Introduction
Sex is
supposed to be the love of our life. And it is.
Every healthy adult knows what it is and loves
to do it. We long for it as if it is God
Himself, and indeed Lord K.
confirms this: " I am the lust, the desire that
is in accord with the "dharma", the rules of the
religion, its nature. " We all hope that our
spontaneity for sex will be of His grace and
divinity. We know us to be human and are aware
not to be fully in control over something that
is the Lord Himself. In fact the question is
what exactly the rules for and reality of sex
would be in our modern time. What does dharma or
religion mean in our modern western sexual
society? What kind of culture does this vedic
word dharma for religion refer to in this
respect?
Dharma
In fact the
Bhagavad
Gita
begins with this problem. A,
on the battlefield facing the enemy that is his
own family says to K.
, his friend and charioteer, that he is confused
about it. He complains to Him that the women get
spoilt when men neglect their duties. The
unhappy offspring resulting from this situation
makes a difficult society and A.
asks his best friend what to do. He is confused
seeing so many of his relatives in opposition
with him. Dharma is in the Bhagavad Gita
discussed as the holy law of social order. It is
synonymous with righteousness and duty. It even
has meaning as a denomination for the essence of
ones being, ones true nature or swa-dharma. It
is the goal of self-realization. It is the
mission of life to find out what your individual
nature is, what you must do to be happy and
fulfilled. One can translate the word dharma
with religion as religion would formulate the
rules for doing our societal duty, our eternal
duty of righteous actions (sanatana-dharma).
A-dharma then would be a lack of duty or
consciousness about our duties because of which
things do not work out as they should: we may
pretend so, we may think it so but in fact it is
an illusion: we have no grip and see a world
going down instead of a problem solved. And this
relates to sex. A-dharma means that our sex is
not according to the rules, is not according to
our own nature and it is not in support of
righteousness. Adharma means that our sexlives
are out of control and that our society became a
big lie of being in order. The word 'order' has
become a curse, a mark of untruth, the face of
hypocrisy and false motives. Thus we see a
society going to hell with no other future than
its own destruction and decay. The Bhagavad Gita
is in fact a plea to get control over our
sexlives just as well as it is a plea to worship
sex as it is the Lord Himself we can expect to
find in it.
Animal,
human and divine
We are
animals, we are humans and we are divine beings.
Animal sex is simple: an instinct is enough to
procreate. No marriage is needed, let nature
take its course. One might eventually have to
fight another male to prove oneselves to be the
best, but that is all. One doesn't have to be
loyal, the woman can take care and the man can
go on. That
is animal nature. In nature, so now and then
this type of sex occurs: it is not cultivated,
it is not really a habit. It depends on the
right opportunity: is there enough food, is
there a receptive, fertile female with the right
type of genes of the right age? Is it a safe
situation to breed children? Can the family be
maintained? Are there predators? Is it the right
season? Is it the right place? Is it the right
time? Naturally sex happens as the flowering of
a plant: first many conditions must be met
before the plant can bear any fruit. And then it
happens very natural. Completely according to
ones nature. K.
talking in the Gita about dharma also talks
about this kind of sex. One doesn't think about
it, one doesn't deny it, one doesn't seek it: it
comes and goes naturally like fruits and the
seasons. Now this is animal sex: it is holy. But
this is not how we normally think about it as
cultured beings. Culturally the story is
completely different.
In culture
people do their best not to behave like animals.
Culture is supposed to control our nature. The
animal thing is a weakness. Human weaknesses are
animal propensities; one should get properly
married, the man should stay with the woman and
be loyal to her only. Human strength is based on
human values: one shouldn't lie, steal, kill and
cheat. That is what makes a safe society and
hope for the future: the fact that we are
truthful and not escapist in drugs, alcohol,
nicotine, caffeine or other intoxication, the
fact that we are loyal in celibacy to the real
cause we are living for- married or not, the
fact that we share our possessions by means of
tax-systems and social security or even better
types of governmental control over the division
of labor and goods, the fact that we respect all
living beings of all races and species - plant,
animal and human - or even aliens from outer
space, these facts make our culture a livable
and probable reality. In culture, the natural
desire for procreation, the sexual lust for life
is in conflict with the concept of
consciousness. Lust obscures the motives called
human. Lust denies the regulations of marriage
or even all social meaning of sex (a socialist
doesn't masturbate !). Lust wants to fight where
culture commands non-violence, lust tells you to
take what you want, kill for your appetite and
get intoxicated for your happiness. Lust is the
great enemy of social order; that animalistic
thing of ours disturbs and spoils everything:
our selfrespect, our honor, our conscience, our
motives and our character. Nay it is all bad
because it makes fools out of decent human
beings.
Since we are
as well natural beings ('animals') as cultured
beings ('humans') things are getting
complicated. We start to cultivate sex with the
idea that proper regulation of sex; proper
cultivation of sex, will keep the animal under
control. The marriage suddenly appears mandatory
and
all singles seem to be suspect of being a
possible threat to the status quo of regulated
sex-lives. There is awareness of only two
choices left: one either is married or one is
obliged to a religious or another type of
sanctioning social order. Anything else is
possibly a mental disease or a form of crime.
Culture has become a preservative for the
ignorant and the religious or subcultural order
has become a waiting-room for a heaven we can
only speculate about. We have two worlds and
neither one of them is the real happiness. We
have become schizoids not knowing how to be
natural cultivated and not knowing how to be
happy living for our 'dharma' or righteous duty.
And there seems to be no way out of this double
bind of longing for order in society and longing
for a society being part of a religious or
subcultural order. Being a pure human being as a
solution, being perfectly loyal, true, sharing
everything, being of nonviolent respect for all
creatures is declared a hopeless dream,
unattainable ideal and impossible type of
holiness. There are the two basic threats to
this holiness: either one turns out to be an
animal unmasked as a hypocrite secretly chasing
the other sex, embezzling, getting intoxicated
supporting the killing of animals for the sake
of a fine meatdish, or one turns out to be a
socalled 'god' , making a false authority
preaching the word of God halfwitted with the
obscure desire to dominate over others
projecting ones own weaknesses and lack of
selfcontrol and selfrealization on the other
subjects of "The Lord" of the subcultural game.
One speaks of human weaknesses, animal strength
and divine powers, while in fact the human
values make our strength having animal
weaknesses and divine capacities. The divine is
not there to exert power, but to provide
happiness. The human is not there to be
weaknesses but to be strength by virtue. And the
animalistic is not such an advantage at all,
since it is simply to weak to
dominate.
Sexual
Control
With our
schizoid cultural reality we have separated the
real concept of order from the real concept of
society. Originally the religious order would be
the decent society and many subcultures make the
same claim. Originally the natural of sex would
be the sexual control of God in our holy
society. By definition the society of modern
time though is not in order. It is the challenge
we accept for doing our jobs. In fact the modern
of time is a sexual stimulant: it gives us the
problem, the stress from which we desire, from
which we expect to be liberated in an orgasm.
Modern time as such is a demigod: it is not the
original concept of time, dynamic, natural and
fully
divine, but it looks like it, a child can be
made to believe in it, it is a form of respect
for the inscrutable mystic reality of the real
cyclic cosmic time that runs our souls lives
after lives in a orgy of selfknowledge proving
that our conscientious self-remembrance, our
soul, is not just situated in our own brains. We
have love with this modern time. The clock and
roman calendar in fact are the real lustobject,
the real form we gave God to mediate and
communicate His love. By means of the impersonal
mechanism of wheels and schemes, scales and
hands, we are conditioned into an order that is
in respect with His original nature, the nature
that would preserve our real person, our souls
and our identities. Anyone respecting a clock
and a calender is a religious person or
subcultural believer. Each one carrying a
wristwatch is a devotee of 'God' or whatever
social time-management sport; a kind of
religious person (person driven by ritual)
believing in the cyclic of 'His' confirmation
and sustaining of belief. The only but is that
it is not the supreme Lord we deal with setting
our own schedules and schemes. In fact we follow
dictates of politicians of a doubtful integrity
who made great wars in Europe with a new concept
of time-management in their banners that opposed
scriptural precepts of time-order. The Holy
christian Bible forbids the manipulation of time
calling it of the beast (beast number four in
D's
dream) and the Bhagavata
Purana
prescribes 48 weeks in a year (in fact 24
fortnights that christian wise can be divided in
two weeks and an extra holiday each) in stead of
the 52 we are practicing (see time-quotes).
The
aphrodisiac.
How does this
semi-divine aphrodisiac called modern time work?
It seems to make a terrible itch going against
the original scriptural purpose and natural
creation or 'will of God'. To understand this
first we must consider how our brains work. It
has two halves that are specialized in temporal,
serial and spatial, parallel duties. The natural
situation is that the natural reality of cyclic
time makes an integrity with the locality, the
physical reality of the spatial control of an
individual. This makes the natural identity and
control of a person as a true-time management
(aware of the passing sun-) of time and space.
The brain as such is a space-time organizer
constantly calculating its serial schedules to
its parallel physical and emotional reality.
This is the natural human being in full control
of the natural definition of sex to his own
localized identity, his 'here and now'. As such
everything of our reality is under control to
the capacity of
our natural being. The culture though makes a
challenge that itches: it separates (in
modernity) by means of collective pragmatic
manipulations against the holy precepts of the
religion. The locality and true of time, each
noon is called twelve when the sun is at its
summit making the perfect south shadow in the
exact middle of the lightperiod, is manipulated
in such a way that this space-time identity and
integrity with modern man is of the schizoid
character we were talking about. The natural and
true of time is converted to standard time the
way we make coffee-creamer sterilizing,
condensing and sweetening the original milk. The
concept of time in modernity is separated from
the locality. Scientists, so to speak, talk
about the integrity of space-time right at the
moment we are wasting it. We talk of something
that we miss. It is modern consciousness.
Suddenly, after thousands of years of
civilization managing a sundial/waterclock
respect for the position of the sun, we have
moved to a system in which time and space are no
longer one and the same reality. The exception
Einstein found on the unity of time and space
making time observer dependent does not lessen
the argument about this schizoid estrangement
from the objectivity and integrity of our
natural being. Time separated from the place
makes for timezones, mean time and summertime
schedules. It is the creamer in our coffee and
the aphrodisiac for our sexlives. It is our
political passion to make oppositions of social
and liberal motives. The problem is not the
extra sex we have with this itching aphrodisiac
or the extra alert we have with the stress of
this splitting of the natural integrity of
time-space, the problem is that even young
children is given this aphrodisiac and even
heart-patients have to drink this creamed
coffee. The problem is that of consciousness: do
we have a free choice determining our own
destinies with coffee and aphrodisiacs, or are
we victims in a bad-habits-society that is out
of control with its sexuality that has no
knowledge of how the actual clock and calendar
makes for a halfwitted divinity in stead of the
full we expected with a natural and holy
culture?
The
modern sexual reality
The above
mentioned cannot be undone. What is made and
created politically as a cultural sex-drive
against the original natural harmony and
religion of space-time has become a new
religion. The clock and calendar as we know it
is the new roman modern creed that has its own
strategies of tempting and chastising the
innocent believer into an experienced daredevil
of modern democratic sex and judicial culture.
This new religion makes modern man a defender of
a belief that promotes all kinds of free sex and
self-realization, multifaith and multicultural
in a style that reminds of the old roman 'pax
romana' that would encompass the whole world
with its polytheistic theology of greek wisdom
and roman 'righteous' imposition. We see with it
the same scientific excellence and wisdom as in
the old days and the same roman army of the
united nations settling for the same order of
the same laws of the same roman calendar of the
same roman emperors of the same Rome that even
became holy as the pope himself correcting it to
be gregorian for the seasons. We
also see the same decay and the same orgies with
which the previous Roman rule went down. History
repeats itself and just as in the old days at
losing control over our sexuality and cultural
integrity we see these days a new belief
emerging: it is the belief of New Age. It is the
combined culture of modern psychotherapy and
eastern meditation to ones own idea that makes
for a new culture of selfrealization, reform,
enlightenment, liberation and cultural
renaissance. There are new hero's or Gods to
worship, new initiations and new churches
offering new interpretations of the same old
religious dogma's of cultivating and checking
the human values. The sexuality is reformed by
the
guru's and
psychotherapists.
No dogmatic forbidding of sin, but intelligent
meditations on the sexual drive to realize the
higher nature of the spirit of love. There is no
real difference between the teachings of Tantra
of guru
O.
and the teachings of the sex-therapists
M.
and J.
telling us to take it more easy with having an
orgasm, postpone a bit and love one another a
bit more in stead. The scriptures
themselves
say that under the restriction of respecting the
wise this type of meditation is permitted. Once
the purpose is clear the weakness is forgiven.
The only difference between the hard-core new
ager and the psychotherapist is in his
beliefsystem of human values. The
psychotherapists try 'valuefree' to convert the
people to 'greater love and fulfillment' while
still eating meat and live materialistic lives
without pushing for anything else, while the
guru's demand that you embrace those values of
being a vegetarian and sacrificing the material
possessiveness of the ego, in order to be really
successful in making another life (being
'reborn' for the New Time). The psychotherapist
is for the beginner, and the new age guru's are
for the advanced meditators. It is quite natural
to realize that meditation works step by step
better making more happy sharing and caring in
real non-violence and sacrifice.
The
Sextypes.
The
Loyal Ones
From the
previous paragraphs we realize to be modern
schizoids divided about our animal,
human and divine natures. Our sexuality that is
out of control with the modern of time could
find a culture of rebirth in the New Age of
selfrealization. With this rebirth we can see
the 'new' types of tantric sex that align with
the type of time respected. People for the
natural animalistic of sex learn to restore
their harmony and loyalty worshiping the real of
local cyclic and mystical sacred time forgetting
the 'system' of standardtime and its political
and economic dictates. These people are of
attachment to a partner and can restore within
their marriages to the authentic of their happy
natural and local social selves. They do their
meditations and their sex at the same time
learning that getting older together it is
necessary to keep the original love, but that it
also implicates to forget the original desire to
accomplish, bear fruit or have a (orgiastic)
result. The children are born already, the
career is there already and the possessions
suffice. They maintain the original bond and it
is they who can persevere also in the material
sphere.
The
Hero's
The following
category are the real hero's.
They
dare to be human in the first place not clinging
to one partner or even one place. They dare the
confrontation with modern time and take the full
consequence of that aphrodisiac. They cannot
cling to anything really and depend solely on
the creativity of their selfrealization. They
make for communities and experiments in the
social sphere realizing that they have to cohere
with some kind of spiritual guidance. They
abridge the gap between the natural and the
cultural, the political and the scientific, the
religious and the spiritual selfrealization and
explore the possibilities of the new
consciousness. They are the ones with the new
style, the innovations and the new literature.
They are the light and hope for the ones who
turned away from society disappointed and
attached to the natural bond and locality. They
are the light and hope for the ones within the
system who suffer the limitations, diseases and
stress of the semi-divine halfwitted culture of
machines and schemes of profit and surplus
money-management. They are the ones who show
that the only way to have a right ego is to drop
a false one; that the conscious balancing
between the nature and the culture is the only
way to be a real holist in respect for all.
The
Devotees.
The devotees
are the real martyrs of modern time. They are
the ones who make the best out of the system of
modern time-respect without the will to change
it. Their sex is of the divine type: everything
that falls outside of 'dharma' or the righteous
duty they give up and all mind running out with
modern time they subject to rigorous preaching
and prayer. They
chant mantra's or prayers and sing and swing the
modern system until it rocks the heavens and
makes the angels slip. They are of the father
that gives the angels a new birth on this planet
in full awareness of the religious duties to
maintain a school of human values without which
the world is lost and can never restore its
peace and honor. It is their force and fortitude
that directs the present system into reform and
contemplation of its weaknesses. It is their
contribution to realize first the proper
discipline and only then opt for reforms in the
actual society and contribute to its progress.
Never again it may happen in the western world
that just a vague idea of being an 'aryan' or
civilized person can dominate on the basis of
speculations and bogus teaching alienated from
the authentic scriptural truths. Never again
they allow false authorities to rise and
dominate with racial theories that separate
humans of the same human race or with ideologies
that dominate and project their own weaknesses
moralizing without the proper discipline. They
are the ones to preach compassion and grace with
the losers, sinners, profiteers and offenders of
the faith who show goodness of will. It is they
who subject all distinctions of class and status
to the degree of commitment one has. It is from
their sex that children can be born that really
know how to deal with the system
itself.
Conclusion
The actual
conclusion is that modern sex is an important
agent of control and change. It adapts itself to
the culture at hand and time managed. The plea
is for the acceptance of this complete reality
of change and growth of individuals in the light
of a New Time and New World that is not based on
repression and denial as with the neurotic
unconscious and materialistic sex that just
wants to get rid for the money and is alienated
from the real of human values, love and
knowledge. Political reality of opposition and
quarrel may exist and will not be
revolutionarily attacked and altered. Only after
a long process of collective selfrealization in
the New Time that allows for all types of time,
we may hope to see a society growing with a
greater capacity for understanding and managing
the different types of people, their subcultures
and their sexuality. It is a society that will
restore its respect for the natural order
without losing touch with the human cause of
justice and duty and the divine rule guiding us.
There are
revolutions in the new
time,
but these are not the typically violent
political revolutions of materialistic ignorance
and envy about control. These are the
revolutions of self-realization that will only
later be fully reflected in politics. Only
slowly step by step political parties will be
just debating clubs in stead of institutes of
power and warfare. Only step by step humanity
will realize its true identity and order and
will have that order reflected in the government
and other institutions.
A.A.
Links:
The
Other Rules: Making Love
-
different subjects of sexuality discussed as a
set of rules for spiritual self-realization
(this site).
The
Church of Tantra
A large site
with information on sacred sex, Tantrik
publications, products, workshops and lots of
links to other related sites.
Sacred
Sex
Karezza,
Tantra and Sex Magic by cathrine yronwode, a web
site with beautiful sacred sex art objects and
other contributions
TantraWorks
(Nik Douglas)
An interactive
Tantra guide, data base and resource for loving
seekers of spiritual liberation, created by Nik
Douglas author of several important works on
Tantra including the best-seller, "Sexual
Secrets: The Alchemy of Ecstasy" and "Spiritual
Sex" (new release).
Sexuality
and Tantra
e-books:
Tantra does not advocate an epicurian or
libertine philosophy. Quite the contrary, the
practices which involve behavior which is
regarded by conventional Hinduism as 'sinful'
(such as eating meat, drinking alcohol, and
having sexual union), normally requiring
expatiatory behavior, are supposed to only be
engaged in by spiritually advanced practicioners
in the appropriate ritual context.
Hindu
Tantrik Home Page.
A Tantra
site by Mike Magee and associates, with
reliable information, many tantric
scriptures, translations of key texts, and
many Tantra links.
The
Tantra of the Great Liberation. (Mahanirvana
Tantra).
[1913] This is the best known of the
Tantric scriptures. It was translated by Sir
John Woodruffe (under the pseudonym 'Arthur
Avalon'), one of the few Indologists to gain
direct access to this obscure and secretive
branch of Hinduism. Framed as a conversation
between the god Shiva and goddess Shaki, this
text describes the chakra, or subtle energy
structure of the human body, ceremonies,
yogic practices and mantras for meditation,
and a summary of the Hindu laws (dharma)
regarding sexual behavior.
Kama
Sutra of Vatsayayana
This
is the earliest and best known of the Indian
sex manuals. It has been variously dated from
300 B.C. to 400 A.D. This translation was
published by the Kama Shastra Society in
1883.
The
Ananga Ranga
This
book was written by the Indian poet Kalyan
Mall much later than the Kama Sutra, in the
sixteenth century A.D. This translation was
published by the Kama Shastra Society in
1885.
The
Perfumed Garden
This
work was written in the 16th century A.D. by
the Shaykh Umar ibn Muhammed al-Nefzawi. The
translation is by Burton. This translation
was published by the Kama Shastra Society in
1886.
Study
sexual positions in
Flash
The
Erotic Universe and Personal Love
article
by By Georg Feuerstein
Sex,
Ascetism, and
Mythology:
article By Georg Feuerstein.
Tantra
Webring
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tantra Internet links