it is derived from the way de veda's (the socalled fifth veda) respect the celestial sky with a division of the year in 48 socalled paksah's or pancha dasa's (15-day) periods. The year was to that defined bij the north-south-movement of the sun (to the seasons).

 

 

Chapter 8: Making Love

 

a) When the true becomes a dream, the dream becomes the truth: dare to dream.

b) When you want much, you will get little: beware of greed.

c) You get what you give: do not ask for more than you can give.

d) Accept the return.

e) Stop thinking, think before.

f) Beware of perversion: do not do what you don't want and be careful experimenting.

g) Its good if you don't want.

h) If you think you don't need: accept things going bad.

i) Try to learn, do not pretend to be someone else.

j) Wild passion as a challenge can be, but must not be, accepted.

k) Avoid overdoing it.

l) For hate there is no place.

m) For pain there is no want.

n) For lust there is no rest.

o) Using force must always be in consent.

p) No erection, no worry.

q) Do not be a fake.

r) Care to be aware: keep vigilance.

s) Beware of the promiscuous; avoid fornication.

t) Better to postpone if trust is not complete.

u) Beware of the inability to stop.

v) Care for love-play after the climax.

w) Do not be compulsive about a climax.

x) Be happy if you don't have to, and not sad if you did.

y) Love to make a baby and being tender.

z) If lust does not become love than break off.

 

There is also an article to this chapter called: Time for Sex.

 

 

 

           a) When the true becomes a dream,

                        the dream becomes the truth: dare to dream.

The first rule of love is that one has to dare to dream. Love is dangerous as it is sympathizing with illusion. The belief in love, is the desire of love, is the fiction of love, is the reality of love that might work out creatively or might fail destructive and disastrous. Everybody agrees: without love the order, God, morality, material life, sex and money have no meaning. All of this without love is meaningless and even a disease or pest to die away from. The source of love is naturally innocence: one must become a child to play one's favorite game of life, not really caring about all the serious of failures, weaknesses and other nonsense. Belief in love, not only one's own love, means one is not too careful or afraid since, once matured far enough, life simply has to be consumed as a good dish. O.k. there is always the risk of a crush or crash confronting one with the serious of life leading into pain and tears. But no one would escape the experience just to be completely sure that nothing would go wrong.

The whole of culture is a dream people dare to share trying to forget all the secret profitmotives and dishonesties. God usually come's last as to the child it is a mature thing and to the mature it is a childish thing. God is simply order to the rationalist and the Lord is just another person handy enough to make one jealous as He seems to have the patent on love and the wondrous. But finding your own way the exemplary is found o.k. and no real hindrance. It is like leaving home: you find your own dream and miracle of love and something else you shouldn't doubt nor believe in that much. It is the wisdom of the common man. Making love is not simply a spontaneous happening between two people sympathizing. Making love is also relating to the world at large as well historically as to the future: love breaks open all limitations of the vision of selfinterest: it is recognized in all and everything. It is the widening of the view that is the excitement of maturing. Although the body gets older, the soul does not, realizing this. Living successfully for the soul the agingproces or a physical handicap becomes irrelevant. What counts is the selfrealization that may have its peaks and valleys whenever in life. Death is nothing but the change of dress: one adopts another body being remembered as one did one's best or being forgotten and/or forgiven as one did wrong (or nothing). Intelligence always knows a thousand explanations to accept things and people who went wrong, just to serve the things and people that go right. The importance of the first rule is to have faith in love: to dare and dream the true. It is all a matter of confidence to pursue one's ideals, getting rid of hindrances, changing illusions into realities as far as the dreaming was righteously loving the truth. Once addicted to love, life never ends which makes eternity more real than the temporary play of forms. 

 

            b) When you want much, you will get little: beware of greed.

The greatest enemy of love is greed. If people making love get attached and want to posses each other, the trouble begins: one is not a sexobject nor a replacement of the parents, nor a doggy to keep on the leash. Still love and loyalty belong to one another. To stay integer is the greatest challenge and to achieve this the philosophy of always more must be abandoned. Be happy with what you've got is the best recipe for love: your employer may hate it, economy may despise it, lust may loathe it, but everyone knows that to be happy is to accept things as they are. Of course it is not realistic to live in a pink world all day. One must accept the challenge etc. But that is work. The foundation of love cannot be missed. If the worker becomes the servant of greed, going for fame, capital, knowledge, power, detachment and beauty only (pict ) , his life becomes a lie. Bewildered by the opulences of the divine the poor soul wants and desires to his hearts content forgetting the souldependent spirit of moderation, modesty, being nice and cozy, always thinking that to keep people is less important than to sacrifice them because of some money (what does the broken vase cost?) or sex (what is the urgency ?). Material life can be described as the belief in sex and money, while the real of man has only one denomination: love. Whether there is sex or not, money or not, if love is not stronger than those two, one has failed in loyalty to the true self and thus become a living lie. The real trouble of greed is its addictive subcultural reality. Once a thief always a thief is not something of condemning society, but something of the person himself. Missing the ability to correct oneself one runs from bad pride to falsehood worse going downhill. As stated earlier: selfcorrection is the essence of biological existence: no action can be coordinated without it. To the greater of life and mankind this is not different. Missing this ability is the cause of all downfall. To stumble and fall is very normal and almost a lust of life. Religions especially concentrate on getting up again not fearing another fall. Politics and science try to forgive by ignoring the weakness posing the goal of action as more important than the way of achieving. It is in fact the same principle of forgiving. Religion forgives in the name of God, the other two in the name of commitment. The end justifying the means may give a quick and profitable effect while the religious treat may never reach very far. To love both ways are o.k., it is not forbidden to live a bit more dangerous. The common ground of the three is to live a conscious confession whatever may go wrong. Thus the real person is always filognostically married to the order confessing: without lies and deceit I am committed to helping and sharing, so help me God almighty. 

 

            c) You get what you give: do not ask for more than you can give.

To have a double standard is the corruption of love. It ruins trust and breeds conflict. The temptation of sex is to think oneself superior with it. One can find the Supreme Personality in it and that is the reason why to many people think there is no difference between sex and love. Sex unregulated though is called lust. It feels exactly like real love but it gives a shadow of abuse, neglect, downfall, loneliness and misery. It can be compared to the way one deals with money. The lust of money is to spend it at will and the love of money is to do it in a regulated manner. Unregulated spending results in a budget deficit giving rise to all kinds of trouble usually leading to borrowing money and further miserable complications. The profiteer becomes guilty, indebted and a slave of labor as he spends more than he can afford. The other way around abstaining from sex expecting holiness and happiness from it can be compared to the likewise superstition that saving money and sitting on a mountain of gold will give all power and happiness in the world. It is the counterpart of abuse and works like a mirror image: it is another kind of neglect, abuse, misery and loneliness. Religion declares riches to be the great obstacle to heaven. Politics hunting accumulations of money declare it a civil sin to withdraw capital from the economy. Money not spent is money not managed and investing it speculating on the mere value of capital goods in stead of generally supporting peoples activities for the good cause is the death of society and justice. Psychologically money is like blood in the body: it needs good circulation to provide all the tissues. The heart, or the bank, must pump it around as much as is needed, depending on the season or arousal level of the body or society. This does not mean though that saving money or abstinence would be a kind of betrayal to the true self in itself. Sexual abstinence drives the energy to the higher centers on proper sublimation while properly saving money gives the power to judge and act on an economic more developed level. Clearly the scientific, psychological aspect of withdrawing energy or money is difficult to separate from the political motive.

The problem, as said with as well positive as negative abuse is the defective or illusioned strategy of power. As well as with lust as with abstinence the devil of the lower drive of simple domination by aggression can linger. With a conscious confession to love; the will to spend wisely and/or be in favor of regulated sexuality, the delusion of power can be overcome that led to the imbalance and injustice of the blind profitmotive of expecting more than one would want to give. 

 

            d) Accept the return.

It is an important law that teaches that to each workload there is a consequence from which it is difficult to escape. Whatever kind of love one chooses to live, there is always a return. On the lower levels of love this effect is more material than on the higher levels. To mindful spiritual activities there might be a shadow of passion being confessed to this or that strategy of action. To love on a social level, in the sphere of domination or in sexuality, love can bring serious consequences which are more difficult to overcome. A sexual partner in love one cannot abandon without seriously damaging the heart. Dominating in e.g. the love for education gives responsibilities that cover one's lifespan and loving people charitable may give complications of attachment that can be determining for the rest of one's life. Being compassionate to the heart though and working higher levels of selfrealization in love carries the nature of detachment because of which the workload accepted will give less serious material consequences. Religiously it is said to be a safeguard, politically it is held that continuing talks are the best prevention against war and psychologically it is said that a good analysis is half the job. All this means that to escape from an unwanted return like war, broken hearts or ruined reputations, a healthy sense of sublimation for the sake of alignment to the order and reality of the soul is the standard recipe. In love accepting the return means one will balance and get rid of perversions born from the uncontrolled of lust. It is a public secret that to give up (unregulated) sexuality is only possible by only giving up the initiative but not forsaking the love for all the sex that comes from itself. With that one must not be astound that the sexual return might take the same character as one's own original drive. In that sex can be like a mirror to learn to know oneself with. Sex because of its alliance with the Supreme Person always can be seen as a kind of lesson to be learned in the school of selfcontrol preaching all the values of eternity. Still the overall lesson of sex stays: it must be love. 

 

            e) Stop thinking, think before.

Love escapes reason, therefore one must descend from the mindful heaven to the mindless earth and not the other way around so it seems.. These are processes called inductive, from the specific of a material position to the general of a common soul and deductive, from the general aligned to the specifically adapted ( pict.). Religiously, politically and scientifically the deductive process is the way of selfrealization. Religion abhors a God or devotee that does not descend from heaven making no sacrifices, politically one abhors dictators inducing to a common concept that works out as fear, a dictature or absolute of imposition, or a loss of individual freedom of expression. Scientifically induction is cherished to find common laws of nature, but the naturalistic drive of science pushing for adaptations, applications and specific outcome and use suggest that science without effect is nothing but fraud. Scientifically it is concluded that induction can only be to the soul and its ethics for itself while the rest is simply bound to its deductive factuality in preferably a value-free reality of choice. The goal of not-thinking in love evidently gives a lot of philosophical and ethical complications to the wisdom that should precede the actions. To mother nature it is all relative and temporary as she would continue her reality whatever our cultural complexes. The conclusion of all lovers is also the same: let nature take its course, all trouble arises from blocking that. Elder children should thus be treated liberally letting them experience for themselves what is good and bad. To keep confidence and the relation is of prime importance. To that the dictum 'time will tell' is the common belief. Filognostically the vague can be overcome by noticing the truth that man first induces to the order of ethical discipline (God) and then comes down to his own personal and unique deductive alignment of duty. 

 

            f) Beware of perversion: do not do what you

                         don't want and be careful experimenting.

Another important reality of the human body is its inhibitory function. As explained earlier the nervous system works on selfcorrection. To achieve proper selfcorrection a great deal of neural functioning is for the sake of inhibition. These inhibitions take a cultural form: they make up the policies, religions and individual sciences of management. To be ambitious in these fields of knowledge one is doomed to get frustrated as the greater part of the cultural reality is only interested in its own style of negation. One may take it or leave it. Adding to it or changing it is not at all welcome and politely wished a good career of frustration to itself. Culture as such is like a garden of flowers and trees where each organism manages its own genetic program to which it always will manage refutation to strange concepts. Natural resistance against change maintaining a species for millions of years only permits very slow evolution. Some species though can adapt in a few generations as for instance bacteria. Because of this medical science is not as sure about the effectivity of penicillin as it would like to be. This points the way back to the reality of natural resistance. In normal health one resists perversions: there is a natural inhibition on all kinds of sexual behavior that is not in line with effective childproduction and maintenance. Because of its cultural connotation though a lot, if not the greater part of sexuality has gotten another meaning. Studying monkeys one can observe that sex is an important mechanism of social control. Since man can function like monkeys this is also often the case for human beings. Only the power of the celibate could prove to be stronger thus achieving religion, politics and science. The transformation of sex is the engine of knowledge and power defying the animal option of domination by means of sex. Still half the world is convinced that only by means of sexual perversion success can be. In fact is sexual perversion exactly the way one submits to a culture and celibacy the way to master it. Thus one can find homosexuality with man successful in following the cultures of woman (showbusiness e.g.). Following the vocations of management a lot of sadomasochistic sex can be assumed as the perfect perversion to destroy one's resistance against impositioncultures. Likewise masturbation would be the ideal perversion for the common man to destroy rebellion and resistance against any failure of the system. That is why parents are advised not to be too restrictive with the adolescent. For soldiers in wartime rape is the best way to destroy the natural inhibition to impose oneself upon others. However cruel and inhuman the effect of the perversion may be, all perversions can be appreciated as a warning against false imposition, faulty systems, and cultural narcism. The more people force each other, deceive each other and judge each other, the greater the chance one will collectively break down decompensating from perversions. There is a direct link between generation-conflicts, political conflicts, paradigmatic opposition, warfare and perversion. To feel safe for the future and to ensure a constructive evolution, reconciliation of generations, political parties and scientific paradigmata is necessary. Not to repress but to integrate and tolerate, demands for a concept of order that supports all and assures clarity and onepointedness (the word many a dictionary will miss). Equivocality breeds duplicity, disappointment, disbelief and ultimately perversion, falldown and destruction. The first thing is to keep intelligence and reason as emotions will always urge for anything. Thus to choose for clarity in love is inevitable. From his clarity one will have a fair chance to choose so that one will not find oneself forced into something or pressed to force oneself out of something. A greater continence of culture will make a humanity less experimenting with a better resolve in its endeavors. 

 

            g) Its good if you don't want.

Especially in love not to act is one of the best things. Not endeavoring for anything one can be open to everything and thus be real love for whatever. This is why criminals go to prison. Whatever endeavor is explicitly forbidden to the prisoner and that is how by inaction they learn to retrieve the love that was lost unrighteously. Although the concept of righteousness is a relative of culture, what is right to the one is unjust to the other, still the value scores high on the list of eternal values. It is the twin-brother of loving the truth which is achieved by a clear (e.g. not intoxicated) vision of reality. Righteousness is the term for proper action and love without it can only be a meditation for the sake of truth. If one loves to do nothing it might be the greatest love for the world that is possible: only the work for a good spirit is left over. But always one must remember that one may and can only successfully meditate after the duties are done, before one simply contemplates on the righteous of action not to land in some or another prison. Meditation without it is nothing but an application for psychiatry: one will go insane of the restless spirit urging according the duties neglected. Thus running from sex one is tormented by the mind of lust, running from pacification one will fight with oneself, and escaping from confrontation one will hear voices telling what one doesn't want to hear. Psychiatry is just another kind of prison for another kind of crime: the neglect of duty or failure of conceiving what that might be.

Still, taking this rule purely sexual, the philosophy is similar to the analogy of righteous action: one can relax and do nothing when one is confident of one's love for the other. Not really sure though one can become a compulsive lover and thus spoil the whole love-affair like a criminal guilty of fraud. A woman will make less trouble about a failure of sexual pleasure if she feels loved by her man in other ways. Also a man will be able to accept a sexually disinterested woman better if she has a fine mind, is a social success or a good housekeeper or mother. An intelligent person recognizes the cultural value of sexual inhibition and resistance against perversion once e.g. the sexlife has become boring of a routine. It might be better, for maintaining a marriage e.g., to buy a good book and start a conversation than to go to a sex-therapist or experiment with perversions oneself. Having good sex one might think: 'there goes the conversation' (and friendship). 

 

            h) If you think you don't need: accept things going bad.

Sex is, once conditioned to it a need. It makes a balance of neurotransmitters in the brain, a balance of energy and foodintake in the body, a balance of associations in society and a certain type of duty to the Godhead of worship, the political leader, scientific paradigm or even a climate. Sometimes the fix of sexual behavior is called life, while others call it a kind of death as nothing seems to happen outside the line of sexual conditioning: one does not really develop other interests or intelligence. Also creativity can be seriously blocked attached to certain perversions finding no resistance or genius.

Thinking one does not need the sex of a certain conditioning of life, one must be prepared for the great adventure that follows. Exactly where all kinds of weakness where cherished and covered by compensations one will lose control. Not rarely this results in destructive actions against the conditionings which on themselves can be righteous and good. One can suddenly be considered having gone crazy. Some people who did not make much of intelligence might be taken to the psychiatrist. Especially the young run a great risk of not being understood in their celibate, but not that wise rebellions. A person with mystical talents for the occult might be labeled schizophrenic missing the right subcultural background of affirmation. Persons with a more quiet lifestyle may be mistaken and also called, labeled and hypnotized as chronically depressed. Sensitized to a (political) climate one can be manic-depressive. It is not at all easy to withstand the opposition especially in the beginning of the selfrealization process. For this purpose all kinds of new-age therapies developed which can be recognized as agents of a transformationculture that are sensitive to the individual workload of people. Individuality and ego are important especially in the beginning where opposition can work out very sudden, brisk and bitter. Good friends can suddenly become bad enemies while an impartial neighbor can be an ideal reference for normality. In the beginning it is usually advised to seek guidance from a bonafide authority: one must not resist this or that school of thought trying to escape from the dead (of another school) of a certain conditioning. According to one's system of belief one can argue about what is bonafide or not. Legally that would be a system in respect with the law and civil rights. Not rarely sects take over too much of the ego declaring people's dependence as inevitable. A bonafide school always realizes its limitations: to each lesson there is a beginning and an end despite the fact that there might be a high career within a certain organization. Ultimately all education must produce a mature and more or less independent person who feels responsible for his own actions. No school as such can be the goal although indispensable as a means of achieving. One can also say that it doesn't really matter what school one follows, the end result would have to be the same sane and happy person. So whether one was in prison, a brothel, university or a monastery, one may all end up living in the same street, joining in the same pub, watching in the same cinema. In conclusion one can say that the importance of the adventure of life is to be an accepted rebel first, to be an emancipating student next and to end up as an experienced rebel in no (personal) need of any other authority happy ever after. Confused in time one can find disease sticking to rebellion, missing the emancipation unable to formulate and get one's obstinacy accepted. To filognosy the timing is of prime importance. 

 

            i) Try to learn, do not pretend to be someone else.

Pretense is an important tactic of the ego that falls in love. One very well knows that falling in love obscures the boundaries of the ego: one gets confused about who one is and what one has to do. People very sure of themselves will find it much more difficult to fall in love than people who are in a real need for emotional support and sexual outlet. Still the ego continues with its strategies of selfesteem. Although perverting, as happens most of the time, one keeps the image of holiness, just to remind oneself of how it actually should be. These people can be teased and mocked by others for being so vulnerable and deceptive. These are just the games of everyday life. They are perfectly normal. The danger is to believe in being someone else. The difference between the real and imagined self does not imply the true self of emancipation automatically. It is not difficult at all to sell one's soul to the devil pretending and make one's life a great lie: the suffering ego hates itself as the role played is strange to the soul. Any actor can confirm the effect of this estrangement to the point of a total identitycrisis. For this purpose man developed the cultures of heroism, politically, religiously and scientifically. Great awards are given to the one's leading in holiness, management and thought. These people must carry the load of identity a society needs. On itself it is no compliment for a society to be in need of this awarding. Actually the identity should be built in the system and not be achieved as an exception. Fame seems to be just another school of learning with teachers and pupils who both must emancipate to equality, fraternity and liberty. One can also say that it is another religion wherein everyone is invited to figure as the Lord Himself, temporarily. The reality is that not a single person can endure fame (play the Supreme Person) for a lifetime without the support of tradition, social background and religion. Therefore fame going against tradition, society or religion can never abide. The same way intimate relations cannot continue on the game of the Supreme Person. The thing lost in the game is the ability to learn: one simply loses the receptivity to the dynamic changing, adaptive and evolving new of everyday's progress of culture. Culture is, although constantly running from fix to fix, a living organism that can change in a day, especially with the new developments of the informationcultures (computers, etc. ). A single event or peculiarity can, important enough, spread over the whole of the earth within a couple of hours. This gives the image of a gigantic brain where all kinds of excitation and inhibition keep the vitality of life running. Although we rather think in personal terms of our unique and intimate, there is the reality of a gigantic anthill where nobody is really important too. We have a system that will correct itself and evolve until it breaks down on some falsehood to learn another lesson. Afraid of that, not doing anything can result in the same kind of personal drama as going for a common thing all together. No pretense of holiness will stop evolution or mankind from learning lessons. 

 

            j) Wild passion as a challenge can be, but must not be, accepted.

Wild passion is the love for chaos and nature. Love can be a storm and lightening affair. Great thunder can follow with heavy clouds and downpour of rain. This can all be private and intimate without anyone else knowing. It is like the informationculture where everyone can dream and make whatever he likes without affecting everyday life directly . No one can stop the creative human being in the virtual of reality. It is also like thinking without speaking anything. One can be a nice and smiling individual having a brainstorm in the head. It is extremely important to have a safeguard of action between thought and writing, between writing and speaking and between imagining and actualizing. A whole storm in the brain of society can end up in the cinema as a complete fantasy. Also subtle thinking that never finds any press, discourse or action can change the way of mankind in a minute. Nobody really knows how much of thought man is sharing at the moment. In the spirit one can imagine to share with personalities of history, 'residing in the eternal', but how many actors cannot play that role just to obscure the complete contemporal of any thought? Maybe also dreams are much more collective than anyone may have expected. It is difficult to prove the synchroniciy of the collective conscious as any proof would imply a strategy of control unacceptable to the dynamic concept of freedom. Writing this text e.g. half of mankind could be involved at the moment of writing. But rereading it in winter e.g. may be only one percent of the population might recognize themselves in it, let alone the impossibility to relive the same moment collectively. From this it would be almost futile to read anything, but directly speaking instead of that would possibly be a greater disaster. Fighting the love for chaos with writings might be the least effective means of management, still being so slow it can be the wisest and most considerate means of countering the wild passions of mankind. Therefore the rule: passions can be, but must not be, accepted. They are a challenge to the spirit of loyalty to the order. To lose one's mind in the passions of a loveaffair can never be an obligation to the individual or a culture to the collective as is sometimes seen during warfare. Although unreason seems to manage the world by means of passions, still the reasons and reasonings of wisdom, vitally thought to the moment or fixed for the stability of selfawareness, manage he essence of soul nobody can do without. 

 

            k) Avoid overdoing it.

Compulsive sex is the killer of love. Obsessive-compulsive behavior belongs to the psychiatric vocabulary. It is an effort to reduce the complexity of life without proper alignment. In need of structure people cling to stereotypes of behavior: perform rituals, say certain things a certain way, become superstitious, develop magical thinking and impressionmanagement to keep up the appearance despite the lack of content. Within the framework of a religion or other tradition this is called sane and cultural. But an individual developing it idiosyncratically runs into autistic selfstimulation and management of fear for influences from the outside world (phobias). The basic problem is trust, which normally psychotherapeutically must be restored once the person is losing his adaptations to the tradition of a political system, religion or science. Trust is broken on the confrontation with personal weaknesses of others while the social system can't compensate for the weaknesses and deviance of individual members. This way love becomes a strange conspiracy of people or an individual psychopathology that is allowed to pester the fellow man. This way woman can lose trust in the sexual approaches of men finding love more a compulsive neurosis of a sexual kind than the expected mutual feeling and heartfulness for healthy procreation. Characteristic of the compulsion is to push irrespective of the feeling. For instance eating on regular times, which on itself is good, can run into obesity eating more than is needed with e.g. a more quiet lifestyle getting older. In this case the feeling of satiation is repressed in favor of an old no longer valid habit. From this the simple rule is derived to stay alert to overdoing it. For instance after a war is over one must give up the heavy investment in the military industry that on itself is only good in times of war. Not overdoing it means one stays alert to the actual need avoiding the repression of the signs that command another approach. The body itself will warn. These warnings are relatively subtle, like just a soar feeling after sex or a vagina a bit to dry to penetrate. Forcing love will lead to illness: all kinds of infection, loss of resistance, cramps of the body and mental states beyond the sane can be the

consequence. Suddenly one may find oneself in a divorce, simply because of ignoring the subtle signs about which it was difficult to talk. She would just say 'You don't love me anymore' and such, as love cannot be ordained. The other cannot command love because that is manipulation. Bringing a bunch of flowers won't make you a better lover either. As stated earlier: if things are going wrong withdraw and recapitulate. Better to make no love at all than to spoil the love and trust there was. Again the whole of sanity depends on the ability to sublimate the sexual energies and emancipate to a higher expression of love in selfrealization. 

 

            l) For hate there is no place.

Especially after the first of love is over and the sexual drive is brought back to its normal proportions, love can change into its opposite. Aggression is a consequence of frustration. Thinking one is freed from frustrations enjoying a loveaffair one will find the same duties and limitations back afterwards. The image of sexual heaven is borrowed from the Supreme Personality nobody can be. Sex is also of God, but God is not always sex. God can very well be without any sexual behavior. Soberly God is simply order and regular sex can very well be replaced by regular fitnesstraining (also good for the belly). As long as one is in order, it doesn't really matter that much how one respects that order, whether one is a criminal in order or a righteous person: physical health is synonymous with being in order (maybe the righteous person will live a bit longer in freedom). Hatred is the opposite of love. It follows love like a shadow and is left no place to be anywhere else. Loving this one tends to hate that. Loving to keep someone, one tends to hate in possessiveness. Loving to be independent one tends to hate for claims of dependency etc. Also groups of people together can love for instance the color of their skin simply hating anything else. Love tends to become false hating an opposite of desire, being attached to the manifestation of the object of love. Therefore one should in fact only love the soul as the soul cannot be seen materially. One can only remember in the mind how one is, was or should be. God might be the Lord but the only sure visible thing about Him is His being the Time by which He changes form. One might ascribe a certain interpretation or order of time to the real of Time (also called the inscrutable duration) but that will always go at the cost of another scale of measurement. Not to run into hatred the question is what form would best represent the interest of the soul. Attachment to one's own body will give a fear of death and disease while others cannot be held either in their form but for a period of education e.g.. To time as a durable form of God there is the problem of representation: which representation gives the best idea of unicity of the moment? In the back of this book a design is given showing a clock that will only repeat its indication after one year instead of after one day as with the usual clock, turning the scale away from the noonindication of the sun according to the date. It is a bit (366 times) better in differentiating the moment * but also more difficult to read so that it must first be learned to appreciate it as a proper reference or common ground for any other (in this design digitally indicated) respect of time. Practically one may be happy if mankind retrieves the old differentiation of local timing there was in the beginning of the rule of clockwork. Anyhow, once liberated to an alternative timeconcept it cannot really be undone. Realistically one can only add another timeconcept and not expect the old chaos of standardtiming to disappear. Thus one arrives at the scientific conclusion of computerized time which is a free choice of timemanagement against a valid (so called astrarium- )reference of optimal representation. Deriving the order of the soul from this form of God, having excluded no other form one may expect to stay free from hatred. This way a loveaffair can be a success remembering that with the stable fixation on the (form, knowledge and order of the) soul the sexual bond can be appreciated, provided an absense of repression of alternatives. 

 

            m) For pain there is no want.

Love hurts: the open heart of sexual permissiveness turns into a heavy stone behind which the Lord lies tormented in pain. As seen, compulsive clinging to sex will only force down another painful reality. Still for pain nobody has wanting except for some perversions of sex who refuse to be really serious about it also. How to live in love for ever is a nice question while the answer is always the same: only if you realize how painful the shadow can be, one is motivated for the eternal values of love. Against the sadomasochistic perversion there is the penance of voluntary suffering abstinence escaping from the more painful sudden clashes by accident. One step in the direction of the soul in voluntary suffering can ward of the greatest disasters and pain. Still there will always be a bit pain with the dentist, at birth or at accepting the departure of someone loved etc. Normally one has a choice between falling in madness or living in pain, making the sane balanced person a bit crazy about something always and a bit in pain about normal things as well. Also being liberated to an alternative of timemanagement still one cannot escape the painful notion of having to accept others living against it. Pain as a conflict of integration reminds one of the fact that it is difficult to choose in life and that one is not the only master in the universe. Many people in the modern world complain about pains who do not seem to have a clear cause. It is also in between the interest of matter and spirit that the body can give an alarm of pain. Nor escaping in the spirit, nor escaping in the body will be effective. Only proper balancing of interests can give an acceptable level of discomfort and stress sufficient to maintain the adaptations. Some stress must be, some sign or signal must alarm, some tolerance one cannot do without. A good rule off thumb is again the timefactor: if after a week or so the pain does not go away one might have caught a chronic ailment that is in need of treatment. Regular physical exercise (not only the sexual one) will also help keeping the stress of normal integration acceptable and healthy. Certain types of foodintake are more stressresistant than others. Eating too much of this or that, salt for instance, stress can become lethal while the same stress would be simply stimulating for a person eating more wise. Important to remember is that also (sexual) love itself can bring a lot of stress. Real love often is in favor of confrontations. 

 

            n) For lust there is no rest.

Another problem is the addiction to stress. Not accepting regulation lust can work up a compensating life of stress and a state of consciousness one can suddenly drop out of as if one would wake up out of a dream. A lot of (drug-induced self-) hypnosis is based on this principle. Taking over the control of the individual there is hardly a conscious soul left to control the actions of the body or to keep track with the things going on at the level of control. Resistance against hypnosis as such can be considered a sign of mental health and integration. The person susceptible to lose control in another state of consciousness is not mentally inferior but can be recognized as a compensator or less stable person. There will be more attachment to action being restless to a lustmotive and thus such a person will run a greater risk of losing himself. Immature adolescents and children might have this as a normal consequence of adaptation in a family, but maturing at an older age they will find themselves guilty of maintaining an unregulated state of being to their souls. The purpose and meaning of emancipation is found in fighting the restless of material motives: the integrated person radiates calmness and control. Comedians knowing this willfully act as if restless and unstable making a show of the idiosyncrasies of an unregulated life.

To have a good sexlife with this rule depends on the talent to regulate something supposed to be spontaneous. It is a bit of a paradox to have a good sexlife. For the Supreme Person it might not be difficult to have spontaneous sex being perfectly in control of the woman He impregnates. But no normal man would maintain that he can control woman. The woman by nature has her preferences when she ovulates for instance and forcing against it will not enhance her appreciation. Maybe in the beginning she might be all-tolerant to bind a partner by instinct, but sooner or later she will settle things to her wanting too. Prolonged use of preservatives for instance can result in her adulterating, just following her instinct to get impregnated by a man more willing to receive her child. Statistics prove that the biology is a strong factor easily surpassing the culture of marital loyalty. Whatever one might think about sexual liberation cultivating this or that, ultimately sex is simply there for the sake of begetting offspring and failing in this all relations will be put to a test of intelligence and culture to survive the biological frustration. One may think the whole of culture is just another mating-ritual of just another animal in paradise. To find peace regulating it though, this notion is just a paradigmatic relative.

 

           o) Using force must always be in consent.

The government using force by means of the military or the police can do so only on parliamentary consent. Likewise any person individually can only use force on consent. E.g. parents raising children may use force to a certain extend for the sake of obedience: they can agree to give warnings and put sanctions on unwanted behavior. The force is contained in the contract for coordinated action, not in the spontaneous will to exert power. The difference between lust and love with this also depends on whether there is clarity about some regulation or not. Arbitrary decisionmaking is the way to lose control and authority. This is why illicit sex and raising children by one parent are difficult subjects. Two people in love can force their will upon the community that might not agree with the choice. This is still an agreement between two people who religiously might only find the Lord Himself at their side 'feeling from the heart'. Likewise a single mother and her child also can have an agreement that can work out fine for themselves. The problem is that without social control there is no safeguard against excess. The stronger of the two can become a tyrant taking the own weakness on the other. Even groupwise, within a political party or religious community things can go bad having the authorities corrupted for their own weaknesses. Again the criterion of time comes around whispering the dictates of tradition: 'this is a better line of management since it stood the test of time'. Following this order will ultimately be enforced by the authority of traditions that time and again must defend themselves against the arbitrariness of modernity.

Sexually it can happen that a certain type of force is involved. Two people can corrupt and lose control in this seeing their relationship ruined. Sex can be forced by means of extra stimulation in the form of films, books and other means. Compulsive sex though is another definition of neurotic sex: sex alienated from love and the soul. Sexual fixations are the result of psychic conflicts that follow the obstruction of the selfrealization process. Selfrealization fails if the concept of emancipation is not properly understood. Emancipation means liberation, but not knowing what to get free from one easily corrupts on a lustmotive. Emancipation is not simply rolereversal of men and woman: each may prove to be as able as the other: one can still be just as dependent standing in the shoes of the other person. The idea of independence is central to the reality of emancipation. The question is: how to keep relations becoming independent. The answer lies in the way one aligns. Everybody has to align to the soul to keep intelligence and happiness despite the sacrifices. But differing in the politics of alignment emancipation often means to lose the one's who where allied in lust. Sex-friends are no real friends, just like friends in drugs or crime. Only if two sex-addicts or drugaddicts or crime-addicts together decide to cure and align to the soul with preferably the same method, the relationship will be maintained. To heal the world from its corruption is thus a very precarious affair. Usually one keeps the balance of corruption and redemption as it is no courage to progress for the better of all. The danger of breeding opposition outweighs the suffering of maintaining the unfulfilled. Still wars are the result of a lack of proper progress. Maintaining misery means one maintains a certain type of unrighteousness that drives the community mad resulting in a blind concept of enmity. Not doing justice to mother nature e.g. we can find humanity in a state of war for the sake of elementary needs as water or energy. Not being able to escape from the dictate of emancipation the only good answer is to align that way that the original lust is recognized and turned into love for the same object. If e.g. one was lusting about sex, the inevitable consequence is that one has to accept a workload in being love for the sexual. If e.g. humanity has been lusting in a arbitrary and perverted timeconcept, the only way out is to do justice to Time by accepting the workload that dictates a more evolved concept. This way the diversion to other subjects is prevented and enmity precluded. Marching with a swastika e.g. will not solve the problems of perverted sex and mismanagement of time. 

 

            p) No erection, no worry.

Having sex, being in love a man might be afraid of not having an erection. Likewise the woman may be afraid of not being moist enough to receive the man. Although the problem can be solved technically, naturally it is, remembering the previous rule, better not to use force not to run into perversions and fixations. It is tempting to treat the frustration as a disease and ask a doctor for help. This way half of the money doctors make is simply wasted. With a little bit of patience the natural urge for procreation will be difficult to deny. One may be happy if the sex is not that urgent so that the higher emotions of love have a better chance. If sex fails being together, then why not sing a song together or do otherwise something cultural. That is humanity: the practice of good will in the face of frustrated animal urges. So many people never get decently married or get children because of some technical or cultural obstruction. This is inherent in cultural reality; it is normal. Many people very early in their lives become corrupted in sexmatters and find themselves the way blocked towards a pure sexlife for the sake of procreation. Cultivated sex does not need any procreation, it needs preservation. Choosing for the culture of sex it is quite natural not to have natural sex at all nor have an effective marriage. If one doesn't care for the cultural priority then there is no challenge for the natural bond of sex for procreation. In the animal kingdom it can be observed that a lot of fighting is needed before a male gets the right to procreate and form a sometimes enduring bond. For human beings it is in fact not much different: only after having defeated culturally all kinds of demons of cultural obstruction, the man is appreciated by the woman as a success in adaptation. This is how natural selection works: only the successful males are allowed procreation. Although not rarely the more simple cultures come first as they need less fighting to attain, the more evolved cultures will prove more powerful. One man or woman is enough to change the whole world once God is with the endeavor of service. It even might take many generations of evolution within a certain familyculture before there is any success for the sake of the greater society. Understood in a larger context there is never real impotency or inability to perform. Any obstruction can be understood as a preparation or gathering of strength and ability. Even if one has become sterile or infertile the emancipationprocess (pict.)will give outcome by transference to the next generation a non-sexual way. Cultural products are children of the spirit that are just as or even more exciting and difficult to beget and also want to live happy lives and be of service to the world and the true self. Loving each other takes another dimension having overcome the compulsion to perform. Many a sexual (and spiritual) therapist will confirm that the most important method of healing the sexual and healing by the sexual is done by retrieving the original affection, care and freedom in the physical (or cultural) approach of love. 

 

            q) Do not be a fake.

The same line of argument as above is in the call for the genuine and honest. For the sake of sex, money, status (pict.), beauty, knowledge etc. one can desire a certain partner or subdivision of culture just to find out that after a while there turns out to be no real love. One may just learn some kind of lesson making money or pursuing a sexual object or cultural thing. It is simply difficult to know oneself. Many a thing needs to be tested and tried. Many places must sometimes be visited and many books may be explored. East, west, home best. Always everybody will return home whatever that might be to the wandering soul. Even aliens flying in a flying saucer can only be happy if they can go home. If their vehicle is just another type of coffin they were buried in, they will only be

astonished about the way one dies in that culture. The question how one lives that culture is not answered until one returns home to where the heart is.

The problem is the repression of the authentic drive of the person. Getting experienced, dying for the love one lives one has to suffer and not rarely this results in a negative attitude towards the beloved. If all married couples would be as polite to each other as one would be to one's own neighbors or even housepets, the world would be a different place. Once shared a certain weakness it turns out to make strong bonds and once cured from the weakness the authentic love can be denied a long time even stronger than one would being neutral. Also from one's refutations one can learn who one is. A special aversion can be nothing but traumatized love. Psychotherapists know this and use it in the deconditioningtherapies to overcome phobias. Especially the thing one fears contains he secret of the selfrealization sought. Very shy people afraid of all violence might turn out to be the greatest soldiers there are. Only after retrieving the balance of the emotions (reintegration) the selfrealizationprocess will continue and lead to new adventures of relating and cultivating.

Not to fake means to be honest keeping up appearances. Of course there must be a show of good will although things are not flourishing always. Even for hundreds of years a whole nation or culture can suffer terrible conflicts not able to solve certain problems of selfrealization until the necessary requirements are met. The higher one rises the deeper one falls. Sometimes leaders fall down or are murdered by their own people resulting in an age-long absence of any decent leadership. Not just individuals do penance but also nations or a complete worldpopulation. Only after the damage is done one will regret most of the time. Not to fake love is the same as not to betray the reality of penance. Desire is the enemy prompting not to give up while honesty is the friend that tells to accept and wait for a better chance of fulfillment. What must not be given up is the search and service for the true self and what must be rejected is the lying for the sake of the false. Therefore, to stick with the drive for order e.g., it must be for the sake of finding trust with one another in the first place not lying that e.g. a better clock would make a better society although that might be the consequence. Especially sexually trust is the one thing that must be. With that the emotionality of a lot of frustration and trouble can be tolerated. Mental hospitals are full with people who simply lost their confidence. 

 

            r) Care to be aware: keep vigilance.

Trusting is a duty of man and betrayal of trust is the disease mankind suffers. Opportunity makes the thief. Precautions are taken, but afraid of crime one becomes just as locked up with one's possessions as the criminal in prison. The problem is in the vigilance. It must not be fear but a conscious effort to meet a high standard of culture. A fallen culture cherishing weaknesses believing that that would keep the peace has lost track with the selfrealizationprocess (pict.). Step by step desires and lust must find regulation and detachment so that enlightenment can precede liberation in service to the order. Once realized that proper regulation gives happiness, that happiness can be more wisely as before be invested in service. Although any system of service will sooner or later be exhausted thus defining obstinacy and rebellion as a sign of good health, still there is no escape from holding on to the progress of any system. Dropping out simply means turning back to school to learn what was missed. Only then one is aware enough to keep the necessary vigilance. Sometimes all kinds of seemingly ridiculous cultural rituals are absolutely needed to keep balance and prevent the worst. It is like having a fusebox in an electrical circuit: at first hand it doesn't seem to make sense until an overload proves it right. Watching television e.g. can be a pleasant thing while nobody understands why one should abstain regularly for a day in another rhythm of time than its standardhypnosis. Still the thing can work counterproductive too in times of war e.g. amplifying the madness of a small conflict into a worldwar collectively or marital divorce individually.. The onset of radio in the forties, television in the sixties and the computer in the nineties correlated with explicit international conflicts of war. Although the causal connection cannot be tested or proven common sense will tell to be vigilant with these kind of effects. Certainly it is individually wise to be in control of the use of the media or whatever agent it might concern. Also lovers know this, testing one another in simply refusing sex for a change. To matter one must prove to be the master while to the soul always the reality of service must be proven. Forgetting this a youngster trusting in the divinity of sexual love resenting the alignmentstrategies of the parents might run into the wrong hands getting abused and possibly even incurably diseased. From that the rule of not having intercourse before marriage or not having sex with strangers in general can be understood as the seemingly unnecessary fuse one must not blow. 

 

            s) Beware of the promiscuous; avoid fornication.

To understand the issue of the diversity of sexuality one can distinguish different types of sexual people (pict.):

a) The holy

b) The free

c) The loyal

d) The deviant

e) The passive

Type a is the person living without sexual activity. It requires the highest standard of discipline and holiness as all natural urges for procreation must be sublimated to a level of servitude where personal continence is not in conflict with tradition at the one hand and progress at the other. They can be sexual for the purpose of offspring to its holy sacrament, promply denying it once the wish for children is fulfilled. The second type, type b, is the sexual person believing in sexual freedom. In principle all kinds of sex are o.k. to him as long as it is not a compulsion. This kind of person leads a dangerous life as the hygienic department is always the problem of free and spontaneous sex. Above that will those people find more difficulties of keeping relations as the sexual urge runs right trough them. Type c is the sex of people interested in procreation and marital perseverance. With those people sex quickly becomes a boring routine and less important once the infatuation is over. These people often are religious tending to the holy. Type d are the sex-addicts who have perverted interests in all kind of recreational sex. Sex as a sport or hobby or way of relating specially has become a compulsion with them. These people love to masturbate, experiment and/or deviate within the confines of the bedroom-experience. Often hey have a philosophy of liberation by means of sex as they transform all kinds of negative emotions in special types of sex. The greatest risk of these people is when the kicks are over. Essentially with them there has been no development on higher levels of sublimation because of which they can suffer all kinds of trouble having no experience in transcendence. The one's lacking in morality and ego-strength can have serious psychiatric trouble or trouble with the law especially once the sexual outlet is blocked. The type e people are the one's who do not practice sex voluntarily but who predominantly fantasize and dream about it passively cherishing desires and conflicts of dependency. They often lack in personal discipline and sexual initiative and suffer pollutions and breakdowns being defeated by some kind of ignorance.

To sex there is a standard concept of evolution in emancipation. The transformation of lower sex into higher experiences of transcendence is known to happen from three platforms: the animal bond, the heroic bond and the divine bond. The first bond is sticking with one partner. Transforming from this level from type c and d sex to type a sex one meditates on the sexual experience until the cultural drive has become stronger. Because of its possessive character this platform is known as animalistic. The heroic bond is the bond typical for type b people who gradually are liberated by giving up the desire for a partner and sexual gratification. These are the hero's as they have the mission of independence on their shoulders. Not attached to a single partner slowly the interest of the soul takes over the interest of sex. As the hero's are social by nature they can even be stronger than type a people who often simply withdraw from the 'bad and sinful' world in a negative mind about all sex (and procreation). The divine platform is the transcendence typical for type a people. Not practicing sex one still has to be love to be able to live. From this platform the workaholic or hermit becomes a compassionate servant of some kind of idealistic non-profit organization predominantly interested in peace and harmony.

From these classifications of sex it becomes clear that the perverted and promiscuous will suffer the greatest trouble in transcendence and emancipation. They do not really belong to any platform of transformation as they are simply addicted to sex. The best chance for those who manage to give up their compulsions on the heroic platform is to stay social, while on the animalistic platform clinging to a partner that can keep track with the difficulties of

transformation will give the best chances for liberation. Failing in this the perverted run into all kinds of disease and mishap as nature (God) can also formulate a solution for stopping the compulsion.. 

 

            t) Better to postpone if trust is not complete.

This rule is most difficult. Typical for the one in love is the inability to say no against the partner. A partner with strong sexual urges easily tempts a willing person into sexuality while there actually was not enough acquaintance with each other. Not rarely sex represses the reality of the darker sides of the person that may only pop up after the infatuation is over. It can take years of marriage before one realizes one married the wrong person. Therefore it is wise to make sure one can trust the person before further advances are accepted. One can stay on the kissing-level a long time until for better and for worse one knows for sure that the other can accept and does understand the strengths and weaknesses of the partner. The cherished type of sublimation one must be able to share. A good culture of sublimation can be strong enough to bind the most diverse type of people together. Religion often forbids divorce as that would be an insult to its capacity to integrate. Still having the same religion or other strategy of transcendence is no guarantee for a happy marriage. Still one must care for selecting the right partner with e.g. equal intelligence and statusorientation. Statistics prove: the more divergent the people the less probable the endurance.

With postponing though one must also be careful. People in love need to confirm their love. The flame must be kept alive. If one hesitates too long giving each other the first kiss, it might not happen ever as it cannot be distinguished from normal relating. The genes are also talking and they simply want sexual gratification. To deny sex with the good will of purity is no success for the body that also leads in motivation and ambition. It is even so that denial of sexuality will lead to mental disease as even the religious know the sexual as a positive sacrament. One can only abstain from sex cherishing a philosophy of positive sexual relating: one doesn't necessarily have to practice sex oneself to approve of it. Therefore it is difficult to say no against sex once the other person is intimately known.

One can best postpone sexual intercourse by planning it for after marriage as the classical rule demands or otherwise after official engagement or after the introduction to the parents or if that is too difficult only after the best friends know about it. Although love and confidence can be that strong that two people pursue their relationship irrespective of what the rest of the world would say or think about it, for the sake of wisdom it is good to have as a rule some kind of safeguard in control of the strongest emotion in man. 

 

            u) Beware of the inability to stop.

It is a general rule in life that things can only be right if they can be refuted. Without the ability to say no there is no question of a free choice. Freedom of choice is something to work, fight and struggle for. Freedom is not selfevident as education by parents certainly is. The whole of society is playing the paternal role trying to take over the responsibility of the individual. Peace by social security is founded on this paternal role of the government. By no means just the liberal motive of getting rid of paternal concern can manage. To get rid of control does not make people independent or free. Only self wanted voluntary emancipation will bring liberation. Also independence must not be a compulsion. It must be allowed to enjoy and appreciate the care of others. This also is essential for a healthy society that knows to give and take. This gives the picture of a balance: on the one side it must be possible to depend while at the other side one must be able to choose for freedom. Societies are healthy that way and also sexual relations. Sex as a compulsion thus in fact destroys relations while at the other hand forced independence will be either capable of holding people together. Therefore limits need to be set. It is like eating from the cookiejar or making money: only at teatime a cookie is allowed and only on paying taxes capital may accumulate. Likewise for sexual abstinence there is the obligation of sacrifice: the energy must find a way out on another level in a socially acceptable form. Without it one will not be able to control the mind that is activated by the natural urge for selfrealization. Lots of mental disease can be retraced to a frustration of sacrifice: the most renown dictator e.g. was nothing but a frustrated painter without success. With this the concept of what is called a success is essential. The definition of success cannot lie in the appreciation by others as that is still the dependent mode. The reality of success lies in the continence of goodness that is achieved by perseverance of sacrifice without the expectancy of return. This way even someone who died can be a persistent success. On the other hand keeping sexual activity one may set a limit at the level of adaptation within a subliminal culture: as long as there is enough energy and mind left for the cultural, limited sex can be the philosophy of 'loading and discharging the batteries'. 

 

            v) Care for love-play after the climax.

Just as important not to be egoistically after sexual gratification it is also important to share the success of achieving on a higher level of discharge. Many people simply use others at the 'way to the top'. But the other is not simply a staircase or a sex-object to be discarded after success. It is because of the support of the government, the spouse, the teachers, the religion, the culture of whatever that one could achieve. Gratitude is a very important value in the appreciation of as well the sexual orgasm as a societal success. In fact only people who do not deny the one's that helped them that far can be of prolonged success. As such often successful people are married or get married as soon as they achieve a certain level: they cared for the ones that supported them. Sexual orgasm and societal success go together also although it is somewhat of a paradox to be a cultural success and a intimate success at the same time. Usually success of sexual people is made by celibates working behind the screen. In this the Supreme Personality, spiritual teacher or leader is usually thanked as no other person would be able to appreciate or deserve the gratitude. To afterplay there is thus a lot more than simply be sweet with the love you had. In fact the whole discharge of sex can evoke a lot of emotions as all energy is drained from other levels of living. This can be a test for the integrity of not only the individual but also the culture attached at a certain level of management. Often collectively parallels can be found that work likewise: the sexual revolution of the sixties e.g. coincided with war and revolution not knowing what caused what. Too great a cultural pressure can urge for sex while a sexually heavy urge can can set off a terrible conflict. Since nobody can really control this for the safety of all one may only pray and love with this rule stressing the importance of the value of gratitude. Whether heavily stressing a type of culture or sex, important is not to forget whom or what we should be grateful to. E.g. loving and respecting mother nature by means of an improved concept of time in gratitude for all that she gave us may simply be the only survivalstrategy for mankind left. Modern time may have been like a sexual orgasm but how the post-modern afterplay would cherish a restoration of respect for mother nature remains to be seen. 

 

            w) Do not be compulsive about a climax.

In fact the climax is the end of the love-making. A whole of sexual culture is about postponement of the climax. The idea is that love is spoilt when the sex is for an accomplishment. Just getting rid is considered animalistic and loveless. Having a sexual bond together also going for a climax outside of it is considered loveless. When the relationship is giving trouble also the sexual bond can be felt as disturbing. Then going for a climax outside of it is a sign of the wish of independence or the unwillingness or disbelief in affirming the sexual bond getting even psychologically. Maturity is founded on the two legs of instruction and settlement. Both must warrant the independence. The original father and mother in the flesh that educated and affirmed the immature state are gradually replaced by father time who settles everything by means of agreements and scheduling and mother literature who takes the form of books of instruction always available for support and help. The problem of greater society is to have time corrupted for pragmatic reasons and to have books corrupted for economic reasons. Evidently time should be loyal to nature and books should be free available without any possessiveness. But the interlocal interest of time seems to be more important while libraries must always confess that books are lend out in the possession of others. Having the problem of independence boiled down to time-dislocation and knowledge-possessiveness existentially experienced as 'I don't really know how late it is up here' and ' I cannot possess all the books I actually care about' the solution seems technically clear: an improved clock that is in respect with any choice of time and an internetcomputer that can down-load any chunk of knowledge from anywhere in the world (and then reading that with e.g. a floppy-pager, without the necessity to own a computer). Taking it purely sexual though things are much less clear: one is in conflict about dependence and independence, sex and love, orgasm or no orgasm without really understanding how to be mature in all this. As such sex itself can be the disturbance realizing that getting rid of sex is completely different from the neurotic realization of having an orgasmic relief.

Going for sex one must simply be love for sex out of which the orgasm is the natural relief. Going for relief itself one shouldn't go for an orgasm at all but learn about the troubles of maturity in management and knowledge. One can be perfect love for knowledge and a good organization of work without having any sex at all. From (and not necessarily by) the animalistic drive man can find relief in the cultural reality of living meaningful. Mankind freed from compulsive sexuality will not only find liberation culturally but also sexually. 

 

            x) Be happy if you don't have to, and not sad if you did.

One can be happy having had sex but also sad. Some sex is a liberation of the animal drive finding oneself a successful procreator and lover of the opposite sex. Some sex is sadly a sign of dependency realizing one is caught in a web of cultural subjugation with which one may never attain the true of the self. Both types have a certain disdain of culture in common giving proof of the subliminal character of culture. The objection against this realization lies in the difference between transcendence (pict.) and sublimation. Discharge on a higher level of selfrealization can still be very materially motivated: all divinity and mindfulness, all politics and heart can be for the sake of a material outcome thus never attaining the transcendental reality of liberation in service to the interest of the soul. As stated above do possessiveness and bad timing form the more subtle lusts and betrayal of the higher intelligence. Having realized this giving up the acquisition and keeping tendencies in favor of possessiveness and the loyalty to the hypnosis of commercial standardtime in favor of bad timing, the transcendental comes in reach. All one needs is the order of a natural outlook and the objectivity of an open window to see reality as it is transcending to the happiness of the soul that did his best and is always willing to sacrifice further. Then one can be happy if you don't have to perform sexually and not sad if you did. Sublimation on itself is no safeguard against the neurotic compulsion and the grieved sadness that can come having sex loveless for a material outcome. 

 

            y) Love to make a baby and being tender.

Another great danger of love is the attachment to sex. Attached to sexuality one is not really interested in the natural outcome of having a baby. There can even be strong resentment and lies against having a baby with the excuse of not being ready or not being able to find a world happy enough for the tender baby. Some can be simply that jealous about having offspring, knowing that after the baby has come lots of love will be diverted to the little one, that marital divorces can follow the pregnancy. Some very beautiful woman simply don't want offspring because of the same jealousy saying their careers are more important than having offspring. But still being sexual their love seems nothing but abuse of the male support. Sexual attachment is a byproduct of material bewilderment expressing itself as jealousy. The cure of course lies in exercising the opposite: one should endeavor, explore and discover in the spiritual /religious psychological realm and seek expression in compassionate selfrealization. In stead of going for the sex and the money one should go for the selfrealization and the love. In this opposition money seems to be a perversion of selfrealization; an enemy that in fact blocks or hinders and slows down cultural openness and progress while sex for itself is recognized as the killer of compassion and love. Of course reality is not as black and white as it can be written as selfrealization and money as well as sex and love can very well go together. The end justifying the means though cannot justify their corruption. The importance of this rule is about having babies the tender and loving way. The idea is that babies born as a byproduct of material ambition will find less caring and loving parents and will tend to grow up being maybe worse than that. Only by striving for loving sex instead of sexual love this can be. Once the priority of love is clear not only the person but also the whole world can be liberated from the corruption that ruins the happy. 

 

            z) If lust does not become love than break off.

The final rule differing from all the others is the rule accounting for the fact that people live spontaneous and at first hand don't want to care about rules that much at all. Thus one can have a lusty life slowly realizing, getting older and wiser, that something must be done in respect of a more mature and selfresponsible style of life. As such it can be considered normal to start of as a spontaneous lusty animal going for the obvious of material attraction. The more successful the lust would be the greater the troubles of sublimation and transcendence then would be afterwards. Thus seen material ambition and spiritual ambition can be each others mirror image. Some cautious individuals might not fall for the outer attraction at all or find much work later on getting out of it. That can have the advantage of quicker progress in the social field having on itself less trouble of finding the material motive in cooperation. Where the explicit convert can find himself at the other extreme having difficulties finding the balance, the cautious individual might be more successful but less experienced and knowledgeable about the reality of material life and transcendence. The cautious seem perfectly fit for representing traditions keeping the perfect middle while the extreme people seem perfect for purposes of reform being the daredevils of selfrealization.

Whatever the style or character of the selfrealizationprocess decisive though is whether lust is overcome or not. It is not an imaginary problem to find many converted still cherishing the same old lust or to find many lovers totally unable to mature and become more independent together. Easily one can change dress and still be the same liar. Also it is easy to find yourself the same lover getting older still being the same fool. Love like God, can take many forms and is characterized by its vitality of change. Therefore finding the same old lust simply transformed only in age or culture one may safely say goodbye to that state of being and decide for a better concept of planning and understanding. To live in a castle can be very alluring but to find the glorious mansion in the clouds can bring a great falldown, not only for a single pair of lovers but also for mankind as a whole. 

 

*The differentiation that is naturally there is falsified by the present clock by means of the pretense that with a calendar-indication there would be a sufficient differentiation of time: there is still no differentiation then to the position within the timezone of one's geographical postion e.g. while the indication of the clock does not really show the natural situation. Nor is there any question of an integrated concept of time with a seperate calendarindication. Ultimately it is not the goal to represent one moment of time with different indications. Thus even this design is just a way to achieve a more comprehensive timeconcept without extra indications. Standardtime seen this way is just a pretense or keeping up of appearances.

 

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Definitions of Basic Terms used

 

Alignment. Literally it means to be put in one line with. The term is used to describe the position of the ego according with the values of the soul and the soul according with the reality of the Ideal (God). Synonymous one could also say unifying without dissolving, connecting without denying the difference and ranking without a double standard (best dutch translation: gelijkrichten) (pict.).

Attachment: The state of being conditioned to an emotional preference also associated with a legal and/or personal bond. Defies logic and reason. Considered the source of lust feeding a loss of intelligence, anger, madness and disease. Attachment is usually considered a weakness of the ego leading to neurosis whereas the same associated with the soul it is considered manageable love forgiven and graced as a form of service to God.

Apollonian values: (narrow:) lucidity, tranquility and rational, intellectual detachment. Extended (spiritual/vedic): truth, eternity , bliss, beauty , goodness and consciousness. Also generally associated with order and non-competitiveness. Philosophical: the term for everything that in its worldview, philosophy of life and art has the characteristics of the stable and balanced intellect, for everything striving for order and harmony. Values associated with the greek god Apollo (see Britannica and an article).

Consciousness: state of being; awareness of difference. One is at a certain frequency , time-mode or paradigm aware with a way of differentiating depending on knowledge of the self (identifications), the body (relations) and the culture (discourse).(picture)

Ego: The awareness of self, the concept of I. It is discriminated from soul as being potentially without a conscience. It is often called false when identified with matter. The real of the ego is found in the selfrealization of soul that matures towards selfresponsibility no longer depending on outside authority. It is the seat of anxiety as its propensity to identify with the material condition is the guarantee of failure since nothing material will keep its form forever. The notion of a superego refers to a social construction of rules for behavioral conduct which has to define the societal reality.

Emancipation: The process of the gradual elevation of or liberation to service to the soul. Materially taken it means to become an equal to a certain standard of civilization. Spiritually it refers to the process of gradual liberation beginning with listening, speaking and remembering ending in friendship and finally surrender to the dictates of the soul (pict.).

Enlightenment: see liberation.

Filognosy (can also be spelled philognosy): literally: love for knowledge. The term is used to contrast the term philosophy as not the development of knowledge itself is the goal but the development of the love for knowledge as it is. Practically the term implies the practice of inducing oneness and harmony of consciousness by means of contemplation, discourse and service to the order of time as the method for countering the troubles of ignorance (see also the instruction site Filognosy).

God: Most often God is understood to be a person of supernatural nature, also called the Lord. Since several Lordships stressed the importance of not being God themselves but just being the prophet, son or teacher of God, the term impersonally refers to a mystical omnipresent allknowing and worshipable Supreme Being or Supersoul. Scientifically the term seems to refer to the power (soul) of (omnipresent, allknowing and respectable) time conditionings making up the material structure and consciousness of any living being. It is clear that God can be anything or anyone while the reverse is not true being just an element and not the category. Thus God is a person, while at the same time the person is not God (also see pict. of types of divinity and pict. of the opulence or wealth of God).

Identity: Being identical to oneself, the sameness of essential character. It usually refers to the image people have of oneself and the accordance of that image with the way one sees or wants to see oneself. Familiar with oneself, there are positive identifications. The opposite is defined as estrangement. Formal identification is called problematic as the real (unique) person seems to disappear in the uniform of a group. Materially the term refers to being properly oriented in one's selfimage to the here and now in the spacetime of one's body. Being disturbed in this belongs to the definition of mental illness: one is depersonalized or disoriented not aware of one's responsibility for the place and timing of one's own body. Filognostically mankind is known to suffer an identitycrisis being -politically- split up (divided) in the awareness of place and time: the international pragmatical timesystem threatens to devour the person and his culturally authentic identity in his feeling of natural timing to his own place (the soul of that being denounced as a bad or nationalistic ego). Therefore filognostically one is considered selfaware having realized a formal (material) identity without losing oneself in the uniform or other behavior of a group (see also colorcode, the pict. and the The Game of Order). Identification devoid of the motives of the soul is considered the cause of attachment (which leads to a loss of intelligence).

Illusion: something false taken to be true. Usually applied to the difference between being materially identified and spiritually directed. The impermanent or material is considered illusive as it is doomed to change while the management of the form, the spirit resulting from alignment with the soul, and the soul itself is considered eternal as it refers to the invariance of selfawareness and the reality of change, time itself.

Intelligence: in short the sum of experience. Psychometrically it is the level of accomplishment relative to that of others with the same age. Spiritually it is the ability to align with the interest and values of the soul. From this the definition of stupidity is derived: it is stupid to defy the ideal.

Liberation: the goal of spiritual exercises. Often associated with the concept of enlightenment. Opposing to enlightenment as being the (sometimes sudden) result of detachment (think of "a sigh of relief" when something drops away), has liberation a broader meaning in the sense of also arriving at a concept of servitude to that which brought the enlightenment. While enlightenment falling short of formulating what should replace the burden that fell away carries the danger of psychic derailing, is liberation seen as as a higher purpose because of its including the idea of service to the ideal, God, the soul, the Order or the community. The concept of liberation especially pertains to realizing a relationship of servitude in the spiritual field. At the material level one speaks of attachment if the action is not subservient to the spiritual goal (e.g. watching t.v. out of 'love for the fellow men' can be a liberation, on the condition that one is, to a spiritual authority, able for a day to say no also to keeping distance that way).

Matter: The object of sentience that by definition of perception must change (place&form).

Meditation: serious consideration according to a plan. The conscious act of aligning the mind with the (values, knowledge, individual and social reality of the) soul. As with meditation a process of deconditioning is triggered, the energy released by the process is usually bound by means of exercises: prayer, bodily postures and rituals. The classical warning is that meditation without proper binding of the energy released gives the danger of deranging mentally and socially. It is the alternative to abreaction which aligns the ego with the body unleashing energy without a plan.

Mind: thought of concern; direction of the body. The undirected mind runs into thoughts of lust, anger and fear having the mind pulled down by the negative of frustrated lower drives. Forsaking desire will only appease the mind when it is directed for the sake of some kind of service to the interest of the soul.

Miracle: An exception to the laws of nature escaping from scientific verification since it cannot be repeated at will but is dependent upon the necessity of grace. Miracles form the proof of God a Lordship can deliver as, scientifically taken, incidentally the power of time conditionings can prove to be stronger than a law of nature. Also the power of magicians depends on the ability to manipulate the conditioned expectations of onlookers by diversion and proper timing. This makes it difficult to distinguish between miracles and repeatable tricks. Another way to define miracles is to consider them as being an imagination of reality itself('reality itself imagines') proving matter just to be a kind of thought.

Neurosis: literally it means to have weak nerves; it is the more or less chronic state of being unsure of oneself regularly running into states of fear. It is considered the normal state of consciousness of modern man being confronted with the schizoid of society. Often psychotherapy is mentioned as the best cure, but it is generally doubted whether therapeutic discussion will change anything to the schizoid condition of being adapted to modern society. The filognostic cure means to develop another consciousness of time thus managing a resistance against the normal diseasing conditioning-force of material attachment.

Profiteer: filognostic equivalent with sinner or fallen soul. To the ideal of full selfresponsibility everybody is a profiteer taking more than is returned. As with the classical concept of sin taking profit is supposed to be the drive of moral consciousness: it makes guilty to pay moral and material taxes in the form of commitments and money.

Psyche: human self-reflection. Can be ego, can be soul. Also used for mind, vital essence and spirit. The psyche is known to cover four departments of reflection: thought, sentience, volition and action (pict.). See also under Soul.

Reality: State of being. To the soul God is the reality, to the spirit space, to life it is time and to form it is matter that is considered real (pict.).

Schizoid: the mental state of being internally divided. It is considered to be the state preceding psychotic derangement in which the individual runs into a chaos of selfreflection. Also used for modern society opposing against nature and itself running into the chaos of warfare at times.

Schizophrenia: the mental state resulting from liberation without discipline. It is considered a severe mental illness for which there is no medical cure as the attainment of spiritual selfreflection cannot be undone unless severely blocked by psychopharmaca making another hell of existence. Resenting discipline and the authority belonging to it the individual estranges from the spiritual reality, perceiving it as being out of control and demoniac. These people were also called possessed by evil spirits in the old days. Another way of defining it is the state of being divided and deluded in one's awareness of place and time having no sense of direction in one's life. Can also be called the disease of delusion in the not-this-awareness of material identification. The cure lies in acceptance of the spiritual challenge and reality learning the discipline of aligning to the soul in the here and now from a spiritual authority.

Soul: the definition used the most is not the vague "essence of man"-definition found in the dictionary, but the definition relating to selfremembrance (as in: 'I lost my soul') and alignment ('a loyal soul'). The definition is dynamic, that is to say, identified with life and the living; each moment the soul redefines itself in the light of selfremembrance and conscience. Philosophically it is considered the psyche or mirror of the self consisting of reason, spirit, and desire and vedically it is divided in the divinities of ignorance, passion and goodness with an individual soul (jiv-atma), a localized personal aspect (paramatma) and a supersoul (Bhagavan or the Lord). Often the idea of continuation is introduced to stress the importance of its eternal value and transcendence of physical death being remembrance not per se located in the personal brain, but shaped in the form of a cultural/biological trace ('my children are my life and soul', 'I put my life and soul in that work'). Also the idea of invariability is important to its, often religious, definition being the cultural denominator founded in eternal values (truth, purity, compassion and sobriety <pict.>) that transcends the individual ego identified with the body. In sum its definition could be: the stable and continuing conscientiously remembering true self.

Spirit: the mind of the aligning ego; direction of the mind; also compared to program. Described as life-giving and being of a certain mood. A way of seeing; a conditioning (see further an article about the definition of spirituality).

Time: The succession of moments. Most soberly time is distance divided by velocity as velocity is expressed in dividing the distance trough time. For static objects time is thus an expression of distance. To an extend ignoring a common speed the cultural concept of time denying distance abridging it electronically is problematic as nor distance nor the dynamics or consciousness of speed seems to be related to the concept. Thus, psychologically, time is culturally known as a conflict of identity in which the person is disoriented to the place of timing and the true time of nature's happening. The instability of time-experience is called psychological time while the common motion of the spinning planet indicates the true of time. Cultural time is known as clocktime. The three concepts of time making up its total definition can be united in the formula Tp=Tt-Tc. In straight language: psychological time can be recognized as the product of the negative relationship, the difference, between clock-time and natural time (pict.).

Religiously time is the form of God in its totality overruling the existence of all living beings also giving order and peace being as worshipable as the Lord Himself. Scientifically the term is dually managed reductionalistically just referring to an absolute of measurement (electromagnetic definition: Tc) or referring to the spin of heavenly objects (the dynamic definition: Tt). The filognostic definition stressing the psychological nature of time ends the dual conflict of scientific denomination by simply describing a practice of respect for the sake of consciousness of both the concepts of scientific time. Thus the psychological problem of time-identity is solved.

 

 

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